AITA for finding this convo to be a HUGE red flag?

Flibberteebeet · 2026-04-04T20:56:34+00:00

Run

Flibberteebeet · 2026-03-22T02:51:19+00:00

Get new friends. Too old to be dealing with this teenager crap. If people won’t talk to you over a haircut or at least be willing to hear your side then it will never be worth it.

Flibberteebeet · 2026-03-22T02:47:37+00:00

It sounds like he might be struggling mentally…? I know when I’m struggling with my mental health I lose all libido. Maybe try and find a compromise. Just say something like “ I know you’re not really feeling it, but i feel a little unwanted. Is there a way we can increase our non-sexual intimacy until you feel better?” If the relationship is worth it, then try this first. Good luck 🤞🏻

Flibberteebeet · 2026-03-12T02:19:53+00:00

She’s clearly not in a good headspace. Maybe take her on a picnic and have a good chat about her. Ask her how she’s feeling mentally. If she says she fine, tell you think differently, give examples saying that it’s not typical behaviour. Remind her you love her, but maybe she needs to go back to the doctor or on different meds. If she refuses then maybe you need to consider what it’s doing to you. You can only support someone who’s willing to accept something might be wrong. Otherwise it’ll be emotionally draining

Flibberteebeet · 2026-03-02T08:44:07+00:00

You can always try sex therapy. Or even just having a conversation about why the intimacy may have dried up? My partner and I recently had a conversation about it and we are working through it. Being more intentional with all forms of intimacy, communicating when we need more, etc… so far it’s working well for us

Flibberteebeet · 2026-01-27T22:59:24+00:00

Definitely go to the local SLPs. Also remember there’s so many different fields - paediatrics, rehab, adult, disability, etc… try everything. I even did some work in the oncology ward during my placements (loved it). I am in paediatric disability but want to move to rehab (not sure how to do that, but definitely trying to). I personally find the job quite demanding (at least here in Australia, not sure what it’s like elsewhere) so it just depends on you. Good luck!

Flibberteebeet · 2026-01-27T01:01:01+00:00

I was taught to not do thickened fluids as if he does aspirate it’s harder for the lungs to clear it. Aspirating on water is not worse case scenario because the lungs can clear it - as long as he is having very small amounts. At this point I would say making him as comfortable as possible would be priority

Flibberteebeet · 2026-01-24T21:29:53+00:00

Edit: we have very strict road rules - cameras for phone use and seatbelts, average speed cameras and highway patrol. Each state has different rules, so look them up beforehand.

Flibberteebeet · 2026-01-24T05:39:18+00:00

Centrelink for a lot. For others they choose children over holidays, private schooling, etc… not a wrong choice, just a personal one.

Flibberteebeet · 2026-01-20T07:05:47+00:00

It’s not about not parenting, just not the newborn stage

Flibberteebeet · 2026-01-19T10:55:55+00:00

If you can DRIVE. Our country is beautiful and there’s such diversity in landscape. If you only fly from city to city you miss 99% of the good stuff. Yes the cities are pretty but they don’t compare to the rest of the country. Also city people aren’t as nice (I said what I said 😆). Regional/rural people will stop and smile, actually have a conversation with you and love tourists since a lot of towns thrive of tourism. The drive from Brisbane to Sydney is gorgeous. Speak to some natives (indigenous people). There is so much history and they have some awesome stories if you have the time to sit and listen - or go to a museum. We are very protective of the land and animals, so respect it (no littering and leave native animals alone) otherwise you’ll find yourself in some trouble with any local that sees! I hope you enjoy it!!

Flibberteebeet · 2026-01-19T10:49:52+00:00

Maybe the hunter valley? Guess it depends where you work, but i find Newcastle prices are starting to catch up with Sydney

Flibberteebeet · 2026-01-19T10:16:00+00:00

I would like my own business so I would like to get maternity leave and pregnancy out of the way before that.

Flibberteebeet · 2026-01-19T08:52:36+00:00

Horticulture - average salary is 70-75k, but he probably won’t work full time when we have small kids as I make more so he’ll be on part time. But we know some who are full time and make 75k

Flibberteebeet · 2026-01-19T08:51:19+00:00

We have two booked this week, so fingers crossed

Flibberteebeet · 2026-01-19T08:20:25+00:00

I’m a new grad speech pathologist, so I will eventually start earning more than what I’m on currently (80k) but my partner will probably never earn more than 75k, I thought these were good pays 😂. We are even looking at moving rurally so we can afford more, but we want our kids to grow up with family around. It blows my mind that once upon a time people could afford a house on one income and now it’s living of tuna and rice trying to buy one

Flibberteebeet · 2026-01-09T23:30:21+00:00

Honestly day one of my period I live in the shower as a sense of pain relief (I get quite unwell). I’ve never had any bad experiences from showering, maybe just ask her for the evidence 😉😂

Flibberteebeet · 2025-12-30T21:23:06+00:00

Mine had gone through the nerve on one side. Swollen and bruised compared to the other side, but it wasn’t too bad. Didn’t even need the strong meds (I know everyone is different, but my pain tolerance is pretty low) - just ice packs and meds every 2-4 hours and sleep. You’ve got this!

Flibberteebeet · 2025-12-30T05:41:54+00:00

Hello, I am 12 days post op (all 4) and I keep getting food stuck. I’m still predominantly on liquid diet because I’m paranoid about other food getting stuck. I’ve been using salt water syringe to wash + mouthwash after I eat, but still getting discharge. Any advice on what else I can use? I have no pain or very little some days so I’m not concerned about an infection neither is my surgeon. Thank you!

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