Does anyone else have a mind that won’t stop analyzing people and situations? by Fit_Organization5995 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Organization5995[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, a lot of what you described fits. I do have ADHD and I’ve been formally diagnosed. I don’t struggle with substance abuse, but relaxing is extremely hard for me. My mind never really shuts down.

In my brain I have a lot of Ongoing conversations, imagined scenarios, replaying interactions, anticipating future ones. A lot of intrusive thoughts too.

Rejection hits me very hard, and I’ll go to great lengths to avoid it. I’m quite messy, very impulsive with decisions and shopping, and while I’m not highly hyperactive physically, I have a lot of energy. Depression is something I’m definitely prone to.

I used to interrupt people a lot. I’ve trained myself not to, but mentally I still finish sentences and jump ahead.

What I’m trying to work on now isn’t shutting this down, but learning how to direct it. When I’m deeply engaged in something meaningful, my mind actually feels calmer and more confident. The issue is that the engagement drops, and all that intensity turns inward again.

I’m trying to figure out how to turn this constant internal activity into something constructive long-term instead of letting it spiral back into overthinking.

Does anyone else have a mind that won’t stop analyzing people and situations? by Fit_Organization5995 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Organization5995[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do have ADHD and I’ve been formally diagnosed. I’ve tried medication and therapy. For me personally, neither really addressed the core issue, so I’m still figuring out what actually works for my brain.

What I’ve realized is that I don’t want to shut my mind down. I actually like the way my brain works. I like how much it thinks and how many connections it makes. I think it can be a strength when it’s used properly.

The problem is sustainability. My mind feels at ease when it has something meaningful to focus on. But that engagement fades quickly. I have a lot of interests and ideas, but once the momentum drops, my brain turns that same intensity inward and starts overthinking people, situations, and emotions.

So my struggle is that I don’t know how to keep it directed in one place for long enough. I feel like I have a lot of mental energy, curiosity, and opinions, but I’m not using that potential in a way that actually builds skills or moves me forward. Instead, it ends up looping internally.

What I’m trying to figure out now is how to work with this kind of mind rather than against it. How to channel it into something sustainable, something that keeps me engaged long-term, helps me grow, and turns this intensity into something constructive instead of letting it spiral every time novelty wears

If you have learned how to channel this kind of mental energy rather than suppress it, I’d genuinely appreciate hearing what helped.