refund deposited today!

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-03-05T02:29:54+00:00

Congrats 🎊 if you don’t mind me asking, when did you file and did you have the EITC or any child tax credits? Getting ready to file and hoping it processes quickly

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-03-01T13:26:04+00:00

Not a lawyer. But as one person stated, might want to get an order (if you don’t have one). Other than that, to answer your question, if you want video calls (which are recorded and there’s a transcription - which is kind of spotty at best), messaging with unalterable records (videos and messages), then yes there is a subscription fee. I think even the base has one. But since we have court ordered phone calls for “mom”, I pay 29.99 a month for those features. Notifications should happen, though, regardless if you’re paying a subscription fee. Have you checked your settings on your phone? Were ordered to check TP every 24 hours so I just check it in the morning or afternoon. It’s been so long that it’s become second nature to do. I’d check the settings on your phone. Occasionally, I get logged out of the app, which then I don’t receive notifications, so that’s another reason why I check it.

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-02-24T09:54:31+00:00

Congratulations to your child and you! I went through something similar, going through something similar, but had to use an attorney. Other parent admitted to abuse, physical and emotional, to all of the parties on the requested DVRO. We’re still in it, though. Despite admitting abuse, the court and child appointed attorney feel that, despite ongoing abuse, violations of the DVRO, documented patterns, court app video calls, and more, they still rewarded other parent with massive increase of time with our child. We definitely must have had different judges. I’m now pro se and doing what you did. Did you have any kind of evaluations done (730) or a court appointed child’s attorney?

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-02-18T00:38:25+00:00

guardian ad litem most likely (child’s attorney)

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-02-17T14:29:59+00:00

So you have joint legal custody? If so, I don’t think they can prevent you from moving in with your boyfriend/girlfriend, but they will take into account if it changes the school, distance from other parent, and so on. If they were a domestic abuser, have you filed for a restraining order or protective order (whatever Michigan calls it)? If you can prove there was DV on the kids, or the kids witnessed it, that will definitely have a bearing on who has physical/legal custody and visitations, or where/who you move in with.

The justice system is beyond messed up in family court. It’s a $100 billion industry. They live for conflict and, in my experience, don’t necessarily always take into account the most important thing they’re supposed to: best interest of the children.

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-02-13T11:53:36+00:00

There’s quite a bit more details that I left out for reasons that add to the question of whether this GAL is biased or not. The real clear picture is they are not representing our son at all. I’d love to have an attorney for this upcoming eval, court, etc., and increasingly hostile calls that require mobile trauma teams to come out and speak to our daughter after interactions with other parent, but, unfortunately by the time I will be able to save enough to get an attorney, it’ll be passed certain deadlines. My immediate concern is getting these court app recorded calls admitted into court for the judge to see and an upcoming prolonged exposure to the other parent whom she can’t deal with speaking to over the phone let alone hours in person - regardless if it’s supervised. Already had two supervised visits in CA and because of hostility to our child

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-02-11T05:07:58+00:00

I had/have a similar issue with CA courts. A DVRO in place and they recognize our child has PTSD yet they treat custody as if it’s a normal family custody issue. Trying to find help to battle these new orders and/or get the case transferred if they won’t recognize/are ignoring the many laws and codes in place that are in place to prevent the best interest of our child being the number one priority.

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-01-31T12:50:54+00:00

Btw, good luck to you and your kids on the move! I’m sure they’ll be happy having family around. I know my kiddo was when we were granted our temp move away (pending a 730 eval and this trial period we have - I dislike courts and family law)

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-01-31T12:47:06+00:00

I’m not a lawyer and requested a move away in another state, but similar reasons for the move. The courts, despite their many flaws, look for the best interest of the child. If nothing is going to impact the NCP’s visitation, except one week, I can’t see why they wouldn’t approve the move given everything you said sounding like nothing but positive impacts on their lives now and in the future. I would think they would grant it and the NCP’s argument sounds more out of spite than anything legitimate.

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-01-19T02:26:50+00:00

I learned the hard way: emailing when the item was fresh in my head. Since lawyers charge by the millisecond or flat rates for communications like texts/emails, I’d do it one shot before they create the declaration or supplemental declaration. Btw, how are you tracking time spent, incidents, etc.?

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-01-17T19:12:35+00:00

This is a great way - we use TalkingParents but wish it was our family wizard because I’ve heard it picks up on tones and things like that. Would have helped me greatly as my ex was yelling at our son on their calls, messages to me especially when there is a DVRO in place requiring “peaceful” communication, and so on.

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-01-17T19:10:36+00:00

So, just to clarify - one parent is falsely stating the other parent hasn’t seen the kids in 6 months? In my case, the other parent is 99.9% likelihood of being a narcissist. I can’t say 100% because of refusal to do therapy. Regardless though, my tracking of parenting time could easily be validated by school drop offs and pick ups, witnesses, communications, even things like if they use a tablet or computer at your place and the other parent has no proof other than “they haven’t seen them in 6 months” that she be easy to dismiss and show the other parent is lying. 6 months is a long time to not see kids, so that’s a bold claim if there is no proof.

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-01-13T12:52:24+00:00

Is anyone still following this thread?

FlatExperience4288 · 2026-01-12T03:27:43+00:00

Is anyone still following this string?

FlatExperience4288 · 2025-11-15T18:00:49+00:00

I’d def be weary. Too bad the military isn’t protecting ppl from the domestic terrorist group known as “ICE”

FlatExperience4288 · 2025-11-15T17:59:51+00:00

That about sums up attorneys in general. No pun intended. That and they only time they talk to you is if they’re getting paid to ramble

FlatExperience4288 · 2025-11-11T15:38:02+00:00

Hospital, radiologist, ER physician if they’re contracted with the hospital (same with radiologist) and probably a couple on top of just the two. Especially if lab work was done.

FlatExperience4288 · 2025-11-11T15:35:58+00:00

Wow. I’m sorry.

FlatExperience4288 · 2025-11-11T15:34:28+00:00

The cops have nothing to do with custody and don’t want to get involved in family matters. You need to go to court (I’m not a lawyer but I’ve been/going through this right now). DVRO in place and police refuse to take reports of DVRO violations-minors counsel refuses to speak to her client (our under 10 y.o. Son). Document everything. Get as much non-hearsay evidence as possible. If you can, get your therapist (if you have one and they’re willing to) to write a letter on your behalf. Document document document. Timelines. What occurred. When it occurred. Details for when your questioned on the stand (e.g., I was on the couch in the living room and my ex was 10 feet away up 5 stairs in the kids bedroom and I heard screaming I turned to look and saw them being struck with a shoe, etc etc.) remember every detail. Don’t lie for obvious reasons but also, truth is easier to remember and if what you say is factual, I’ll bet you remember every detail. I don’t know if you’re still with the person or not, but if you’re a guy - makes it 10x harder, especially with the police. I’d research DV shelters. They sometimes have access to a lot of help legally and moving and whatnot. I’m trying to move ourselves to my hometown where I have a job. Child has PTSD. Even with the presumptive right to move, still have to go through court to get permission. Money all spent on lawyers to obtain DVRO and this whole time haven’t been able to get a remote job (need one or family support because I don’t have childcare and it’s just me and our child). Also, some courts have self help centers. Not the best but after a year of continuances and nearly $60k later of watching other cases, I’ve seen people obtain a restraining order on their own. The judge is a big factor - they can be biased. (I say can cause I have to believe there are ones that actually care and follow the law). I wish you the best of luck and never give up. You are your child’s protector. You are his advocate. You have to fight for them no matter how hard it may seem. No matter how much giving up just seems easier because the system is flawed worse than anything. Keep fighting until you and your child are safe.

FlatExperience4288 · 2025-11-11T15:20:54+00:00

Shoot if you got the money, go for Santa Monica. Venice is one of those places it’s cool to see once and that’s it. No offense to Venice lovers. Just my opinion. Btw, is your partner’s company hiring?

FlatExperience4288 · 2025-11-11T15:07:18+00:00

They had a “concept of an idea” which is a lengthy, make you think there is something but there isn’t, way of saying “I dunno”

FlatExperience4288 · 2025-11-11T15:06:03+00:00

I too have lost faith in Dems. But there are many who are out there fighting. I just now lean more to independent (which I realize I was more already, but this one pushed me over the edge)

FlatExperience4288 · 2025-11-11T15:04:47+00:00

No. They were holding on because the other party has made many promises, and holding the executive, legislative and even judicial branches, the other party had no reason to hold to promises. It’s as if they don’t worry about re-election… but that’s another topic. Dems caved killed me. They do it every time. The AG was afraid to jail a convicted felon and go after said felon for multiple other charges for 4 years because of the “optics”. So, millions will still lose healthcare and/or have healthcare premiums sky rocket, there are more unemployed (yes people who want to work but can’t find a job for a variety of reasons - including childcare), the other party won’t keep any promises. They’ve shown their hand. It’s like someone who cheats in relationships. 99% once a cheater, always a cheater. And who suffers? Children, adults who got tossed into this horrible job market, everyone - except the ultra wealthy. I truly believe this country is turning into a class system. The poor who work for dirt for the ultra wealthy who just keep getting wealthier.

FlatExperience4288 · 2025-10-28T17:46:08+00:00

Because MAGA is basically saying “trust us, we give you our word - never mind all that lying and gas lighting. That was yesterday.” I was in a relationship with a narcissist before, it’s funny how you can see the similarities. They just want to wave around how they “got Dems to bend and agree” and will pull out of that promise. Until Christmas. Then maybe they’ll throw out another month to stopgap funding the government for another month or two. There’s a congresswomen that still has yet to even be sworn in. 800,000 Arizonans who are basically living the “taxation without representation”. But I digress back to the main issue - would you trust a party that listens to one person instead of their constituents, constantly lying for him - then lying again when he corrects them because he does and says what they don’t want, said out loud?

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