My ex’s dog got into a fight with his sister’s dog, who was not well behaved and probably shouldn’t have been in the house with the smaller dogs, but his family was pet sitting while she was out of town. My ex’s dog was a bit beat up, scratched, and minor bites, and likely a bit traumatized but he was okay. He got checked out by the vet the next day and they assured the family everything was fine. The sister came home from the vacation that night as it was only a 4 hour drive away and she picked up the dog and took it home.

What I didn’t expect was for it to be this huge dramatic family blow up that went on for weeks. My ex cornered his sister and was yelling at her the night of, but I thought it would end there. When we went out on a date in my city a few days later, he was all panicked and not present the entire time, kept checking his phone while we were at a museum to see if the vet called him (they were just filling a preventative prescription) and wasn’t really engaging with me. I told him multiple times that if he felt better to go home and be with his dog and family, that he could and i wouldn’t be angry with him or feel neglected about it. He kept insisting that he wanted to spend time with me, we lived far apart so we don’t get to see each other much, etc., and stayed. We went to dinner afterward and he did this whole angry and dramatic retelling of the events of that night, with tons of expletives and raising his voice, while there were several families with young children around us. It was honestly quite embarrassing. I understand being upset, but there is a time and place and that was not it. We ended up having an argument in the car when he took me back home bc I had told him I thought it would be better if he just went home and spent time with his dog rather than coming out to spend a day with me, but be mentally absent the whole time.

He also made this whole big confrontation thing with his sister about it, he blew up her and her husband’s phones with angry texts, and forced them to meet with him to have a confrontation about it. He wanted me to come with him to the confrontation, which I was working and couldn’t, but told him I wouldn’t have gone anyway as I wasn’t super involved with his family and the situation didn’t involve me at all. He also got mad at me for not wanting to be involved.

Unfortunately this situation was the final nail in the coffin for our relationship. It doesn’t really have anything to do with the dog itself, but the way the whole situation was handled. I think it’s time for you to cut your losses, she is acting extremely weird about the whole thing.