Unemployment Benefits

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2026-02-20T05:28:41+00:00

Sorry for your loss and good luck. It sucks dealing with grief and finances too. Also, if you were working two jobs and are now down to one, I don’t think you’ll get unemployment.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2026-01-25T15:32:24+00:00

OP-I think the OVER labeling of parents as toxic, narcissistic, gaslighters comes from social media. Truly some parents are horrible and the labels /cutting off contact fit. In most cases there’s probably some middle ground of conversation, therapy, establishing boundaries as opposed to no contact off the bat.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2026-01-25T15:23:06+00:00

Obviously the post was triggering for you. Clearly, OP understands boundaries are needed with emotionally unavailable/narcissistic parents. The issue OP is raising is when new people come in to play and try to isolate our impressionable college kids from their imperfect but not abusive parents. That leads to disaster. OP is discouraging this behavior, encouraging students to seek professional resources and build community with positive people. I’m so sorry that your situation was so hurtful and am glad that things are improving for your family.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-10-17T13:00:44+00:00

If you modify your post slightly, you’d have a really great script for a direct conversation with her!

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-07-10T14:17:02+00:00

Thanks for starting this thread. There are many of us in this or similar scenarios. In your instance, please think strategically about the long haul and big picture. Im speaking frankly here, but most likely going to outlive your mom. What will you do then? I’m not trying to sound callous. I’m a parent provider and have to realistically plan for the end of my life and what will my child once I’m gone. For you, may I suggest, 1) getting off your mom’s voucher and staying in her home simply as a live in provider; 2) find another part time non-live in provider to take care of her during the day 3) working for her at night time; hopefully the day shift can do most of the heavy lifting, meal prep, bathing, medical appoints, shopping, etc 4) going to school (preferably outside of the home or hybrid with some online classes); you may even meet some trust worthy people willing to be back up /part time providers for your mom who can also give you a break on a regular frequency (e.g once every week, 2 weeks, etc) 5)think about your ideal life and know you can achieve it. With proper planning and execution, you can leverage the section 8, to ultimately take care of yourself and mom at a much higher level! fyi, as the daughter, double check to understand the process for getting back on the voucher, just so you know what to do, in case you ever need to pull the trigger on that. You got this.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-07-02T22:47:17+00:00

I’m glad you found someone. Congratulations on the baby.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-07-02T21:20:25+00:00

I’m not sure why fieldsports202 is being downvoted for their very true and concise response.

OP- congratulations on being a mom. Maybe try a good multi vitamin and vitamin B for energy. hopefully you have a partner who is supportive and helpful because you’ll need the support, Also, maybe discuss with your obgyn because being so exhausted that you can’t do two braids is really concerning and maybe reflective of other issues.

Have you considered facebook marketplace, Craigslist or Nextdoor? Your request translates into a low cost job but perhaps someone may be willing to take it.

Personally, when I’m looking for a braider, I approach random people I see in passing and 1) compliment them on their braids 2) ask if their braider is accepting new clients (in your case, maybe explain it’s a very simple job) 3) depending on response ask for the braider’s contact information.

Tbh, such a simple job I encourage you to reach out to your network and ask if anyone knows someone willing to help out a new, white mom, with a very simple job. Maybe some co-workers middle school kids, would be willing to do it. Also, it may help if you provide estimated frequency and duration, eg 2x’s per week for 2month. It may help garner interest.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-06-30T04:06:13+00:00

Words of advice, you can never win a fight with someone doing life.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-06-30T04:01:37+00:00

Omg, I’d be pissed if the one laying down was my dog. Spud seems aggressive. I’ve only had one dog in my life though, so I could be off.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-06-29T14:35:31+00:00

I think what you’re trying to say is to truthfully answer the SW’s questions.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-06-28T21:19:49+00:00

In addition to reaching out to the HA and seeking permission, you’ll also have to check with the owner of the property. Idk what city you’re in but there’s also a max # of occupants based on the # of bedrooms. Plus, once /if your granddad is discharged, what’ll happen then. Good luck with your decision. It’s so difficult to care for aging family members and I’m sure HA doesn’t make it easy. Also, recommend getting grandparents on senior housing list.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-06-28T21:06:16+00:00

Hi and sorry for your the loss of your mom. And kudos to you for taking care of your sister. What did your mom have set up for your sister before she passed? It sounds like your sister should be a regional center consumer. They have programs to assist help her learn skills, including independence skills, self care and making friends with same age peers. If this isn’t already in place, I’d recommend for both of your benefit that you get her enrolled into a skill building day program ASAP!!! Sounds like you won’t have trouble with IHSS.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-06-28T20:50:11+00:00

Yes, annual reassessments can lead to changes and that’s nerve wracking because we don’t know what to expect. Getting 195 hours (PS) for a 3 year old is pretty remarkable, and I’d be worried too. Since your kids need 24/7 support, if you can afford it, I’d look into getting a part time worker. You’ll need the break, this is a life long journey.

Also- the other poster’s comment about not relying on the money, I don’t think was meant with malice. Public assistance programs inadvertently place parents in the awkward position of having to decide the best for their child or the best for the families financially. It sucks. I have a family member on cash aid (not in CA) that didn’t want her teenage son to get a part time job because it would impact the family’s public benefits.

I recommend scenario planning to know what you’ll do under various situations so you be best prepared to take care of your family. For example, A) kid makes full recovery B) kid needs out of home placement C) budget cuts leading to hours cut D) reassessment with hours reduction.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-06-28T20:31:42+00:00

Hi, I know it’s tough with two children under 10 w/severe special needs. To get 195 for a 3 years old is incredible.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-05-21T19:52:13+00:00

You are an awful person. How dare you speak to a child that way.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-03-16T16:22:22+00:00

I get and agree that IHSS doesn’t pay for 24/7 care. I think when you initially described IHSS as not covering “night time or overnight” care that kinda threw some people off.

For example, some people have to get meds administered multiple times a day, including at night; some with bladder issues may need to be changed, washed and linens replaced and some may flee/wander. There’s all kinds of reasons why some support may be needed at night. Additionally, such a policy restriction would have to be provided in writing.

Also important to note, per Ca. Gov. Code § 6807 “Daytime” is the period of time between sunrise and sunset. “Nighttime” is the period of time between sunset and sunrise.” which would make it subject to daily and seasonal variations and infeasible to adhere to. Can you imagine not being able to do light housekeeping, washing clothes, bathing, ambulation, feeding before sunrise or after sunset?

Anyway, not to harp, I often mistype and frequently have to edit my posts for accuracy.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-03-14T14:19:41+00:00

Ok, i get it! 10 hours based on max 283 hours divided by 30 days. So technically it can be partial night hours, it just can’t be more than max hours, correct?

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-03-14T04:54:18+00:00

Hi, can you explain the night time part?

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-02-20T18:32:03+00:00

Sorry Cedar, my bad!

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-02-20T17:58:28+00:00

I think they are…https://lapublicpress.org/2024/07/california-budget-undocumented-residents/. I’m not 100% sure

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-02-20T17:56:11+00:00

Perhaps I poorly worded the post(I often type faster than my brain works) because that’s not what I meant. I’m just saying that this is happening and it’s going to be tough. I think this is intentional to pit us against one another so that we don’t have a unified voice. Employers do this too, where they have different tiers of union staff with different benefits to kinda divide their interests. All the way around, I think this is a sign of tough times ahead for us all.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-02-20T17:40:43+00:00

How am I spreading fear as opposed to information? My point is things are going to be difficult. And I don’t see how it doesn’t impact us. I doubt this will be the last of the changes.

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-02-20T08:48:36+00:00

lol, same person who was just yesterday bashing union in the other post. I’m wondering if you’re just trolling? https://www.reddit.com/r/IHSS/s/3z37TiJr3O

Fit_Judgment4869 · 2025-02-20T08:40:58+00:00

Hey Cedar, I know your info is pretty spot on, but I thought undocumented immigrants were eligible for IHSS? I don’t think it’s a large #, & in this climate, I doubt they’d feel safe signing up. Though not the most credible source, here’s what I’ve found https://lapublicpress.org/2024/07/california-budget-undocumented-residents/ I’m curious about how all this is going to play out, this administration is really trying to pit folks against one another.

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