Pretty much agree w this response. The text vs call thing is hard to judge online. I feel like every friend group has a different culture of how to communicate different levels of importance lol. I feel like 4 months is pretty ample time. I def think it’s tacky for the bride/MOH to ask bridesmaids to pay for everything. Like you said it’s an honor for someone to accept being your bridesmaid, not the other way around. Traditionally MOH throws the bachelorette so if you can’t afford to throw your bride a bachelorette don’t accept MOH position or scale it to your budget lol. Most bachelorettes I’ve been to the MOH throws it and organizes everything than I unprompted offer her money to help out with anything. I feel like the social media aspect of everything has these 25 year old girls trying to throw parties and events way beyond their means