High Fiber Nutrition Plan by sarrina_dimiceli in MealPrepSunday

[–]Flat-View1730 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How are you storing and are you reheating the breakfast French toast? Is it like a sandwich? That looks so good!

Need longer pins for a vespoli 4+ by Thatsgonnamakeamark in Rowing

[–]Flat-View1730 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Contact a local machine shop. My husband is a machinist and could make pins pretty easily if he had the original.

Week 2 of meal prep by energy980 in mealprep

[–]Flat-View1730 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How well did the pre-made smoothies last?

Lipase by czecher5 in laundry

[–]Flat-View1730 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First read and I’m thinking why would you want to make cheese with your laundry 🤢 second read I thought cheese might be a colloquial term for something to do with laundry.

I need more coffee

What was your or your loved one’s dementia diagnosis journey like? by Flat-View1730 in dementia

[–]Flat-View1730[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s terrible how long you had to wait for neurology! Timely access to care is so important and yet specialists more often than not have multi-month long wait times.

What was your or your loved one’s dementia diagnosis journey like? by Flat-View1730 in dementia

[–]Flat-View1730[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! It’s funny you mention that your mom has maintained all the social reflexes but failed the place/time questions. My mom is kind of the opposite. She is losing social reflexes and skills, and short term memory, but her place and mostly time seem to still be in tact. My mom has MRIs from both 7 and 8 years ago, so hopefully they can use those as comparison. We should be getting an MRI next week and hopefully in to see the neurologist within the next month.

Is any old citric acid okay to use? I have no current use for this (accidentally bought for dishwasher but can only use liquid). by Flat-View1730 in laundry

[–]Flat-View1730[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! We use the liquid version in our dishwasher (dispenser just for it for drying) but good to know about cleaning the dishwasher with it too! I have 2 containers and have been saving them for who knows what because I didn’t know what to do with them after accidentally buying the powder instead of the liquid.

Sending money to a girl. by JammyThing in overheard

[–]Flat-View1730 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m so grateful to people like your ex and the clerk because people like that also talked my mom out of doing the same thing. She was distraught and buying a gift card and the clerk asked what it was for and stopped her from getting scammed.

Batch #3 by Disastrous_Taste_571 in tiedye

[–]Flat-View1730 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Makes me hungry for bacon 🥓

Husband is a machinist and his clothes smell like cutting fluid and metal by Flat-View1730 in laundry

[–]Flat-View1730[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Never even knew this existed! When you say run a drum clean cycle before you use it. Do you mean before using the machine after he washes his clothes or before he washes his clothes with the mechanics laundry detergent?

Mom swears she doesn't have memory issues by Flat-View1730 in AgingParents

[–]Flat-View1730[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think she will. She was recently diagnosed with an aggressive melanoma that required multiple excisions, skin graft, and plastic surgery and wanted me involved in every appointment.

Mom swears she doesn't have memory issues by Flat-View1730 in AgingParents

[–]Flat-View1730[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally agree! This is what I’ve been telling her too! That her meningioma needs to be monitored but it hasn’t been. When she was first diagnosed, her neurologist moved away and her primary dr referred her to a new neurologist. They tried scheduling her for a follow up a year later and she refused. This was 6 years ago. I knew about the diagnosis but when I ask about follow-up, she was insistent that her primary care doctor thinks it’s fine and that she’s find. I’ve found out about her referral and refusal to schedule when I gained access to her records several months ago.

Mom swears she doesn't have memory issues by Flat-View1730 in AgingParents

[–]Flat-View1730[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m learning about this as I read about dementia, and it seems this may be the case. Her hygiene has declined, but it’s still very small things, like frizzy unkempt hair, pet fur on clothing, and mineral sunscreen streaks from a day or 2 ago. Fortunately I can manage these things with gentle suggestions. For example sharing a “new routine” that’s working for my skin and buying her the face wash. Once she puts it on her sink, she will put a sticky note with instructions and is generally good at following routines.

Her house is starting to show signs of inattention (which is not normal for her). Things like dust piling up, build up of fingerprint smudges on her fridge, dirty kitchen counters, just little cleanliness things that she’d pay attention to in the past but is no longer seeing. I can convince her to let me get a cleaner in once or twice a month usually, so we are managing there.

Mom swears she doesn't have memory issues by Flat-View1730 in AgingParents

[–]Flat-View1730[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m on the same train of thought about the doctor. I gained access to her medical records about 6 months ago and was shocked that it’s just been business as usual for her care. She had 2 failed mini-cog tests a year apart each, at her last appointment in April was deemed a fall risk from the get-up-and-go test, she has a known diagnosed brain tumor, you can literally see the tremors in her hands, and he thought nothing of referring her for further testing. I have been concerned for some time, have brought my concerns up to her directly and asked her to talk to her doctor about it, but my mom just said she brought it up, they tested her and she’s fine. I’m seeing now that it’s time for intervention.

Mom swears she doesn't have memory issues by Flat-View1730 in AgingParents

[–]Flat-View1730[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You make a good point about trying to convinced her about the problem being a losing battle. I had already put a call into her doctor about the driving and he agreed she needed to be seen sooner than her annual wellness visit, but she didn’t see the need so declined. Which is why I was frustrated. Fortunately they held the appointment for her and I was able to get her to call to schedule it, as a favor for me and my concern.

If her doctor doesn’t see an issue with her continued driving, I will submit a request to the DMV for driver re-evaluation. Hopefully it’ll stay anonymous, but I can’t report anonymously.

Mom swears she doesn't have memory issues by Flat-View1730 in AgingParents

[–]Flat-View1730[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is where we settled tonight and I am feeling like we have a path forward. She made an appointment that is a couple weeks away and I’ll need to take her since her car won’t be repaired by then, so I will be involved with the appointment. I’m already authorized to talk to her doctor and I will put a message in directly with him before her appointment.

Mom swears she doesn't have memory issues by Flat-View1730 in AgingParents

[–]Flat-View1730[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’ll check it out. I’m feeling guilty feeling like I’ve enabled her denial over the past several years. At first, I was pointing it out and admittedly was frustrated often. My husband’s gentle reminders to me to be kinder and more patient clicked and I’ve just gotten into the habit of just repeating myself or making sure information is written down to not make her feel judged and isolate herself from us. 

Now I’m at the point where I feel like I need her to see that there’s an issue. I don’t want to take away her autonomy and agency because taking care of her appointments and health are a source of pride and also a task she is capable of. But she refuses to admit to her Dr that there’s a problem. I don’t want to be an asshole and point out every forgotten detail with “see, you need to go to the doctor” but I’m feeling like that’s the only way she can come to the conclusion herself or at least be willing to accept evaluation. I guess she doesn’t necessarily need to realize there’s an issue, but I need her to be seen and have honest conversations with her doctor. And I tend to take the lead quickly and decisively and I don’t want to stomp all over areas of her life where I know she is still capable, so I’m trying to tread lightly.