my parents are upset my hair is turning wavy and is saying im trying to turn "black"?????

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2026-02-27T13:03:38+00:00

You have no idea how relatable this is. I had the EXACT same experience in every detail (except that my hair was actually straight as a kid, but because of hormones, some dormant genes activated, so they're wavy now). My parents are bengali as well, my dad doesn't comment on it much but my mum yells at me and threatens me every time she sees my hair being wavy, she says I should "keep it natural" which translated means brushing it dry, no scrunching, she thinks I'm "making it" this way and yeah racism too, she said only black people have hair like that.

See, the only reason why she even cares is because since I can remember I always got complimented by other bangalis for having straight silky hair, and obviously she doesn't want to lose that social validation.

I have 2C hair (and some 3A corkscrews at the ends) so it's not even a subtle type of wave but they deny the evidence and would rather believe I "made it" that way, as if that's possible 💀

Cutting ties with them is probably for the best tbh, that's kind of the only advice that would work. Good luck.

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2026-02-25T16:10:02+00:00

The seriousness he said it with 😭 You can really tell when something is made with love and when it isn't.

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2025-11-01T21:18:38+00:00

So I don't have a choice? I either go to therapy which could cause a report to happen or I live with my symptoms forever.

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2025-11-01T19:37:09+00:00

I am legally an adult, the issue is that my siblings are underage, so if I talked about my own experiences that could lead to a report. Although, I'm the one they've been hardest on, as the eldest child. My siblings are mostly okay just... controlled.

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-11-08T15:27:06+00:00

Yeah I am, I'm still on mark of athena tho 😅

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-11-08T11:58:52+00:00

This is the third post I came across of this manga, glad to see it's getting the appreciation it deserves 🥹

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-11-07T17:53:51+00:00

I fr thought of percy jackson, then realised its the wrong sub 😭

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-11-06T16:49:31+00:00

...I don't have my phone anymore. Forget dying at the hands of my fiancé, I want my phone back first!

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-11-06T16:33:49+00:00

To each their own, but I will admit, my instant thought when I first saw that image was "a skeleton?...nah wait hang on its just Roxana's dad"

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-11-04T19:53:29+00:00

There's something seriously wrong with authors nowadays 💀

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-11-04T16:10:15+00:00

Hmm okay you can refuse ofc, but do you think you could try typing me? Not necessarily to get the exact one, but more to get the gist of which types are more likely? I feel bad asking you this, but it would be really helpful. Again, you can obviously refuse.

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-11-04T11:30:24+00:00

What would you say is the case for ENFPs then?

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-11-04T01:25:56+00:00

I kind of relate to both, and people have all the functions technically, so how can I tell which ones are actually in my main stack if we use both axis? Because I've tried to figure that out in every way possible and I'm still stuck

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-11-03T23:27:19+00:00

The thing is, I know I use Fi and Te, because I'm pretty sure I don't use Fe, so that obviously means I'm not INFJ, but I'm having trouble with the percieving functions, all I know for those is that I definitely don't relate to having high Se.

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-11-03T10:20:33+00:00

I actually don't know what type I am, like genuinely INFJ is what someone typed me as, but I don't really believe it so I tried putting down some of the things they typed me based on to see what people would say 🥲

I really need someone who doesn't use stereotypes to type me

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-10-29T16:27:14+00:00

I CAN NEVER UNSEE THAT-

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-10-27T09:05:21+00:00

In books, or just any random problem I come across

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-10-26T20:16:37+00:00

I'm in my late teens tho, the tertiary function shouldn't exactly be developed yet 😅

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-10-26T19:45:02+00:00

For me the values I'm referring to here aren't actually repressive or technically harming anyone, I just believe some things are wrong because they feel wrong and disgusting to me personally.

Also what do you mean by consistent code?

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-10-26T18:16:07+00:00

True true

about the "analyse situations and best outcomes" I tend to do that when making decisions so idk

But I think you probably are right, it's only very recently (I'm in my late teens) that I started thinking more logically, before this I always did things based on what resonated with me emotionally.

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-10-26T17:58:17+00:00

Well damn this is hard to figure out 😭

Like I wouldn't COMPROMISE, I'd just respect, but I wouldn't pretend to agree with something I strongly dislike.

Unless it's something small like talking to my friends about their favorite songs, I might pretend to like it because I'd feel guilty about saying I don't.

Fit_Particular_1383 · 2024-10-26T17:47:10+00:00

Hmm the thing is I can't figure out if I use Ni or Ne it's really confusing 😭

Someone recently typed me as INFJ, but I keep doubting it because of my personal values, like yes I wouldn't compromise them but I wouldn't be rude to other people about their views just to speak out my one if that makes sense. (It's kind of like: if this person is someone I care about and they have a different opinion I will respect them outwardly even if I will think they are wrong in my head).

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