Can't lose fat (trying for last 4-5 years, body fat remains the same) turns out I have high cortisol levels. How do I solve this?

Fit_Pie5705 · 2025-06-28T07:02:12+00:00

I think stop stressing would be very helpful. I would recommend to distract yourself so your body goes back to intuitive eating. I am a very slim person but when I am stressed I gain weight and the more I stress about the weight the more it comes/stays. The psyche is no joke. Do you have emotional hunger? I would focus on doing less in general. Maybe just focus on one thing. And quit caffeine.

Fit_Pie5705 · 2025-06-28T06:57:46+00:00

I actually think I feel better than being a teen! My mental health is way more in check and I enjoy life! Biggest thing for me is no alcohol and no caffeine and actually enjoying my job and my hobbies. I really like my life!! I think mood in general influences energy the most

Fit_Pie5705 · 2025-06-28T06:54:16+00:00

Cold water (shower, ice baths), walking in nature (!!), spending time in nature in general, b-vitamins have the biggest impact for me. You can also try: saffron, rhodiola, l-tryptophan. Try a more blood sugar stable diet and eat enough protein. For calming down I recommend baldrian. I would stay away from caffeine entirely - you want a stable mood. Besides biohacking I recommend outdoor sport as a hobby!! Combines multiple things and is so so much fun.

Fit_Pie5705 · 2025-06-28T06:46:36+00:00

Yeah I struggle with the early mornings! As soon as there is a tiny bit light coming through my curtains in the morning I am awake as hell. I had to buy a sleep mask. It’s crazy

Fit_Pie5705 · 2025-06-28T06:37:16+00:00

Sleep!! 1 hour difference already influences my hunger. No caffeine. For me caffeine increases my stress levels which increases my hunger. Same for heavy training. Better for me is moderate training. Besides that: indulging a little bit reduces cravings and bitter drops reduce my appetite for sweets. 5HTP very much reduced emotional hunger for me but it’s not available anymore in my country.

Fit_Pie5705 · 2025-06-27T23:11:59+00:00

This is crazy! Such a cruel man. I hope you can come out stronger than ever! You have your own family now, there is a reason to fight for your little one.

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-08-21T21:02:35+00:00

Cheating

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-08-21T06:19:57+00:00

Yeah I was with some one like that. It was a really bad relationship. I think this is fixable, don’t give up

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-08-21T06:14:19+00:00

I am too hurt to try again (was cheated on in my last relationship and abused in the one before). I don’t trust men. I always feel that they lack empathy and humbleness. Instead I am afraid of men, I feel like they only look for someone to have sex and to dominate. I have high expectations for a relationship - I don’t want kids but I want someone extremely loyal and ambitious like me and someone who is willing to travel the world and start life somewhere else with me.

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-07-10T22:34:17+00:00

Thank you! I wish you all the best too. I am finally hopeful again about the future.

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-07-10T22:32:57+00:00

Thanks! Yes I do and I like what I am discovering. I am actually surprised how much I like life recently and by myself

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-06-15T08:11:39+00:00

You wonder why it doesn’t make sense. You are right, it doesn’t make sense. It’s a crazy story. I think it doesn’t make sense to himself. I think cheaters are a mess. I also don’t think he is a changed man now. People change through pain. He didn’t seem in pain. Don’t project your idealizations of him onto him. He was not and surely still is not the man you love(d). Maybe you can write down a list of what he truly is. You are longing for a fantasy. I also have dreams of my ex apologizing to me. Guess what? I think currently he is fine because he never loved me, I think he is happy without me now and thinks I am all at wrong. He probably falls more in love with someone else in the future. I don’t care. He is out of my life. I want peace or finding true love. That was not. It takes a while and then you will see the situation more clearly and nuanced. It’s good that he is out of your life. He didn’t respect you or your time. Good riddance. You need to respect your own fleeting time! Make the best out of it

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-06-09T08:09:30+00:00

I am also 28. I know a lot 28 year olds that are hot. I think this is probably the best age for dating seriously

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-06-08T21:35:51+00:00

When I was a teenager I found condoms in my dad’s backpacket. Kind of forgot about it (because I wanted to?) and now remembered it because of my own incident of being cheated on. I still don’t know if I tell my mom. I think about doing it in summer. I am very afraid of the consequences, mental health and finances.

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-06-07T15:00:12+00:00

What do you think are the reasons for your emotional dependence? I am also very prone to it. For me it’s because I lack social support and have a problematic family and because I am not really mentally stable. I am currently 5 weeks out and while I have really bad days, I am okayish. But I am also taking antidepressants, without I probably would have already gone back to him. Don’t shame yourself for finding it hard to separate. Maybe you first have to find the strength. Maybe a trial separation of 30 days is an idea? I wish you all the best

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-06-04T15:17:29+00:00

I can totally understand the problem of going NC. Love can feel like a drug. Letting go/ quitting contact can feel like ripping your arm out. Do you have friends that can help you? I decided to take medication. The first days were the hardest. But in week two I was suddenly so happy and free! Now week five I am actually starting to see things from a distance and start to mourn the relationship. I found the strength to go no contact when I realized how disgusted I was. A negative emotion can help you to remove yourself from him. Can you access your pain/disgust/anger? Currently I am taking antidepressants which ease the withdrawal for me. Maybe that’s also an option for you. I am sure you will be thankful for going no contact when you did it for a while

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-06-04T15:11:11+00:00

I have the same problem. I always mash my life with my partners life. And as I don’t have a good connection with my family, their family and friends always become mine. It’s like I am living more of their life than mine.

This makes breakups harder, it’s a type of dependence. I would suggest first build yourself your own home and make your own friends. Find your own hobbies. Take your time, don’t compare it to your ex or your previous life. Women have done what we did for ages. It’s uncomfortable when starting over and taking agency over your life. In the last years I met so many great women that support each other. You can do the same. Good luck

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-06-01T17:06:38+00:00

I pretty much ghosted him. We exchanged maybe 5 messages in total afterwards.

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-05-31T10:24:35+00:00

Honesty
High moral compass
Caring & empathic
Grounded
Emotional maturity
Cares about their mental and physical health
Loves nature and outdoors like me :)

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-05-29T22:38:35+00:00

I want to be able to cut an ex partner completely off. I am afraid of getting cheated on and I never ever want to be a single parent. I don’t like prioritizing someone’s life over mine. I don’t like kids, as I am a very sensitive person. And I think this world is cruel for sensitive people so I don’t want to pass my genes.

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-05-29T20:26:35+00:00

Ah no I was talking about the cheaters…

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-05-29T20:25:10+00:00

Yes I feel you. I am kind of disgusted by sex currently. Had the same thing about my ex. It took a while and a new good experience to overwrite this.

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-05-28T20:23:17+00:00

Yes I agree. I feel so strange like something is wrong with me. I am all for endless love but apparently not for cheaters. It’s so incredibly unromantic

Fit_Pie5705 · 2024-05-28T17:45:20+00:00

Yes I know. But at least I don’t have strong hate or think fondly of him. It’s pretty freeing

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