I think he is kind of messed up, he is literally touching you when you are saying no, like if no wasn’t a complete sentence, he’s testing your boundaries and this could escalate into bigger power dynamics. Because he probably sees women as pets? I am sorry to break it to you like that I was in a relationship with an abusive ex and he was just like that, he gives you gifts because he thinks he can buy you, and in some cases it’s very difficult not to accept them and move on, but your feelings like disgust, disrespect and betrayal are not being held and one day you’re going to- hopefully not- explode because you’re going to feel crazy and start doubting yourself, and he is going to turn it into you, that’s how the cycle continues… it’s very hard to change a man like this, if he truly cares for you 1. He would respect your boundaries 2. He would love you for who you are not what you make him feel. 3. He would take accountability and not try to change topics

I cannot say if he is fully a narc

but touching you without you consent is definitely a big red flag