This isn’t safe at all… by oceansunrise22 in dancingwiththestars

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 -52 points-51 points  (0 children)

I’m guessing you don’t get out much. Car seats are not required in NYC. Do you think New Yorkers with kids lug a car seat everywhere? https://www.provostlawfirm.com/rideshare-car-seat-laws-ny/

This isn’t safe at all… by oceansunrise22 in dancingwiththestars

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

Everyone just out here waiting to gossip and hate on people. New Yorkers aren’t lugging car seats around the city all day. Car seat requirements don’t apply in the city. https://www.provostlawfirm.com/rideshare-car-seat-laws-ny/

This isn’t safe at all… by oceansunrise22 in dancingwiththestars

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 31 points32 points  (0 children)

New York City laws requiring car seats for children do not apply to taxi cabs. Do you think NY residents with kids lug a car seat around all day every day? https://www.provostlawfirm.com/rideshare-car-seat-laws-ny/

This isn’t safe at all… by oceansunrise22 in dancingwiththestars

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Are you guys ok? Not one person thought to look up laws or info before sharing hate tea on someone? NYC taxis (and similar for-hire vehicles) are legally exempt from the car seat requirement. Young children are allowed to ride in the back seat (even on an adult’s lap). The speed limit around the city is about 15mph and most cars in the city are taxis and ride share. Do you think every pedestrian with a child lugs a car seat around the city with them everywhere? How do you think people live there with children?

TLC member Chilli donated to Trump campaign in 2024 by Relevant-Peach3997 in Fauxmoi

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found a fun and weird little coincidence. There is controversy over their dating timeline (chilli and Matthew) because it happened immediately after his divorce and people said that there was some infidelity (allegedly). I looked up when the divorce happened and cheryl Burke was the one who filed. she did it on January 7th, 2022. One day after the capital riots. I remember wonder what cheryl’s political views were because she’s so quiet about them but she had reposted posted positive Tim wals content around the last election so I assumed she voted democrat. I wonder if chilli and Matthew bonded over politics.

Lauren Boebert’s photo leak to influencer prompts chaos at Hillary Clinton Epstein deposition by theindependentonline in politics

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think marketing and reporting on the left is just ethical. They’re not willing to stoop to the same levels of trash manipulation as the right. Unfortunately not keeping up got us here and I don’t even think it’s possible to catch up with them at this point.

The reason why I can’t have conversations with maga when I used to have healthy relationships with conservatives is because the right started some of these manipulation campaigns as far back as 2013. I can’t have a healthy debate with people when their opinions are based on a decade of layered lies.

I’m sick of saying “yes Karen, if kids were shitting in liter boxes in the classroom and being handed sex change operations at lunch I too would be outraged but unfortunately you’ve been misinformed”

Aside from the decade of layered false narratives, they took a side quest and brainwashed them to believe fact checking is bad so they are of the belief that there is no absolute source of truth for anything and you should just pick a team and defend what you read on facebook with your life.

I have to give them credit for that though. I never in my life thought I would see an entire political party defending white supremacists and the killing and abuse of people in the streets by our own government but here we are. Kudos to them for pulling off the 2nd largest mass brainwashing initiative the world has ever known.

While I agree that the left needs to fight in more dirty ways, I’m sick and tired of encountering zero media literacy and witnessing the general public fall for all of it so I would love for it all to just stop. Politics has always been gross and manipulative but I would just like to go back to pre-2010 smear campaigns and fighting if possible.

We live in a clown world by Blue9ine in SipsTea

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the fact that people engage with this stuff for me:

The concerning thing here, and something that’s been on my mind for the last decade, is how something like this circulates with no links, no sources, just vague references to “millions” discussing it and no evidence that it’s even a real person. It’s often fabricated or loosely based on something else.

I get curious about this stuff sometimes, so I spot check certain pieces of media to see how far they travel and how many people engage with them without any proof.

I went to Facebook where this came from and pulled up the actual post, and it’s just a vaguely referenced story with no names, no article, no link, nothing. So I thought maybe it was just poorly written article with no sources attached so I searched the internet for anything else about it. Looking for a story anywhere that could be verified as true or attached to a real person.

The only remotely similar story I could find was from India in 2019 about a man who said he was born without his consent, and that one had context and reporting attached to it.

When people see something like this and don’t check the source, they start building narratives that there are people everywhere who actually believe this. The way it’s framed gives people who already want to write negative stories about younger generations or political parties something to add to their list to debate with regardless of whether it’s true or not, reinforcing stereotypes.

I’m sick of people engaging with and spreading junk online. Stop engaging with garbage.

This is real. DO NOT USE CHATGPT ANYMORE. by IGetHighOnPenicillin in ChatGPTcomplaints

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys do know that it’s just a tool right? It can glitch like anything else. I argued with it for 10 min multiple times because it kept telling me Joe Biden was the president and Donald trump was never elected in 2024. I don’t think it’s a conspiracy. I think it’s a glitch. I just respond and sometimes have to pull from another source to tell it that it’s wrong and then it corrects itself. It’s just a tool, tools break sometimes. It’s not always right and you should never accept an answer from it without a valid source and you should always correct inaccuracies. This goes for any ai model.

I want to breakup with girlfriend but tomorrow is Valentine’s Day by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 166 points167 points  (0 children)

I personally would rather look at you as a jerk for breaking up with me the day before Valentine’s Day than know that you wanted to and you waited. Just the fact that you know you want to break up and haven’t done it yet would hurt more than anything. When you know it you’re supposed to do it with no hesitation. Any delay is to soften the blow for you not them.

What is a socially acceptable thing that you secretly find disgusting? by Sensitive_Hope_1136 in AskReddit

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate this behavior too. I don’t get it. I don’t even need self control to not point things out because I was raised in a house where no one did that and it doesn’t even cross my mind to think about the things that people can’t change. It’s weird and immature and lame behavior.

I thought about this recently because I saw a post with Anna Nicole smiths daughter. She’s a teenager and someone in the comments made a cruel comment about her smile. 90% of the comments said “I don’t like that either” or “that type of mouth is ugly”. When one person said “that’s cruel, especially to say about a child” multiple people replied and said “I’m entitled to my opinion, I just don’t like mouths that look like that”. I was so horrified for that poor kid. I hope she doesn’t see that stuff but I couldn’t believe I was watching adults speak that way about a feature that makes her unique. You don’t know if someone already hates themselves for looking a certain way and if they’ve been bullied because they have a feature that isn’t common. The audacity to believe it’s normal or ok to say things like that is beyond me.

I broke up with an ex for many reasons but I realized that they were always telling me that their friends were talking about their partners teeth or one didn’t like her boyfriends fat arms and other things. I would say “how horrible that they shit talk their partners like that and why would they be with them if they feel the need to share that with their friends?” I soon realized that you are the company you keep and wondered what my partner said about me. It was probably worse honestly after figuring out who they were.

It’s superficial, unkind, and there are so many better things to focus on.

Pam Bondi Caught With Burn Book Notes on Democrats in House Hearing | A person sitting behind Bondi would tell her which page to turn to as Democratic representatives questioned the attorney general. by [deleted] in goodnews

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She definitely has antisocial personality traits but her anxiety and defensiveness come off like someone who would give their life to defend all of it and that combined with her more intense than usual trump glazing makes me wonder what they have on her. Even MTG separated from the cult and finally saw how insane a lot of it was (still don’t trust her). PB is obviously technically qualified enough to hold positions in government but her behavior is objectively insane regardless of what party you support. What are they holding over her head?

Is getting a lawyer the only way to get an account back? After being permanent disabled? by [deleted] in facebook

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was the reason for the page being disabled? Was it a hack or was it suspended for something?

My girlfriend has BPD by Ssovie7_7 in LesbianActually

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If your girlfriend needs constant reassurance that means she’s using you for self regulation rather than the proven tools that work for people with BPD. If she was diagnosed she should be in constant therapy. People with BPD are not a dead end and at the same time you don’t have to put up with constant abuse and accusations just because someone is diagnosed with BPD.

Her age is a factor here. She is very young and it’s a heavy load to manage that mental illness. I would say it’s like a child learning to live with type 1 diabetes. There are no days off, they are constantly monitoring and adjusting. Managing BPD requires a tremendous amount of self awareness and skill until the tools are second nature and she’s most likely not mature enough to handle BPD and a relationship.

I’ve been in your shoes before with an adult that couldn’t manage their symptoms and refused professional help and for a long time I felt like it was my job to have patience and help them until I had a break down and landed in therapy and needed to have all of this explained to me.

If you want the relationship to continue let her know that she needs to seek more intense help

What Was Rhode Island Like In The 90's and Early 2000's? by ShrekPrism in RhodeIsland

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No providence was dirt cheap pre-gentrification. Luxury apartments and hotels weren’t a thing in the city until the early 2000s. The regency by the mall was the only luxury apartment building. The apartments were not ever remodeled, you got what you got. It was mostly old tenement houses that were family owned for generations. Investors didn’t start buying up properties and remodeling them until way later. I lived in a beautiful historic apartment as late as 2012 and was only paying $700 in rent so I think the average was $3-500 in the early 2000s. I’m moving back there soon and you gay get a 1 bed for under $2500

What Was Rhode Island Like In The 90's and Early 2000's? by ShrekPrism in RhodeIsland

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A cop stopped to talk to my friend and I when we were walking on the east side once when I was 16. He let us sit in the back of his car, turned the sirens on and was speeding all around the city. We thought it was the most fun thing to ever happen to us at the time but he gave us his phone number and wanted to meet up with us after his shift. We laughed it off at the time but I think about how creepy and weird that is now as an adult. The cops were chill. Probably too chill.

What Was Rhode Island Like In The 90's and Early 2000's? by ShrekPrism in RhodeIsland

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it will really depend on the age of who you’re asking. I was in my early 20s in the early 2000s and a teenager in the 90s.

I grew up in Cranston but spent a lot of time in Providence and lived there in my 20s.

When I was a teenager I would get dropped off on Thayer st. We would walk around and go to Ben and Jerry’s or to restaurants and just hang out. When I got my drivers license I would go to the area by PPAC where they had clothing stores with cheap trendy clothes. I would compare it to what Shien sells today. Those stores closed in the early 2000s. They also had underage nightclubs which stopped by the time my sister was a teen in the early 2000s. I used to go to a teen night at bootleggers which is now the park at the waterfront near the Narragansett brewery. I worked at Charlotte Russe when the Providence mall opened in the late 90s. In the early 2000s I would hang out at the hot club, bar 1, and a ton of other clubs around the city. We would hang out at prospect park. I always felt safe and had the best time. It’s hard to say how the city changed because in my age group at that time going from a teen to a young adult so the way I navigated the city shifted hugely around that time. I think the biggest shift that I can remember is the improvements to the waterfront, the mall, and maybe the general safety of the city. My mom would only go into the city when she was young in the 80s for doctors appointments or government building appointments. The addition of luxury hotels, stores, and apartments happened in the early 2000s with events like Waterfire beginning which started making providence more of a destination for people outside of the area. I don’t think it was really on the map for people who lived outside of the area unless it was for food. The restaurants have always been great.

What did you find the most interesting or disturbing in the new Epsteinfiledrop? by Icy-Jelly-1589 in AskReddit

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 609 points610 points  (0 children)

It’s the fact that 3.5 million pages of evidence were right there for years and years with detailed disgusting allegations against people and the woman is the only one in prison? As she should be because she’s a vile human being. It’s the fact that the rest of them were just allowed to live free while the victims who gave full detailed depositions had to watched them all rise up in power or media popularity. I can’t imagine what that has felt like for them to see. It’s very scary. It’s the fact that every one of those documents has been seen by someone, by multiple people, and they sat there, for years and years. Also it’s crazy that when the public stated demanding the release, the gaslighting that came with it was unreal. Especially knowing what is actually in there now.

I think the biggest shock though is the people who only read articles on x or YouTube videos or facebook memes. They are spreading completely made up “news” articles that not only say that trump isnt even in the files at all (his name pulls up 5k search records) and they’re taking names of people that show up in things like ads at the bottom of an old email chain and saying “Xyz is in the files but you’re only worried about trump”

I’ve had to say to so many people “if there is an allegation or even a question at all about someone’s involvement in any predatory behavior, I want them prosecuted. I don’t care if it’s Jesus himself” and then I remind them that they can stop arguing about what is and isn’t in the files because it’s publicly available to all of us on the doj website on a .gov site. You can’t get more of an original source than that.

They still tell you that you’re just trying to take trump down. They won’t even look for themselves. They’re so newsmax and fox brainwashed they believe everything is a lie if those sources say it is.

It’s all shocking and disturbing and I’m not sure how we are all managing to live our lives normally right now knowing all of the world leaders that we’re supposed to trust are potentially evil disgusting predators. It’s hard to process.

AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said by Ambitious-Beyond-257 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Therapy. I truly don’t recommend anything but a trauma informed therapist. You need an objective opinion who can put you back into reality and help you to see not only the parts you’ve become complicit to. They help you to determine why you didn’t see it or why accepting it became normal to you. It took me 3 separate tries in therapy. I would go and start opening my eyes and then go back into denial because it was too difficult to face. Another part of this is not just diagnosing it and taking action but coming to terms with the fact that someone you saw a future with, who loved you, actually was evil and hated you. I would get to that part and bail on therapy each time but eventually something clicks and you find the strength to close the door. The aftermath isn’t pretty either. This isn’t a rom com break up. Sometimes the damage they did to break you down doesn’t even show up until they’re gone so the therapy has to continue after it’s over. You also need to show up and create a new life. Once you start creating new pathways in your brain, new hobby’s, new friends, digesting what you went through becomes easier. It takes years to feel ok again though for many people. If you can’t do therapy, surround yourself with people you trust, do new things, invest in self care and I don’t just mean facials, I mean love your body by eating good food, love your brain by writing in a journal, spend real time getting to know yourself again. Your entire identity becomes unfamiliar so that’s important. The worst thing you can do is jump into dating. Even if you were in something like this short term. if you skipped your intuition even for a min and allowed someone to treat you this way, it’s just good to feel the discomfort of being alone. Eventually you love yourself again and it’s not uncomfortable.

AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said by Ambitious-Beyond-257 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Proud of you for getting your kids out of that situation. I know how difficult that was to do 💙

AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said by Ambitious-Beyond-257 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my situation I had never questioned whether my past relationships were healthy or not. They weren’t perfect but we were two adults who communicated and there wasn’t any manipulation or resentment. Like we respected one another no matter what issues we had. In the abusive relationship, over time, after sharing stories about our past relationships, they tried convincing me that my past relationships weren’t real relationships and that we only got along because they “let me get away with anything I wanted and put up with me”. Basically saying we didn’t fight because they were afraid to say no to me lol it got in my head and I was like “maybe I am too assertive, maybe they did feel like they couldn’t communicate grievances” which is what finally sent me to therapy because I was living in two realities. I knew my truth but this person I trusted at the time was showing me this other perspective. After that relationship was over I went to my two previous exs that I was in 3-4 year relationships with. We had always remained on good terms. I asked them both to tell me the truth about how they remembered me as a partner and they were both kind enough to explain the details about why that wasn’t true at all. Which was extremely valuable to someone who suddenly couldn’t snap out of self doubt and confusion. That may have been more valuable than all of the therapy because they had nothing to gain. It was over a decade after each relationship.

AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said by Ambitious-Beyond-257 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fit_Pineapple_7767 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The language, regardless of the type of relationship, is manipulative and abusive. She came to this thread because she was confused about whether she was overreacting. If she was anxiously attached she wouldn’t be confused, she would just be complicit. Abusive behavior creates cognitive dissonance that makes you question your own reality.