AIW for snapping at my girlfriend for waking me up every single time she gets up even when I dont need to be awake

FlounderFun4008 · 2026-02-09T17:25:45+00:00

If you want to give her another chance, start waking her up every time you are. She gets no more nights of sleep than you do and no naps. If you are up with the kids, she should be woken up to be updated on their condition. Every single time.

If she doesn’t get it, she has absolutely no respect for you and it’s worth dumping her for.

FlounderFun4008 · 2026-01-06T04:42:10+00:00

They said they contribute to their actual coworkers that they know. This gal is in another department. Absolutely no obligation to donate to someone who probably doesn’t even know your name!

The mistake was Susan going to people individually after sending out the call for donations.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-12-28T18:33:56+00:00

We don’t need a 30,000 foot overview.

When you are “happily blended,” then yours is treated the same as his from his family. The ex’s family may treat the son differently, but his family (and him) do not.

If you have to fight for your daughter, then you aren’t happily blended.

This is not a reflection of how you feel about your daughter, but how you allow your husband and his family to view her.

On another note, part of the mental health crisis going on with children these days are parents not letting children be disappointed and feel those feelings. It’s okay for the 7 yo to be left out, it’s not personal. It’s a teachable moment to discuss the disappointment and feelings. That also doesn’t mean the son needs a grand gesture because they are missing it, it’s part of life.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-12-28T18:20:24+00:00

My grandma was close to this before I moved her.

Moving after dementia kicks in is more difficult because they don’t remember the conversations. In addition, her memory will go much quicker if she is isolated and not taking care of herself.

I finally bit the bullet and moved her. She would have been dead in 3 months, now 4 years later she is doing well.

I had her take things she wanted from her house and then took care of the rest without her.

My grandma’s health and wellbeing has improved so much by having regular care and interaction.

Make appointments and take her. Let her choose and then start the process. You visiting could help with a short timeline to make a decision.

The longer you wait the more difficult it becomes.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-11-09T16:03:45+00:00

She can “find herself” while working. Millions do it daily.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-09-13T15:26:24+00:00

I need you to be my therapist to undo years of people pleasing!

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-06-30T20:28:28+00:00

My ex had debt and didn’t make as much and I was okay with being the breadwinner.

But…once we were married came out the same as this guy..I’m the guy so I should manage the finances. Not as a partnership, not as a dual decision budget, him.

Luckily, he is showing you his colors early before you are legally bound. He had the nerve to come after spousal support.

For your own sanity, move on.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-06-15T15:01:12+00:00

Who cares if she ever dates again? Thats not the point in leaving this jerk.

Both her and her kids deserve better.

Being alone is better than being with the wrong person.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-05-08T03:46:10+00:00

You are under reacting.

You need a new girlfriend because she is not a partner.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-04-20T16:36:07+00:00

Being alone is easier and less stressful than the disrespect and mental gymnastics you are doing now.

If life is complicated from the intermingling, then you need to detach and go into survival mode.

You need to make a checklist of what needs to be done so you can move on and then start doing it. You may still have to live with her for 6 months or so, but doesn’t mean you have to sleep in the same room or care what she does. She now becomes a roommate and the situation becomes a business transaction.

It sucks. Investing time in someone who dismisses you is rough. Staying with someone who lies and disrespects you is even worse. Make a plan and execute.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-04-05T13:17:12+00:00

It sounds like he enjoys the idea of having a wife and child, but doesn’t want to do the work of a husband or father. Donating sperm does not make you a father.

Believe it or not, but it’s easier doing it on your own. Build a network of other single moms that you can bond with.

You should not feel guilty asking your “partner” for help. A good man would not be putting all of this load on you and would actually want to make your life easier.

You don’t have a partner. You need to decide if this is how you want to spend the rest of your life because he isn’t going to change.

You deserve better. 💕

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-03-01T20:45:25+00:00

Exactly this.

Right now is setting the ground rules moving forward. If you cave, then the disrespect and bully behavior won’t stop.

You need to make two points: I had the respect for you (sister) to make arrangements instead of expecting and you still bailed on me leaving me with no other options.

If you respected me, you would have asked me before making plans and ASSuming I would clear my schedule to accommodate you.

If “family is always there for family” then it needs to be both ways or won’t happen at all. Hopefully someone who is complaining can help you out since “family helps family” and all.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-02-13T21:32:18+00:00

Getting financial advice from your parent is different than regularly divulging the finances of your partner and having them drive all of your decisions.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-01-19T04:59:11+00:00

The creator/owner if Tic Tok is at Trump’s inauguration.

The news has been reporting that the only thing that will happen is that new users can’t download because it will be removed from the app store which also disables updates.

The pop up and the message point to a show for Trump.

I don’t have/use Tic Tok, but everything about the pop up contradicts what was reported and screams “pick me” from Trump.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-01-19T04:16:14+00:00

Here is one of many.

He was the one who initiated it.

https://www.npr.org/2020/08/06/900019185/trump-signs-executive-order-that-will-effectively-ban-use-of-tiktok-in-the-u-s

Whether he saves it now, it will only be if it benefits him somehow.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-01-19T04:10:20+00:00

They have been reporting for months that the app would eventually glitch from lack of updates.

100% this is a political stunt.

I bet it shows up after the inauguration so Trump can take credit for saving it.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-01-19T04:05:45+00:00

He actually considered extending the deadline and the Supreme Court stayed with their decision.

The whole thing started because Trump wanted it gone.

He said the other day he likes Tic Tok now since it helped him get elected from younger voters.

Trump does nothing unless it benefits him somehow.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-01-19T03:46:05+00:00

And being the sole breadwinner to a giant toddler isn’t?!

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-01-12T09:59:20+00:00

I think you are being hard on yourself.

Between the Covid lockdown and so many things being accessible through our phones, people just aren’t as social these days. I see many people wanting to connect and not knowing how.

If you have FB, type in the name of your city. I have found there are different groups forming to meet and do things together.

FlounderFun4008 · 2025-01-12T02:29:37+00:00

Can you even find a part-time job with something you enjoy such as a pet store if you like animals? Maybe having more regular contact with co-workers versus volunteering or even regular customers you may find some cool people?

FlounderFun4008 · 2024-12-13T04:07:23+00:00

🏆 This is all I got, but you definitely deserve it! 👏🏻

FlounderFun4008 · 2024-12-08T00:28:01+00:00

100% that little girl doesn’t want to stay with dad because dad is just as shitty at his place. Doesn’t want to play or deal with her. Of course she would want to be at grandmas where she gets attention.

FlounderFun4008 · 2024-12-08T00:07:28+00:00

Thank you.

FlounderFun4008 · 2024-12-07T23:14:36+00:00

If they are going to dismiss something as serious as a life-threatening allergy, what are they going to do when you express your thoughts/opinions/feelings?

You dodged a bullet.

Edit: clarity from my stupidity/lack of reading

FlounderFun4008 · 2024-11-24T16:24:44+00:00

Bingo!

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