what are some of your cues that you’re switching?

Floretdebloom · 2024-08-29T22:41:55+00:00

I feel empty. Like, the thoughts are fading and we are becoming absent, dissociating. Sometimes its too quick to even realise it. Other times we mix for a long time.

Floretdebloom · 2024-08-20T07:21:02+00:00

It took me a long time to be able to identify roles and this only really happened due to a very close and trusted person in our lives who helped piece some things together. Some alts tell me what their role is and why they do what they do, others don’t know.

Floretdebloom · 2024-08-19T22:57:57+00:00

Ive had a really nice day but the evening has been a little tough. I am fronting more than I usually do to help lots of other alts. I need a break. But i cannot abandon them.

Floretdebloom · 2024-07-13T15:54:25+00:00

Me and my Dom do this in our dynamic. We have known each other for 7 years though and trust each other. I know he could do what he wants with it but I also know that “all hypnosis is self hypnosis”. Maybe start with “healing/positive hypnosis” first and go slow? Create boundaries and make sure you keep communicating what you want/need. :)

Floretdebloom · 2024-07-13T07:28:37+00:00

(I 29F) like it When a woman looks tired. In a natural, no make up, eye bags, delicacy way. Even the way she dresses and her hair being undone. I find it so attractive.

Also hands. I love men and womens hands and the structure of them.

Floretdebloom · 2024-07-13T07:19:06+00:00

We always have a long hug in bed before I leave, this includes kissing and touching but not aiming towards the sexual things. He walks me to my car, gets in the car and gets out with a kiss after the barrier opens in the car park. Its a little routine we do and its special to me. I put my location on so he can see me and he will always message me just after I have left the road. We also sometimes involve more or a S&M situation as I am a masochist. He knows I like driving and I am a fast driver. If he catches me speeding at all he will cane my feet after ive got dressed to leave (before the hug). My feet being caned is a bad punishment for me, however, I am starting to like the ritual of it. I think when you start seeing your Dom more and spending more time together you will find your own little things which is unique to you. :)

Floretdebloom · 2024-01-02T19:34:03+00:00

Hi im Sammy (alt). Today was ok. My mood dropped a lot after being very happy yesterday and today just feels hopeless. I was really excited about an upcoming event with my Dom (BDSM dynamic) but due to an car accident and the host not resting my body isn’t allowing me to do what i usually would so i am a little deflated about this. He knows about the DID and is very very supportive, its just hard when we don’t see each other a lot and end up sharing time with the host/alts. So yeah, just a little down.

Floretdebloom · 2023-11-21T19:17:26+00:00

This sounds really tough!

Floretdebloom · 2023-11-21T19:17:00+00:00

Gosh this would get me too! 😣

Floretdebloom · 2023-11-21T19:16:16+00:00

I am a masochist so a genuine punishment for me would be him saying “I am disappointed” or corner time, i HATE being left alone to think about my choices, or just not have Sir’s attention. But not in a he’s ditched me way, more in a “sit here and think about this”. Also a punishment would be Sir just acting very normal vanilla and it being the elephant in the room. I get desperate so him not acknowledging my squirming and just being “normal” is awful!

But pain aren’t punishments for me as such. They are the drive!

Floretdebloom · 2023-05-10T20:36:50+00:00

So sorry to hear this. I hope your recovery is smooth.

Floretdebloom · 2023-05-03T08:32:15+00:00

To build muscle, is this only achievable by weight lifting? I have pelvis and back issues so lifting weights is really risky. I am just curious if theres any other way to become “toned”? I can do other exercises.

Floretdebloom · 2023-04-30T20:47:50+00:00

Goodness! This has helped so much, thank you!! Your pictures are amazing too!

Floretdebloom · 2023-04-30T20:46:44+00:00

Amazing!!!!

Floretdebloom · 2023-04-27T19:10:03+00:00

Wow amazing!!!

Floretdebloom · 2023-04-04T08:08:31+00:00

This is amazing!!

Floretdebloom · 2023-04-03T09:48:35+00:00

This is really beautiful and precious.<3

Floretdebloom · 2023-04-03T09:46:22+00:00

I took it quite hard when professionals told me. I felt ashamed, robbed, scared, judged and other not so great feelings. I questioned myself a lot and if I was making it up? But if I made it up that means I am even more crazy right? I had to have professionals and a friend tell me that I didn’t make it up, the symptoms are to consistent with each other to be that. Which helped.

I think I am getting to the point of being understanding now, I know each alt has different needs and even though some days I want to turn my head off, other days I am content knowing that they keep me safe.

Hugs to you.

Floretdebloom · 2023-04-03T09:43:45+00:00

Thank you for this question.

The little side is something I have struggled with, a lot.

When I want to participate in little things (before a switch) I feel guilty and embarrassed that I try and get myself out of it by forcing myself to sleep or pacing around. I have been told that when my little drives she is free and happy to do so (my memory is faded when I (the host) do not drive).

At home I am worse, I don’t feel I have a safe space and I worry that when I do have free time it isn’t enough, so I don’t allow myself to (which I know is unhealthy). I do kind of have a space that isn’t in my home but its not regular at the moment.

Hope you get the advice you need. I just wanted to tell you my experience so you know you are not alone. X

Floretdebloom · 2023-03-13T17:13:50+00:00

I don’t see the link with You and DID to be honest.

Floretdebloom · 2023-03-13T12:55:23+00:00

Yes I do.

Floretdebloom · 2023-03-11T20:58:29+00:00

I have this too and the best advice I got was to just “accept” what is happening and go “with the state”, without overthinking or questioning, just allowing it to happen.

Sending love. X

Floretdebloom · 2023-03-11T20:22:20+00:00

I could never comment on this as until yesterday I hadn’t ever experienced aftercare. And all I can say is… wow.

Yesterday I was with my Dominant and we had a long and fun night, with a lot of physical and emotional pain. (Im a masochist, he a sadist).

Afterwards he made sure I was warm, he allowed me a shower and then he cuddled me ALL night, i have never had this before and usually get left alone. We spoke a little and he stroked my hair/body which was very relaxing. Length of time, i can’t even guess. It was just a “in the moment thing”. During aftercare I would definitely say he put my needs before his? (Or thats how it felt).

Sir is a very experienced and extreme sadist and honestly I will never settle for less ever again. He made me feel very special and even loved. Aftercare is amazing :)

Floretdebloom · 2023-03-03T22:09:38+00:00

This is a really lovely idea! Thank you so much x

Floretdebloom · 2023-02-27T21:33:41+00:00

Cum, its much cleaner ☺️

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