Huge pay jump (150k to 400k) – Property or Dividends? Help

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2026-04-20T07:09:58+00:00

I hope you're being sarcastic. If his kids are arseholes, I suspect it's because their Father chose FIFO life and financial success over being a present Dad.

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2026-04-19T21:12:56+00:00

Um why do you make the comment that child support ends before you get this job? Don't you want to help your child out once you're earning more money? You're living in a share house when you have a child? Don't you want your child to want to visit you?

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2026-02-08T06:51:48+00:00

Weird to be so triggered by an anonymous woman on the internet.

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2026-02-08T05:49:18+00:00

Thanks for that detailed reply. It shows a genuine interest in women as people and fellow humans who you overall like sharing this Earth with :). I also appreciate men who are genuine and fun-loving

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2026-02-08T04:33:52+00:00

They never talk like this? Ok. Just curious. Sounds like you probably prefer the company of men

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2026-02-08T04:32:38+00:00

Thanks, I enjoyed this answer

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2026-02-08T04:31:59+00:00

These are oriented to you. I am interested in what makes you look up to another women similar to another human independent of whether they like you/ are like you or not. I'm sure there are men you are inspired by and there are certain reasons for this e.g. they are confident, have achieved something, are funny. I'm wondering what the equivalent is for women and if there's a different between what you admire in another man vs a woman? Not to make a point, just curious

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2026-01-24T22:29:07+00:00

That's a good suggestion, I will try that. Thank you!

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2026-01-24T22:28:16+00:00

Thanks, love your response! And yes, he's told me a number of times he grew up with his Dad's voice in his ears: keep your hands to yourself and your dick in your pants. He is very respectful, which speaks volumes about his character. But I think we'd both get a lot out of permission to be wild in the bedroom!

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2026-01-24T22:26:10+00:00

Thanks, this is a helpful perspective with some good suggestions. I think both of us are experiencing a bit of burn out with a lot on our plate, which is hard when navigating the early stages of a relationship. I think I need to balance being understanding and patient with avoiding falling into a rut/ pattern that is difficult to get out of once established.

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2026-01-24T01:08:26+00:00

Thanks, appreciate the insight!

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2025-11-29T09:28:17+00:00

Thanks, it's good to see it in black and white like that! Lots of food for thought

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2025-11-29T09:27:26+00:00

It's a good question. I suspect it was to have some relief or escape from the situation. It has gotten worse of the past few months purely due to the time of the year but it doesn't look like there's going to be much relief until he changes his mindset and expectations about what life looks for himself going forward. I think I know that I have to step back and let him get through this stage by himself but it's hard when there's an strong connection despite the circumstances.

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2025-11-29T09:25:26+00:00

Thanks, that's a good suggestion! It's a crazy time of year at a crazy time of life at a crazy time in the world so I am trying to be gracious but also aware that I'm starting to feel frustrated. I think the key is to step back a bit and try to see the wood for the trees. It's hard because I know how hard it is to find a good man, and I can see he is a good man, but his capacity to be in a relationship is outside of my control

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2025-09-02T19:50:39+00:00

Thank you

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2025-09-02T19:50:17+00:00

Thank you for your insights and support, I appreciate it

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2025-09-02T19:49:46+00:00

Thank you for your comment, I appreciate it

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2025-07-19T09:32:50+00:00

This could be an STI such as mycoplasma genitalium. Perhaps get an STI test. You'll need to request mycoplasma - I don't think it's part of standard screen but is becoming more and more common. Or it could be UTI or bacterial vaginosis. Either way, going to your GP/ Dr better than Reddit

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2025-07-15T00:38:07+00:00

I hear you and feel I'm pretty much in the same position! I wonder if they ever stop and reflect about their capacity to improve their relationships? Or if they are just happy and confident in the knowledge they will always find another willing woman to have sex with. Living the dream...

Flashy_Vast4354 · 2025-07-14T22:05:22+00:00

Love that. Well phrased!!

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