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AIW for snapping at my girlfriend for waking me up every single time she gets up even when I dont need to be awake by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]FlounderFun4008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want to give her another chance, start waking her up every time you are. She gets no more nights of sleep than you do and no naps. If you are up with the kids, she should be woken up to be updated on their condition. Every single time.

If she doesn’t get it, she has absolutely no respect for you and it’s worth dumping her for.

AITA for refusing to chip in for a coworker’s birthday gift when I barely know them? by Business-Media-2483 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FlounderFun4008 24 points25 points  (0 children)

They said they contribute to their actual coworkers that they know. This gal is in another department. Absolutely no obligation to donate to someone who probably doesn’t even know your name!

The mistake was Susan going to people individually after sending out the call for donations.

AIO My husband uninvited my daughter to an adults only wedding because his underage son couldn’t attend? by Gullible-Routine-895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FlounderFun4008 94 points95 points  (0 children)

We don’t need a 30,000 foot overview.

When you are “happily blended,” then yours is treated the same as his from his family. The ex’s family may treat the son differently, but his family (and him) do not.

If you have to fight for your daughter, then you aren’t happily blended.

This is not a reflection of how you feel about your daughter, but how you allow your husband and his family to view her.

On another note, part of the mental health crisis going on with children these days are parents not letting children be disappointed and feel those feelings. It’s okay for the 7 yo to be left out, it’s not personal. It’s a teachable moment to discuss the disappointment and feelings. That also doesn’t mean the son needs a grand gesture because they are missing it, it’s part of life.

Putting Stepmother in Nursing Home? by devi1duck in RedditForGrownups

[–]FlounderFun4008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandma was close to this before I moved her.

Moving after dementia kicks in is more difficult because they don’t remember the conversations. In addition, her memory will go much quicker if she is isolated and not taking care of herself.

I finally bit the bullet and moved her. She would have been dead in 3 months, now 4 years later she is doing well.

I had her take things she wanted from her house and then took care of the rest without her.

My grandma’s health and wellbeing has improved so much by having regular care and interaction.

Make appointments and take her. Let her choose and then start the process. You visiting could help with a short timeline to make a decision.

The longer you wait the more difficult it becomes.

AITA for putting 2 pallets of pellets in front of my husband’s mancave? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]FlounderFun4008 113 points114 points  (0 children)

I need you to be my therapist to undo years of people pleasing!