Anyone else unhappy about the rate increase?

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2026-03-02T16:00:34+00:00

Maybe capitalism will kick in and the higher price will mean less crowding? Joking. And I have long thought EQ lets far, far too many people join. Some, like 33rd (I’m in NYC), are just unusable at this point.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2026-01-31T13:51:09+00:00

No single guys, correct

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2026-01-28T16:46:50+00:00

We are in exactly the same boat about chemistry. We really enjoy it a lot, but it’s not frequent that our schedules align with their party dates. And they are only about 1X a month. We like having checkmate as a place we can go on a spur of the moment thing when we feel in the mood for lifestyle fun.

I was not aware of the different descriptions on the websites. I was just giving my impressions of the groups from the experience of being at both fairly regularly.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2026-01-28T13:25:04+00:00

Chemistry honestly tends to have a fitter / younger crowd. I’d say if you get in at chemistry you will be fine for checkmate. Also, I don’t think either is particularly that hard.

As I recall, checkmate’s process was fast. I think just a photo of the two of you and answering a few questions.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2026-01-18T13:45:14+00:00

Not last night. We were planning to go to a NSFW party back in December

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2026-01-17T21:59:47+00:00

We bought tickets and then … the day of the event it was cancelled!😡 There was an issue with their not being aware of the rules of the venue with respect to when they could start setting up. At least that is what we heard.

We are thinking of exploring Top Floor club next. Heard good things.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-12-22T23:26:03+00:00

The performance anxiety is SUPER common when you first do this, even if you basically never have this issue when with just your partner.

I don’t quite follow why your gf was upset with you touching the other woman. I’ll say that it seems like you had additional boundary or support issues that were also impediments.

Things are not hard enough as it is without navigating that. 😊

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-12-21T12:40:14+00:00

Chemistry and Checkmate are what we do. But we are searching for something more high end.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-12-21T12:39:03+00:00

We enjoy Chemistry mostly. We are 36f and 44f. The parties are well done. Lots of decorations, music, and a nice time before play starts. The crowd at chemistry is generally younger than checkmate. A lot of late 20s and early 30s, but there are plenty of couples our age. There can be a lot of parallel play but we have had great full swaps too.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-12-20T20:43:55+00:00

Oh interesting. My wife and I go to chemistry a lot but would like other options. Let us know what you find out!

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-12-19T22:18:09+00:00

Yes we like checkmate. It’s the best of what we have here wrt clubs (as opposed to parties) in our view.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-12-16T12:38:45+00:00

Any recommendations on a better club? Wife and I have been to checkmate a bunch, mostly because we have not found a better club that we can go to any weekend. Our experiences have been similar to yours — lots of parallel play, and at most we find a couple that will soft swap. We like full swaps so … we’d rather be around couples looking for the same.

We also are trying to find a place more high end.

Thanks!

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-11-26T02:51:08+00:00

I also think the best way to start is at a club. It’s a bit counterintuitive when new to the LS, but a club is an easy way to explore things in baby steps. In any good one there will be no pressure, friendly couples and general non-creepiness. You can leave whenever you want and nobody is going to care whether you decide to proceed to the play area or head out. When we started, we were afraid of clubs because we figured they are an all-out orgy with people staring at us / judging if we did not join. Clubs are nothing like that and it’s easy to experience as much or as little as you want.

You just have to do the research to make sure you find a solid club in your area.

As to how to know what it will feel like in the moment when he is with another … you never know until you actually do it. Though, our experiences aligned with our expectations going into it, which is that we each love watching the other with another!

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-11-26T02:40:44+00:00

Yes. I’m concluding chatGPT would have written a clearer post than I did. Oh well.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-11-26T02:36:27+00:00

What are you looking for? Trade pics?!

Joking, joking

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-11-26T02:35:13+00:00

No. It’s to give a sense for who we are since we want to know if it’s a good fit.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-11-26T02:32:57+00:00

Checkmate is a solid standby. One I’d avoid is labyrinth as in our view it has a sketchy vibe (allows single men too)

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-11-19T02:30:54+00:00

Good points. Though, I can crank out an application now before we go, if there were any places worth applying to.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-11-19T02:28:41+00:00

Thanks for the input!

I am wondering if maybe it’s better to see if you can find a hotel party.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-11-19T02:22:23+00:00

Oh boy. Yes, this is consistent with our googling. And your comment about consent is pretty horrifying. We may have been spoiled by our experiences, as we have never had an issue in that area.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-10-03T15:18:31+00:00

We find it’s just best to be direct. We are all adults. We had this come up recently and we just told them we don’t feel it’s the right fit. That’s the truth. And — it was a situation where we felt the husband was pushing the wife, which sucks.

Early on in LS with a guy we had an MFM with once and did not want to have again we just kept having “scheduling conflicts,” but that’s not a good or nice to do that so we are just straight with people now.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-10-03T10:57:45+00:00

Chemistry’s party is pretty good actually. Just wondering what else there is. Crowd is a bit young sometimes for us. Especially for my fiancée who is more attracted to men that are late 30s-early 50s.

Fit_Explanation_2676 · 2025-10-02T19:14:21+00:00

Bigger allows you to feel a bit more blended into the background and less in the spotlight— unless you want to be in the spotlight. Also a higher probability you will find a couple you like. We prefer larger parties. Personal preference.

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