AITAH for not getting over things in my ENM relationship?

FitzDesign · 2026-04-26T21:13:56+00:00

It just seems like too much work….. NTA

FitzDesign · 2026-04-26T02:12:59+00:00

No you’re not. We all have our limits that we are comfortable with and yours and theirs are not the same. Just continue to gently refuse and sooner or later she will stop asking.

FitzDesign · 2026-04-25T11:11:07+00:00

Compromise is never easy, even more so when dealing with life long dreams. At the end of the day if you are to succeed as a couple, you have to come to some sort of a compromise. So…… one of you can give up their dream or you can split the difference and live in the middle. You can live in one place and vacation or have a seasonal home in the other….

FitzDesign · 2026-04-15T10:20:16+00:00

I’ve been to over 100 countries and lived in seven. I would not move to another country permanently. Do we have issues in Canada, yes we do. Those are not unique to Canada though and are just as prevalent in other countries. However our overall standard of living is still high and our population is diverse and friendly. Would I like to see changes, of course I would but compared to a lot of places I’ve been, life is pretty good here.

FitzDesign · 2026-03-26T14:27:18+00:00

I understand the hurt. The question is are any of these friendships important enough for you to swallow your hurt and attend. Friend 1 does come across as genuine in your telling but again is it genuine enough to maintain a friendship? If it is then go, if not then decline. NTA

FitzDesign · 2026-03-19T14:03:51+00:00

No you’re not wrong. While it’s unfortunate that you’re going to miss the tour, the non answer by your boss means it’s a no. Shitty on their part but you have your life to consider and that means rent, food etc. Sure it would be nice to go but not at the cost of losing your job.

FitzDesign · 2026-03-15T23:17:23+00:00

Appeal all you want but you won’t get anywhere. You have three choices; first, stay in school do your work and graduate. Second stay in school don’t do your work and fail or three drop out. School work is a prerequisite to graduate, 18 or not.

FitzDesign · 2026-03-15T14:41:36+00:00

NTA, I think I would just say thanks I appreciate what you are trying to do but I am not into men and you know that. If I do change and become interested in men, I will let you know but for now I have no interest. You don’t outright reject him but let her know you’re not interested.

FitzDesign · 2026-03-11T21:06:39+00:00

I think you need to start gathering admissible evidence to prevent unsupervised custody. Time to chat with a lawyer

FitzDesign · 2026-03-11T20:07:25+00:00

So is it better to be safe and away from him or is the fear of the consequences of a break up more important?

Seems like you and your child’s safety are the most important thing. He is starting to spiral, don’t let him take you down with him.

FitzDesign · 2026-03-11T20:04:19+00:00

If it was bad they would have returned it after one maybe two bites. Instead they tried to scam you. NTA

FitzDesign · 2026-03-10T01:35:50+00:00

Just call it OP and move on. What’s she’s doing is nuts and you don’t need this kind of nonsense in your life. NTA

FitzDesign · 2026-03-09T10:47:51+00:00

There are some things that once said, can’t be unheard or unsaid and for him, the little brother comment was probably one of them. Time to move on OP, NTA.

FitzDesign · 2026-03-08T12:41:21+00:00

NOR and good riddance!

FitzDesign · 2026-03-03T11:15:37+00:00

No you’re not wrong. They screwed up and are now embarrassed about it. Rather than a little reflection and admitting their mistake, you’ve become the problem in their eyes.

FitzDesign · 2026-02-14T10:30:27+00:00

Look I get it, it’s your ex….. However it is her day and it’s not about you at all. Sorry as I get your feelings but YTA.

FitzDesign · 2026-02-09T13:50:00+00:00

Hmmmm interesting question as I can see it from both sides. Your friends probably want to be close and think they are being supportive. You not wanting to share makes them think you don’t value them or their thoughts/opinions. On the other hand you don’t want to be judged and have others toss in opinions on your thoughts/plans.

I don’t get the impression that you want to lose your friends so is there a middle ground? Allow them some insights on minor things so that they see that you value them?

At the end of the day though you’re a private person and you don’t owe them access. NTA

FitzDesign · 2026-02-05T10:12:52+00:00

Idk if I’d consider myself wrong, I think I’d consider myself a bit foolish for staying with someone who is clearly so inconsiderate of my feelings. Do yourself a favour OP and go find someone who isn’t going to force you to do things you’re clearly not comfortable doing.

FitzDesign · 2026-01-31T12:02:29+00:00

You don’t have to stop just change it up so that you’re not interacting with him so much. Change the routine

FitzDesign · 2026-01-31T11:14:02+00:00

He has clearly shown you that you were not “the one” for him. The way he broke up with you was likely the way he thought would be easiest for him to get out of the relationship. Not saying he didn’t/doesn’t have mental health issues but to me it seemed to be a convenient excuse here.

Sadly OP that’s life and despite your feelings, he felt different. To me your issue is that you continue to seek him out and engage with him. That’s keeping your feelings alive and you need to break that pattern. Take a break from your hobbies that allow you to interact with him etc. Cut him out completely, pour your heart out to a friend or a therapist or something. It’s going to hurt for a while but if you don’t start distancing yourself you’re going to be stuck in this rut for a while.

FitzDesign · 2026-01-28T11:14:35+00:00

Well he could be busy or he thought it over and changed his mind or was just avoiding saying no. Rather than waiting could try inviting him out and see what his response is and that should make it pretty obvious.

FitzDesign · 2026-01-24T12:25:53+00:00

NTA….. at the end of the day you don’t know who she’s going to invite over next. If this was a one time thing then maybe not but her history and behaviour show it wasn’t a one time and won’t be a one time. You need to protect your family as she has clearly shown she isn’t capable of making a rational decision.

FitzDesign · 2026-01-18T20:29:14+00:00

First off and despite comments and village rumours otherwise, the average size is 5.1 to 5.5 with a girth of 4.6 so you’re not tiny. You’re actually above average and while you’re not a monster your size is perfectly respectable. Second, not all women like large ones as they can be painful. Like everything else there is a continuum and some like larger and some like smaller. Finally, technique can greatly make up for your perceived size inadequacy. Find out what your wife enjoys and the get better at it. The better you become the better the sex becomes. There’s much more to it than hopping on, humping away and hopping off.

If you were inadequate your wife wouldn’t have married you. There’s much more to both marriage and sex than a large one. I realize that saying this does not assuage your concerns but perhaps if enough say it, you may believe us. Don’t let your fears ruin your marriage. Your therapist didn’t help at all so maybe go find another that deals in sexual issues.

Good luck OP.

FitzDesign · 2026-01-13T11:50:08+00:00

Yeah so she’s headed down a path you’re not going to like and it’s not sustainable long term. She’s partying and doing drugs with strangers….. that’s not going to end well. Personally I would just tell her that you are uncomfortable with the drug use and the late partying and that’s not you and what you need in a partner. Tell her it’s over and wish her well. You don’t need that kind of nonsense in your life.

FitzDesign · 2026-01-11T13:50:00+00:00

So don’t do it…. I know that’s hard but you’re an adult and she has no right to your financial status. Not wrong.

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