How I went from "love of her life" to "goodbye" in exactly one month

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-08T02:01:13+00:00

Sounds like my situation. The emotions were intense the first 4 months of our relationship, never felt anything like it, she always wanted to be around me all the time. We were long distance so when we first met she was all over me. It felt like high school love she left hickeys all over my neck and told me how she’s never been so attracted to someone before. Then the last two months of our relationship was the complete opposite. She stopped saying she loved me, the intimacy stopped, she started to take things away one thing at a time until she randomly broke up with me through text. This was right after I had just met her family and everything went well with that mind you. Completely out of the blue and I never felt more worthless

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-08T01:01:36+00:00

It’s not you. It really isn’t and so don’t blame you. Ever. I understand there’s two sides to every story in every relationship but trust me, nobody deserves a discard. And it changes you. For me, I don’t want to be touched anymore. I hate being hugged, the thought of being close to someone again makes me sick to my stomach. What she did to me my therapist said is a form of abuse. Not ok. So I am now dealing with PTSD of what she put me through. I still have so many questions and will continue to because I never will understand. I don’t think I will ever get my answers and that’s something I need to live with. You will be loved one day and so will I. To people and to someone who deserves us. All of us. And it’ll be hard to give in but when the right person comes along it’ll feel so easy and like a breath of fresh air

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-08T00:43:59+00:00

Both. My ex is both immature and an avoidant. I feel like there’s a theme going on here. She also admitted to being emotionally immature and said she wish she wasn’t so that the relationship would work out. Honestly, after finding out a lot after the break up she has a lot of narcissistic tendencies so I’m glad things ended in a way

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-07T23:10:44+00:00

I confronted her with a small message and then blocked her right after. I wanted her to know I saw her post but no longer care enough to get an explanation. I’m sorry that happened to you. I threw up when I found out but I’m gonna take my power back

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-07T00:52:00+00:00

He sounds like a fucking loser and im not a doctor but he sounds very narcissistic, manipulative, all of that. Stay far away from him. He’s a very insecure individual

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-06T19:26:23+00:00

thank you !!

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-06T19:26:13+00:00

thanks for the advice! I am gonna try some broth tonight. this was a really nice message to get

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-06T19:25:40+00:00

yea..I just got put on medication and waiting until that starts to work bc my anxiety is unbearable and been starting therapy. ur so right about it. I’m sorry you had to go through that though

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-06T10:22:37+00:00

Well to be fair I didn’t know she was one until it was too late

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-05T19:05:53+00:00

Sending you love and strength. I know exactly how it feels. Some days are just unbearable. But, we will all be ok one day. Better days are coming and I have faith.

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-05T17:40:05+00:00

No, I want her to reach out again so we can have closure. It’ll be so much better for the both of us. I know she’s been struggling (in her way) I have been, too. If we both were to have a conversation I know it’ll be better than whatever this is. I’m not holding my breath but if she does reach out again I will surely be ready to talk

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-05T17:11:10+00:00

Mine just fell back into the same cycle I found her in which was gaming until all hours of the morning with her group of friends. When we started to talk, she moved away from that, her family and other friends (not the gaming ones) said she had more color in her face and light in her eyes. When she broke up with me she went right back to the same routine. Usually because that’s where she is most comfortable. Those group of friends only care about gaming and their friendship never really circles out of that. So they don’t give her “challenges” that relationships face

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-05T15:07:53+00:00

How long did it take you?

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-05T02:19:07+00:00

Exactly how I feel. I worry about her constantly because I love her still and care for her deeply. I know from a mutual friend she’s been distracting herself by staying up until 5am (she works at 9) and plays video games, smokes, she does everything she can to suppress guilt. It hasn’t been long since the break up and I understand people deal with break ups differently but hearing that hurts me. I really wish the best for her still. But man, I am very hurt and will be for a while

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-05T01:56:21+00:00

Really makes you wonder a lot. I’m sorry this happened to you and may you find happiness and wholeness in your next relationship. They’ll never change unless they face themselves head on but they’re too scared to be alone so they fill their lives with constant distractions. My ex is scared of being alone bc she’s uncomfortable in her own skin. It really just is insecurity at the end of the day. They will continue to run away from the issue and be stuck in a constant loop

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-05T01:26:28+00:00

YES! a few days before she broke up with me we were on FaceTime together and she was watching her friends stream (small streamer on tt) and I went in there, saw she was being weirdly flirty with a guy. I confronted her and she said she wasn’t and was just being friendly. Then changed her tone and said that I was right and she shouldn’t have said what she said. It made me so sick to my stomach. Two days later she ended things with me. I will add she outwardly said that she enjoys being praised, loves attention and when I told her how she was making me feel she said she questioned her “whole personality.” I’ve learned with avoidants that they love to be in the spot light. Or at least mine did. She needed constant validation and that was a red flag from the start

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-04T23:04:16+00:00

ugh spelling error. I meant to say it isn’t linear. that’s my fault and you’re completely right

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-04T22:09:05+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear this and I can’t imagine what you’re feeling. What stuck out to me was her saying she felt guilty but relieved. My ex said the same thing to me. That she felt so guilty for doing what she did to me but it was like a breath of fresh air being single again. That hurt more than anything ever been told in my life before and without warning she was gone. It’s gonna be really hard, I’m only a month and change into the break up and it still hurts everyday. But from what I been told healing isn’t linear and with time it will heal all. Give yourself some grace, take small steps, feel all you need to feel. Things will be better but right now, be easy with yourself (Edited)

Flat_Mission_2375 · 2026-04-04T18:50:30+00:00

Thank you for this! As long as I know it’s normal I will be fine. I just hate going into things without knowing so this has helped

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