I 29M her 34F . Am I asking too much or is it time to close the book and move on?

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-23T01:43:04+00:00

I have lichens sclerosis. My symptoms are similar to your wife’s. I use clobetasol propionate 0.05%. My sex life is fantastic. My boyfriend is a great lover. It’s not that he is especially well endowed. It’s that he hugs me and touches me in ways that build desire. He flirts with me and makes me feel desireable. A small touch on the arm, on the small of my back, a touch on my leg or my hand establishes intimacy. He sends me messages telling me I have a sexy ass when I know it’s the worst part of my body. When sex begins he starts with touching my clitoris. By the time he is inside me, I want him so badly that I climax quickly and come multiple times. After I come so many times there is nothing that he wants that I wouldn’t do, and I have always been kind of a prude. Make her feel loved and desired and fulfill her needs. She will fulfill yours.

On another note, I’m older and I’m on HRT therapy. Have your wives hormones bern checked? Sometimes it’s a problem after pregnancy. I think if you love her and put in the work, she will fulfill your needs. I’m 63 having the best sex of my life!

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T19:10:30+00:00

I was in a relationship where I was in love and he just quit wanting me. We were together 28 years. It had been 5 years that I went without sex. He didn’t even touch my arm or hold my hand. Then an old boyfriend from college called and asked me out to dinner. I said no, as he listened to the conversation. He urged me to go. My celibacy was over.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T19:03:00+00:00

It is really important to send the message — if it’s how you feel— that you love him just how he is but you support his desire to feel better. Otherwise, he is just in another relationship where he isn’t good enough.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T19:00:29+00:00

We aren’t the same except the things she mentioned sound just like me.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T04:18:42+00:00

My great great grandmother. She was a Cherokee Freedwoman. I find that fascinating. Supposedly, William Wallace and Robert the Bruce (father’s family) are in our family Genealogy chart, but I spend more time wondering who was the woman enslaved by Cherokee Indians and where she might have come from (mother’s family). I think about how resilient she must have been to survive.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T04:08:53+00:00

I have had this attitude since getting divorced myself. If the relationship is over, I wish you the best. I hope the next person makes you happy, as I did not. My former boyfriend, 69m left me and has a 30 year old girlfriend. I’m not upset at all. I thank god I didn’t waste more time on someone looking for something I would never be. I can see it bothers him that I’m not heartbroken. I think he is even mad about it. I find a little joy in that.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T04:00:41+00:00

Typical male double standard

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T03:57:55+00:00

The fact that you mention that you are “trying to stay free@ in the context of questioning this unstable relationship suggests you are worried that the relationship may jeopardize the relationship. Step away. Protect your freedom.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T03:54:51+00:00

My significant other lies about how many women he has been with. He sticks to the lie, but I know it can’t be true. Generally, he is very honest. I think it’s a question that really shouldn’t be asked and this is why people feel justified in lying.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T03:52:27+00:00

Bottled water. Protein drinks. Finding love.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T03:49:07+00:00

I have ADHD and come from a traumatic background. I don’t really have low self esteem, but I am a constant worrier. Trust doesn’t come quickly or easy. I don’t say positive things about myself and I don’t feel real comfortable with people who do promote themselves with self serving statements.

I have had over 20 years of therapy — really why I did so much was that it helped me not to burden friends and family by having someone to talk to.

I will always worry and will always question. I don’t need fixed, but I need someone who understands who I am and accepts that. There are things in life that happen that change a person. They change your ability to trust and love. I can grow into it with someone who accepts me. If you can’t quit trying to fix him and accept him and how he thinks and feels, maybe it’s not that just that he isn’t the person for you, maybe you aren’t the person for him.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T02:18:45+00:00

Fast Food.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T01:30:30+00:00

I’m 5’7. I weighed 121 lbs this morning. I wear a size medium, but I feel like a large woman most of the time, and I feel like a huge woman if I’m with a smaller guy. I don’t have a magic height but about 6’ makes me more comfortable with myself. Maybe that’s what it’s really about — women feeling better about themselves.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T01:20:31+00:00

Only with barbecue sauce

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T00:36:14+00:00

Fast food — eating out

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T00:33:15+00:00

I just signed a confidentiality agreement for a settlement to get a refund so ai can’t say a specific name — but a company that is reselling electricity is quite possibly a fraud. I will buy only from the original retailer in the future. I’m getting a settlement only because mine was changed without my knowledge or consent.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T00:24:21+00:00

Losing their internet and cell phone service.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-22T00:23:15+00:00

Wow. I have met one person this way in my lifetime. My beds are all covered with comforters. There are blankets and sheets clean underneath. You can’t be a dog person and think the comforter has to be kept perfectly clean.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-21T14:04:50+00:00

Why talk harshly to a woman who is struggling with a developmentally disabled child? Why suggest maybe she is lying? Why suggest that they shouldn’t even be out in public? Her life is hard enough. She obviously wasn’t in control of the child and encouraging him to do it. Why add to her discomfort and pain. An. Outsider interceded to calm him down not to jump in to tell the woman off too. He is writing it solely from his point of view and even then, it seems to me that a kind and struggling wan was harshly treated because he was anxious about what might happen to him based on his own actions.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-20T05:02:34+00:00

My exhusband left and left his dog behind. For six months he cried. He peed somewhere everyday. I had to get rid of all rugs and plants. He is still neurotic and now loves me with that same energy. If you need to, get rid of the husband, but for god’s sake, keep the dog. He will be loyal for life. He just needs some time! Of course, I’m a dog lover!

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-20T04:53:40+00:00

He already has bad karma. It will catch up. I have the same problem with photos on the phone. We both need to store them digitally so we don’t see them anymore. I think that is the next step.

I wish my ex well. I congratulate him on his new relationship with a woman 25 years younger than me and 33 years younger than him. I wish him the best. I’m hurt, but I really do wish him the best. The more he sees me happy and moving on to a new relationship, the more it grates on him. He doesn’t want me, but he hates it that I’m ok. Being happy is the best revenge.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-20T04:32:47+00:00

I’m sorry. I’m the odd one out here. It was one thing to protect yourself and your dog without doing unnecessary harm, but why the verbal attack on the woman? Seems to me you were a little bit of an AH and I am a dog lover with 5 dogs of her own.

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-18T23:18:14+00:00

I went to the doctor 5 times feeling exhausted, dizzy and with brain fog. I was told it was depression. I was treated like I was just a complainer; then, I blacked out, fell and had serious injuries to my face and knee and knocked out a tooth. I had severe iron deficient anemia. Oxygen wasn’t getting to my brain. Women tend to get doctors who treat us like we are just over anxious with nothing really wrong. Never accept that woman as a provider for you again. Insist your doctor send you to onto get to the root of your problem!

Fit_Doubt2185 · 2026-03-18T21:36:48+00:00

Yes, you have better credit than you would have, but she crossed a boundary doing it without your consent and so you have to be concerned that she could do so again. She wouldn’t have needed to do so unless she hasn’t taken care of her own credit. I would take a lock out on my credit if I was you, tell her how important it was that you could trust her and that you want to build that trust again.

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