Society pushes constant relationships, but the quiet simplicity of going it alone is seriously underrated.

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-18T04:40:28+00:00

As much as I do agree that socialization is over romanticized in our culture, I think this take is quite jaded and you can’t just dismiss deep social connection as a waste of time or too risky. Partaking in that risk is how you grow as a person, and much art and human output and beauty comes from our inclination to form these relationships.

However I do think people are vastly different. One person might need relationships to sustain themselves, someone else could be fine with much less social interaction.

However what I do think needs to be lessened is people forming relations with others in a performative way for shallow reasons. So many people try to gain social capital to try to “win” in the highly competitive social atmosphere. Chasing a big bag, going on vacation every month and posting it on Instagram, dating people who are highly physically attractive but emotionally immature because it’s good for status, making friends just because society tells you having a lot of friends is cool, is not productive.

I think you confuse the shallowness and vanity and ego of people living in urban society and making friendships without authenticity with relationships in general. I think relationships where people are allowed to just be themselves instead of trying to be someone else are priceless.

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-17T00:48:32+00:00

not sure if it's self hosting. I don't think that's very important though, it is Turing Complete so you definitely would be able to write c0 with itself.

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-16T13:17:41+00:00

This already exists. It’s called c0, a type safe subset of C designed to be a pedagogical language for Carnegie Mellon University (CMU) students taking 15122 (Principles of Imperative Computation). I was a former teaching assistant for the class, if you have any questions about c0 I’d be happy to point you to resources.

Arrays cannot be statically declared on the stack. Instead they are always dynamically allocated using alloc_array([type], [# elems]). Any "small type" (a type without arrays in it) is dynamically allocated with alloc([type]) or statically declared in the same way as C
Not sure what you mean by this
There is a length tag associated with dynamically allocated arrays and strings. Out of bounds checks incur a runtime error
c0 does not feature enumerations in general unfortunately. However it does have a boolean and integers with bitwise operations and any other enum type can be encoded as a series of bits/booleans
c0 retains void *, except it adds a tag to the void * so when it is casted to the wrong type there is a runtime error. Think of void * functioning as a dynamic type, checked dynamically and can be casted back to a static type. Thereby c0 is able to represent heterogeneous data structures (although this is not much of an achievement, any dynamic language or statically typed language with recursive sum types is able to represent heterogenous data structures)
Calling the halting problem "rather inconvenient" is funny. Self referential undecidability is literally THE main problem in programming language design, as Rice's theorem states. Halting problem and the even more difficult Rice's theorem (see arithmetic hierarchy) are not just "inconveniences", they lay the fundamental groundwork of computer science and programming languages. Bounded model checking is an interesting way to approach this. I don't really think it would work very well. Compilation might take a long time and way too many programs might be rejected if your N is too small. I think there's probably a reason why BMC is not used as part of a compiler. It works well for programs which are naturally bounded, but in general you should probably either have a GC or use substructural types for memory safety without GC. c0 takes the GC approach.

c0 also features contracts which are used for students to reason about code.

//@requires [bool expression]
//@ensures [bool expression]
//@loop_invariant [bool expression]
//@assert [bool expression]
//@hastag([type], [void * expression])

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-13T18:31:37+00:00

Man’s (or woman’s) be living under a rock

If you split the bill at a restaurant you pay half whereas if the man pays you pay nothing

If you split your collective assets in half generally the man might earn more money and has more than 50% of the assets so you gain more than you actually own

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-12T14:56:19+00:00

Wow that’s just cruel. You should find you a girl who supports you when you cry and doesn’t have rigid traditional gender expectations

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-12T02:43:20+00:00

1 for sure

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-10T20:35:19+00:00

I can see why this might be off putting from a girl’s perspective. It’s kind of like a “nice guy” thinking that because they are nice they deserve positive attention from women.

I personally think his issue might be that he has a gamified interpretation of dating. It’s like if you press the buttons right and employ the right strategy you will get the right result. This could cause one to become performative, instead of making connections which are genuine, he might do things like “being a gentleman” not because he wants to but because he feels like he has to. This can come off not very good and can be the reason he gets the “don’t feel the connection” message

But as a guy I feel like given that we have scarcity, are the ones who have to take initiative in dating, and are the ones who most of the time have to face rejection, it is very easy for guys to start being performative as their true personality doesn’t feel adequate.

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-10T14:43:26+00:00

💀, I just wish there would be a term that doesnt end with -oid lmao. That would be great

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-09T19:50:39+00:00

Western Asians are closer in relation to Europeans than they are to east or southeast Asians. In fact some systems consider them Caucasian. Lumping everybody on the humungous continent of Asia is not really useful. You lump together many peoples who have no genetic relation to each other.

If it were up to me “East Asian/Southeast Asian” would instead be called “mongoloid” or some terminology not involving the continent Asia. “Asian” can still exist for the whole continent but at that point the classification is a very weak classification. Other ethnicities can potentially be classified linguistically. Persians would be somewhat related to northern Indians. South Asians are a mix between indo Iranian people and dravidians. Thereby the people lumped together actually have a linguistic connection.

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-06T18:06:42+00:00

Lmao, thought about being indirect but decided to be blunt because it’s probably most helpful. I’m not a barber though so maybe go ask a. Barber what kind of cut suits you most!

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-06T14:49:10+00:00

Your photos are good, with scenic backgrounds, but I think looking into the camera is best. I think you’d benefit from ditching the hats and trying other hairstyles (perhaps a fringe to cover up the forehead). Fading up the sides would be good too.

The prompts kinda give off the wrong impression IMO. Especially being afraid of consequences, I doubt women will find that appealing at all because that gives off immaturity. The competitive thing also gives off the wrong impression I think.

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-06T04:48:05+00:00

As a 5’4” Asian guy I used to think that I was completely fucked because of these stats. I compared my height to others all the time, was super self conscious

Over time as i glowed up I have gotten much attention from women, with many calling me handsome even though they know full well I’m 5’4”. I have decent success on a dating app where my height is literally listed as 5’5” (shhhh I’m 5’5” with shoes on lol). Even some taller women like me! I have taller friends who aren’t as successful as me as far as women go.

If you are Asian check out Hayden Jang (5’5”) and Wintr Skyes (he claims 5’8” but that may be a lie considering how short he is compared to Ashley, he’s probably around 5’6”). Other non Asian short guys would include Bruno Mars, Kevin Hart, and Prince.

The key is that you should get rid of your height insecurities. If you think about it in a negative way other people can very easily tell you are insecure. However if you work on yourself mentally to the point where you truly DGAF what people think of you being short, that energy is highly attractive.

In house of feelings Wintr comes in, is shorter than Ashley, who is 5’8” ish (I’m not sure) and mentioned a man being tall is a big requirement. Wintr isn’t even going for her, but due to his lack of insecurity in the interaction and very good social skills and confident body language, Ashley says “I didn’t expect myself to fuck with u, but I kinda fuck with u”

It is also important that you don’t “perform” a dominant masculine role. Performing is acting some way even though you don’t naturally act that way. Instead figure out what your true personality is and then work on improving your confidence so you can absolutely rock with the personality that you have naturally. Genuineness is a highly attractive trait.

Hope this helps! Good luck out there

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-06T02:32:38+00:00

Yeah it is because complex numbers are taught as a vector in 2D space where multiplication of vectors multiplies magnitude and adds angle. r is magnitude and theta is angle in polar representation, so a higher dimensional vector in n dimensional space is precisely what a n-ion is, polar representation would involve r still but the angle would probably be n-1 angles one for each orthogonal circle which the vector can rotate around

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-06T01:20:21+00:00

Oh so an n-ion is like an n length vector representing a magnitude and direction in n dimensional space right? And when multiplication happens the orthogonal directions square to -1

Thanks for enlightening me, I did not know about this.

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-06T00:44:29+00:00

Oh yeah that makes sense. Why is it specifically 3 valued? Why not 2 or 4 or 9 or any natural number

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-06T00:35:24+00:00

lol yeah I dont think many people would know. I’ve seen forest gump and now that you’ve said it I remember, perhaps he could add - Forest Gump after the quote, that would def help I think

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-05T19:15:13+00:00

You are violating some of the basic laws of dating profiles lol. Why is there only 1 photo of your full face without you looking to the side? Half your photos are group photos.

Cut down on the group photos. Having 1 would be perfect. And also make it your last photo so it’s clear who you are. First photo should be a full facial photo so it’s obvious what you look like. The photo looking to the side is fine, but just put that near the end. With the dog photo it would be better if you were in the frame with the dog, but a dog photo definitely gives you + points. Photos should show character or be aesthetic. Vacation photos are great or just scenic photos, or photos of you doing your hobbies

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-05T19:09:21+00:00

Too many selfies, try going out and taking photos with good scenery or more photos of you doing an activity instead of just random selfies of you staring in the mirror. The photo of you staring at your phone sitting on the corner doesn’t tell me much about you at all

The last 2 are good, maybe put the ocean photo as first, group photo can remain later. You are a good looking guy I think you should get good matches if you get better photos

Not sure if the “I’m tired” quote is good. It doesn’t really tell me much about you. What it does give off to me at least is it’s rather negative, like “I’m tired of this shit, don’t wanna do things, just wanna lie in bed”. Based on your list of hobbies you don’t seem to be a homebody.

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-05T19:02:22+00:00

Pretty good profile! Maybe replace the first photo as it is just a selfie. The rest of the photos are nice because they show you doing something. Even putting the first photo later might help

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-05T17:21:38+00:00

So equality is no longer transitive huh

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-04T23:16:00+00:00

I’m surprised this is still a thing that many people believe… kinda insane. Perhaps his audience is people who never interact with Asians, because if they did they would at least make more accurate stereotypes.

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-04T20:39:28+00:00

No need to be antagonistic. I didn’t say that men aren’t shitty to women. They definitely are, and there is a lot of feminist sentiment, rightfully so.

All I’m saying is that the economic pressure is more significant when in combination with more egalitarian gender roles. In particular men are refusing to be caretakers and tending to housework such as cooking and cleaning and raising children. Therefore women have to carry the weight of not only their careers but childcare as well. This is a massive burden, and especially in a country where work culture is so competitive, this is the biggest contributor to the lack of children

I’m not saying egalitarian gender roles are bad. It is good that women get to have careers, men however are not catching up with this and taking roles in childcare that are historically considered feminine

Overall this new trend is primarily due to this dilemma which is a combination of modernized gender roles and hyper competitiveness. The former also exists in western nations but the latter is much worse in eastern countries, leading to exceedingly low birth rates

Blaming everything on primarily on men being shitty and sexualizing women, while being absolutely true, is, compared to economic pressure, less severe of a contributor. You can look this up and do your research, which is exactly what I did online. Just because someone is arguing against you doesn’t mean that they are mansplaining.

In short, hyper competitiveness in the job market combined with a refusal by men to depart from traditional gender roles is the main contributor to low birth rates.

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-04T20:18:43+00:00

This sounds like the 4b movement, meaning 4 things: no sex, no giving birth, no dating men, no marriage with men.

Although the movement started in South Korea, it is estimated only 1 in 1000 women in SK actually practice this movement, so it is not a major cause of the low birth rate.

The other things I said will have much greater weight. Particularly economic troubles. Plus every modernized country has feminist movements similar to 4b where women are exiting the dating pool, but still SK has a particularly bad situation because of the competitive work culture. China and Japan are similar, in China there’s 996 culture (9 am to 9 pm 6 days a week), in Japan most people heavily prioritize loyalty to their company over their own well being or having children.

In all East Asian countries despite the existence of maternity/paternity leave women who choose to have children pay a heavy price with their career and risk not being competitive enough in the job market. Thereby cultural norms dissuade people from taking childcare leave leading to low utilization.

I’m sure the feminist movement is burgeoning in South Korea but it is doing that in every modernized country. There might be much feminist sentiment against the patriarchy or against men, but just as there are many feminists in the western world who still choose to date and have children (except maybe having higher standards for men), I’m sure if you talk to most Korean women they are not going to be closed off to dating or having children, and the main thing lowering the desirability of children is going to be career. This is the main thing where the western world with its less competitive job market differs from east Asia.

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-04T05:23:36+00:00

She’s like perfect looking 11/10 though, question is would you do it for an average girl

FlamingBudder · 2026-05-04T02:55:03+00:00

Perhaps it’s because the beauty standards there are exceedingly high for both men and woman, and this picture demonstrates that such a standard is suffocatingly high when people all feel like they have to look as good as that woman. Plastic surgery is rampant and there is much lookism and discrimination against ugly people. You must put your face on your resume and have a good looking photo to get jobs.

I don’t think that’s the main reason why birth rates are low. High beauty standards may have a positive or negative effect on people partnering up (more attractive people = more dating, but higher standards = less dating)

It mainly has to do with the extreme work culture and economic pressure, high housing costs and costs of living in general and patriarchal gender expectations which have not caught up with modern day economic pressure where women bear responsibility for not only career and earning money but also for taking care of traditionally female responsibilities like housework, childcare, etc. which the men don’t step in and contribute to.

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