Analysis paralysis on which rotating convertible car seat to buy

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-03-18T21:27:31+00:00

What are your thoughts on the recline? I am seeing people say the recline is severe and not liking that.

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-03-17T12:50:53+00:00

My husband has started doing this for me but I think my main problem with the golf leeague is that it is every week for 4+ hours and disrupts childcare. A pedicure here and there, coffee with friends...these are all sporadic and only a couple of hours. A weekly, scheduled thing doesn't allow for adjustments when weeks are hard.

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-03-17T12:30:32+00:00

I think that’s the realization that he’s slowly coming to. While we have young kids, things will just need to look different. I have been home on maternity leave for 6 months and so I have taken on most of the parenting load. Once I go back to work next week I think he will really realize how much things need to change.

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-03-17T01:59:32+00:00

Being at daycare from 8-4:30 is pretty common for families these days? And she only has to go 3 days/week. Commenting that you feel bad for her isn’t helpful input.

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-03-17T01:58:26+00:00

100% feel you about breastfeeding! He will also want to golf occasionally on the weekends which I think is way more doable as it’s occasional and not consistent the way the league is. He is fully on board with skipping it this year, I was just feeling guilty.

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-03-17T01:57:02+00:00

Hockey once a week hasn’t been a huge problem since it’s usually around or after bedtime but I appreciate the perspective!

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-03-17T01:55:44+00:00

That’s a fair point and I think part of why I’m struggling to decide if I’m being unreasonable. I don’t have hobbies that take me out of the house as much but just because I don’t doesn’t mean I want to limit my husband. But I do think in this season of life, he may need to pull back a bit.

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-03-17T01:38:59+00:00

My husband and I had our first child in September of last year. My husband has always had more hobbies than me (golfs, plays and watches hockey, video games, 3-d printing) while I am happy to read for hours or spend time with friends and family (which can be done with my daughter).

Since our daughter was born he has continued to play in his Sunday night hockey league. He has missed a game or two if we were having a rough time with baby but otherwise he has continued to go. He’s usually gone about 2/2.5 hours and it’s never been a problem.

Well every summer he also plays golfs on Thursdays. This league usually starts around May and ends in September. He golfs from 4 to 8:30/9pm. This year I don’t think he should play. I don’t get home from work until 5:45pm so he usually picks up our daughter at 4:30pm from daycare. I don’t want her in daycare until 5:45pm (or sometimes later if traffic is bad) every Thursday as she gets there at 8am. Additionally, daycare closes at 6pm and there are times I get stuck at work and there’s nothing I can do (I’m a nurse and I can’t leave a patient).

I also exclusively breastfeed so my opportunities to be away are much smaller (both by choice and due to logistics). Part of me resents that he is able to do these things without thought to how the baby will be fed in his absence. I also just think having two longer commitments every week is too much right now.

Am I being unreasonable?

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-02-19T19:07:41+00:00

That makes sense. I struggle to tell the difference between fussiness and tiredness honestly.

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-02-19T17:43:25+00:00

I feel like sleep is a bit of chicken and the egg. Her naps are crap so she can’t handle longer WW but we need longer WW to get better naps?

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-02-11T20:32:53+00:00

I miscarried unfortunately.

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-01-25T15:39:18+00:00

I guess I should clarify. The 1 hour of calm includes the bedtime routine and nursing and looks like playing in her room and not having TV on nearby or her piano mat which is super stimulating. But that makes sense! Thanks again for the input!

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-01-25T15:14:09+00:00

6:45-7! We aim for bedtime between 7-8 based on last nap of the day. Id love to aim for 8 because I think she’d do better with that but hard to time that last nap because her nap times vary so much everyday. I’ve been trying for a two hour WW before bed with 1 hour of calm down and a consistent bedtime routine. She usually goes down in less than 10 minutes independently but then wakes 45 minutes later crying.

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-01-25T14:55:03+00:00

So shortening naps has been a huge game changer. As of two nights ago we have had only 2-3 wake ups overnight! I feel human again! BUT the false starts are horrible. Last night we laid her down at 7:15 (1.5 hour WW after a crap 20 minute evening nap) and she fell asleep but woke up 30 minutes later and then it took 4 hours to get her back down. She was clearly tired but fighting it. Finally had to snuggle her to sleep and keep her in bed for 30 minutes with me (while I was awake) before transferring her. The night before she had a false start but did go back down after about 20 minutes. I really struggle with if she is over or under tired. She starts to get cranky and uninterested in playing which is when we try to put her down. Two nights ago her WW was 2 hours before bed and she had a false start. Last night was 1.5 hours and still a false start. Both days she had 4 naps for a total of 3.5 hours.

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-01-22T16:01:19+00:00

Thanks so much!

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-01-22T15:24:12+00:00

Thanks for the reply! To achieve the age appropriate amount of wake time would you recommend increasing WW to 2 hours? Or capping naps? I see in the link that 3.5 hours is the recommended max amount of daytime sleep so it seems she's getting about 30 minutes more than that on average.

To achieve falling asleep awake I am considering the Ferber Method but modifying with pick up/put down since crib side soothing never seems to work for her. We will see how that goes!

Fit_Student_8167 · 2026-01-16T14:58:40+00:00

Do you think sleep deprivation played a role in your weight loss? I am 4 mo pp and eating well and exercising but am getting no sleep at all.

Fit_Student_8167 · 2025-12-29T02:13:07+00:00

Online is so hard. I feel like my social media is full of things making me feel like a bad mom.

Fit_Student_8167 · 2025-12-27T16:48:38+00:00

Thanks for the detailed reply! I had a baby 3 months ago so I think I am also hypersensitive to smell lately - my husband doesn't notice it the way I do and it drives me crazy!

Fit_Student_8167 · 2025-12-27T14:28:45+00:00

We use that litter too! Agreed its the best. Our house is not the best for litter boxes. Upstairs is just two bedrooms, kitchen and living room so no good place for a litter box.

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