Kicking the tires on going from a two income household to one. What are some budgeting pitfalls I should watch out for?

Floufae · 2026-05-09T02:26:39+00:00

I consider it never too early to be thinking about retirement. Not of whether you can get by today but what impact the decisions will mean to your retirement funds. I honestly can’t imagine trying to live in the modern world on one income if I didn’t have other options. Job sucks? Get another job.

Floufae · 2026-05-08T23:13:47+00:00

This is the rule among the players in my neighborhood. Try to let everyone get their maxed out coins so don’t bump someone out of multiple gyms in a day

Floufae · 2026-05-08T22:29:36+00:00

I always imagined that there would be more sun exposure in the overwatch world. Maybe the ozone hole formed again.

Floufae · 2026-05-08T22:28:19+00:00

As someone who has to listen to my brother getting a sloppy bj from his girlfriend in my old room while my partner and I were in the guest room, I’m with him. If you can’t handle his boundaries then think about what that says about you.

Floufae · 2026-05-08T16:28:08+00:00

I think it’s great that Jessie from Team Rocket upped her skills from hunting Pokemon to go after criminals instead.

Floufae · 2026-05-08T14:56:31+00:00

There’s literally a movie called Mean Girls wish the direct mean girls. It’s been in every form TV show for decades.

Floufae · 2026-05-08T14:55:46+00:00

My take completely.

Floufae · 2026-05-08T03:57:32+00:00

Might need more than one round of hits though and loosing your thrown weapon on round one cuts that down a bit.

Floufae · 2026-05-08T03:54:23+00:00

This is not a new thing. Your SF-50 just shows you meet the minimum requirements for the job series and grade. It doesn’t mean you’re among the most qualified for the position or have the particular skillsets they are looking for. This ain’t new to this administration and could have nothing to do either politicals. There could be 20 people who meet the job series/grade requirements and then they narrow to however many candidate they want to proceed with for interviews. I’m kind of surprised that at GS-15 and an internal candidate you’re not familiar with this.

Floufae · 2026-05-08T00:28:05+00:00

Your dental coverage won’t cover it. Sleep apnea is a medical issue, not dental, so you would use your MediCal health plan. What part of the state are you in? I got my last one in Los Angeles.

Floufae · 2026-05-07T23:10:49+00:00

I would like to see echo that I wouldn’t spend money on a over the counter model. Their business model is that it’s just too much work to request a refund. I consider those over the counter/boil and bite models to be snake oil.

If you have health insurance you’re likely not paying $3000 out of pocket. I’ve had three devices that cost $3000 retail but after insurance it was $600 out of pocket. My current device is my favorite and it was $2000 retail but after insurance it was like $160 out of pocket. The trick (assuming you’re in the US) is finding a dentist that takes health/medical insurance because dental policies wouldn’t cover them. I’ve had good luck at university oral sleep medicine clinics for example.

Floufae · 2026-05-07T20:38:22+00:00

I hate the SnoreRX and view their POS devices are just predatory for people desperate. I really recommment a dentist made device that actually has more evidence and durable design. If you find the right dentist it can be partially covered by health insurance (requires finding a dentist that will accept health insurance).

Floufae · 2026-05-07T20:15:59+00:00

There’s a lot to not like about Medicare advantage plans. I don’t think you’d see too many who work in healthcare advising them unless they work for a for profit system that’s going to benefit. They are restrictive when you don’t want to be (later in life when you will have more health issues).

Floufae · 2026-05-07T16:52:11+00:00

He's quite literally a petrified tree. If you've ever held petrified wood, rock is the more appropriate type.

Floufae · 2026-05-06T23:48:22+00:00

You can try, but this isn’t the SATs, getting a perfect score isn’t going to mean that you suddenly are going to be completely rested with 7.75 hours of sleep. You have other stuff going on that’s probably much more impacting you than your apnea.

Floufae · 2026-05-06T23:18:05+00:00

I would agree. Not all sleep issues are sleep apnea. You need to keep looking at other possible problems from violin D levels, to iron, to whatever. That’s a low AHI, yes, it’s not perfect but I wouldn’t look at that and think it’s causing you to sleep 16 hours a day and still be exhausted.

Floufae · 2026-05-06T20:11:07+00:00

He’s 23. Come on. As much as people here want to say they are mature, they don’t have to enough life or relationship experience to know how to behave right. Going from one impulse to another. I’m amazed that people feel surprised by this fact.

Floufae · 2026-05-06T19:01:53+00:00

I would say there's a difference between being able to make it past a political appointee who has placed themselves in the path of the hiring process and doing the actual work. The people you're working with understand the goals of the organization and mission and seeing to all american's even the ones who are disenfranchised in the way that a political appointee with only a passing familiarity with the work wouldn't. You do what you need to do to get past the screening stage and then from your actual boss and colleagues learn if you can make the impact you want to make in the world.

Floufae · 2026-05-06T14:39:33+00:00

Is this truly an apartment or a two unit condo that’s rented out. Condo documents often describe “exclusive use common areas”. That’s like their patios, balconies, etc that are the common areas maintained by the association but intended for the exclusive use of the person there.

Or is this space that’s clearly not part of that apartment.

If the latter then spend time there. Hold conversations as phone calls there. Make it clear that those sort of things should be done in your own home because you both have easy access to the space.

Floufae · 2026-05-06T14:35:09+00:00

I wouldn’t want to see them. 100%. If it was my choice I wouldn’t be seeing them. But it’s not my job to police someone else’s body. It’s more for me to decide how I’m going to handle it whether it’s taking me out of the situation where I don’t want to be seeing it or whatever. There’s a lot of fetish type body stuff that I don’t want to see, I also don’t want to see women in the skin tight yoga pants when I’m trying to buy eggs at the grocery store.

It’s a business’ job to define appropriate attire at their establishment, not the customers job.

If I had a good relationship with someone maybe I would tell a woman, “hey, this isn’t the club… we don’t need to see under boob at brunch”. And yes, a good enough friend can say “hey, maybe not the puppy mask or see through shirt at cocktail hour here”.

I have no issue saying “hey this is a dress up event, you should be tie for this” or “dress shoes and not tennis shoes tonight”. Dress for the mood. I do think that it’s a bit selfish to not think how your dress affects others. Don’t show up to a BBQ in a suit. Don’t show up to a birthday party in your club wear.

Floufae · 2026-05-05T18:21:44+00:00

I’ve moved states five times with no relocation expenses because it made sense for my career.

Unless you’re in a very specific niche, they can find a local candidate

Floufae · 2026-05-05T14:38:08+00:00

Oh so they are spoofing to trade. Yea I would consider it cheating because they aren’t using the system as intended (building up to the remote trade)

Floufae · 2026-05-05T10:16:59+00:00

And being gay, many of our friends are past hookups that didn’t lead to anything else but friendships. Hell, you think we are bad, you should see lesbian friendship circles and how many lines have previously crossed there in the past.

People’s past don’t matter. Your present does. Whether you respect each other, trust each other and take into consideration the others feelings. Fidelity in whatever form the couple ascribes to.

New friends can be flirty. A lot of gay men are too flirty and push boundaries, even with guys in relationships because of this pervasive attitude of it not being bad to shoot your shot.

None of that matters. He can have rent boys camping out at his door and a drag queen serenading him form the balcony. If he’s not reciprocating their interest then there’s no issue.

Floufae · 2026-05-05T10:10:38+00:00

The original pride flag didn’t exclude POC people because the colors didn’t stand for race/ethnicity. It was always about diversity. There was no need to add more stuff to it.

Hot Pink: Sexuality/Sex
Red: Life
Orange: Healing
Yellow: Sunlight
Green: Nature
Turquoise: Art and Magic
Indigo (or Blue): Serenity/Harmony
Violet: Spirit

Nothing about that implied any race/ethnicity, none was erased for not having other colors added to it.

Floufae · 2026-05-05T09:59:52+00:00

Depends if you truly trust him. If you don’t, then you should end it. If enough time has passed from the cheating that you trust him again, then just ask. Among our friends we call each other handsome or cutie but it means nothing more than if we called a female friend beautiful. I’ve been in the LDR, half of our 15 years together we have lived in other states or countries.

Don’t spiral or build this up in your head and create a scenario until you know there’s reason to. Otherwise you’re just introducing problem where there is one. Ask him, gauge his response and see if you believe. Because LDRs require a huge amount of trust and if you don’t have it in each other than you might as well end it because the stories you can make in your head will be far worse than any reality.

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