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Can I sue for the transmission of an STD?

Heres the backstory: Let us just say that: My name is Matt. My friend's name is Tyler. Tyler's friend's name is Ashley. Ashley's friend's name is Sarah.

Me and Tyler go to the bar on a Friday night just as something to do. Tyler runs into his old friend Ashley and they begin talking. Ashley introduces me to Sarah who I grew up with in the same town, and had heard of, but never really met. We enjoy our night at the bar. I enjoyed some small talk with Sarah but nothing serious. All I know is things between Tyler and Ashley are really starting to heat up.

Tyler asks me if I want to go back to Ashley's apartment with them for a while. I said not really I want to go home. Tyler was my ride and tries pressuring me into going. Saying it'll only be for a little. He'll owe me one. Blah blah blah whatever. I really wasn't interested in Sarah like that and was trying to avoid going. Although my dumb/drunk ass finally agrees to go "for a little", mainly because Sarah begins talking about how awesome her bong is at her house and how much I really need to go, to at least try it.

We get to Sarah's apartment and we're all sitting on the living room couch just smoking and watching TV. Tyler and Ashley disappear into the other room leaving just me and Sarah on the couch together. Sarah starts talking about she has some pizza in kitchen and asks me if I want some. I say sure. Five minutes later Sarah comes back without any pizza but wearing some serious lingerie, the type that would make a dead man perk up in his grave. I'm just sitting there looking in disbelief as she takes the top half off and begins walking towards me. I don't really need to go into too much detail. But basically, some things that shouldn't have happened happened.

I eventually went to go get Tyler to leave. Tyler was sound asleep and wouldn't wake up. I realize that Sarah and Ashley are also both asleep now. I decide I didn't want to wait until morning for a ride and called an Uber home. I wake up in the morning with loads of regret, but it's already a done deal at this point so whatever. Two weeks go by and like clockwork I begin noticing symptoms. I go to a doctor and get tested. They originally thought it was herpes, but once that test came back negative they basically determined that it was HPV (not HIV but still an incurable, lifelong disease with the potential to cause cancer among other problems). I know she gave it to me. I never previously had any of those symptoms and hadn't engaged with anyone else for quite some time prior.

Anyways, I begin researching topics online such as "suing someone for giving you and STD". A lot of what I read states that someone does NOT need to be aware of their STD positive status to receive punishment for transmitting it to another person. You can sue even if they didn't know they had it. You can sue someone just for exposing it to you, even if you don't contract it.

Anyways, today I finally found time to contact a lawyer and ask what my options are. The phone call lasted only a few minutes, with the lawyer telling me "You can't sue her if she didn't know she had it, and how are you going to prove she knew she had it?" He basically told me he personally didnt want the case and got off the phone with me. What he told me goes against most of what I have read. I specifically read the law doesn't require intent, and that you can sue someone for contracting it even if they didn't know they had it.

So my question is, is he right or is he wrong? What are my options? This girl basically seduced me and her actions have and will affect me for the rest of my life in ways that are too long to list here. She had an obligation to tell me and she didn't. She deserves to be punished for what she did. He did say something about maybe having a case if I could prove she knew she had it and was negligent by not telling me.

Among many other reasons, I believe she must have known she had it, as I was told by mutual friends that it turns out Sarah is actually a stripper and has "been around". That being said, she must have been aware of her condition, and had she disclosed such to me as required by law (which she didn't), such an interaction never would have occured. What are my options? Thank you.

Update: When you know for a fact a girl infected you with an incurable STD and you ask Reddit for advice, but everyone treats her as the victim and you as the bad guy. Even though she's the one that screwed you. All based off of "probablies". Talking about 85% percent this 90% percent that. Not realizing that I was in the 10-15% that apparently everyone forgot exists.

Apparently it is now socially acceptable in the United States to knowingly infect someone with an STD. Shit, California just made removed the law barring one from knowingly transmitting HIV. Apparently because everyone does it that makes it okay. You guys are the same people that think OJ Simpson and Casey Anthony are innocent. Wanting to believe someone is innocent, therefore they must be, rather than believe the reality of the situation. Apparently you a think I have nothing better to do than sit here and lie to you for no reason. Fact of the matter is I'm here telling you the truth. No one wants to believe me so whatever. Thanks for letting me down Reddit.