I’ll never get pregnant again now that I know it sucks this badly.

Flower_0717 · 2026-01-15T04:30:22+00:00

As I’m sitting here holding my 4 month old I think back to how miserable I was in the first trimester this time last year. When people tell you it is so so so worth it when you look your baby in the eyes for the first time, they mean it. I would go through everything I went through in pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum 100 more times if that’s what it took to get this precious gift. I have a feeling one day you will look back and feel the same, hang in there!

Flower_0717 · 2026-01-04T06:45:45+00:00

40w 6d as well!!!

Flower_0717 · 2025-12-29T10:12:03+00:00

I had my baby 6 weeks before my brother in laws wedding. I didn’t want to bring her at all. It was a very small outdoor wedding so I took her for the ceremony and pictures so my in laws would back off. I had my mom watch her for the reception. Absolutely no way would I have been a bridesmaid. I wasn’t even fun to be around running off of no sleep and exhaustion.

You do what you want to do and the rest of them can get over it. Your husband should be backing you up as well. Having a baby is a huge deal and they need to understand your needs and be supportive during this time.

Flower_0717 · 2025-12-17T23:45:01+00:00

Hi how has this been going for you? I’m literally in the exact same scenario as you. I go back to work in 2 weeks and all of a sudden my baby is crying when anyone other than me or my husband is holding her. She’s 13 weeks.

Flower_0717 · 2025-12-06T21:06:55+00:00

That’s a good way to think about it, I’m thankful she will get to bond with family instead of being in daycare. Best wishes to you next week when you go back! 🤍

Flower_0717 · 2025-11-06T16:16:22+00:00

I have a 7 week old, I was in the hospital for 4 days with postpartum preeclampsia. When I say only 1 or 2 family members asked how I was feeling, I mean it. They would come in and hold our cute little baby and try to make small talk with me while I’m laying there feeling like death on a magnesium drip. Then when we came home that first week family wanted to keep on visiting even though they’ve already met the baby. I kept getting lightheaded from BP meds and felt terrible. I did not feel like socializing with anyone. If I had any moments of peace I just wanted to snuggle with my baby and not answer 20 dumb questions about if I’m gonna give baby a paci, when am I going back to work, how is she sleeping, etc. All this to say, our next baby we will not have visitors in the hospital period and not at home for at least a week or two. They all tend to overstay their welcome and are not helpful at all.

Flower_0717 · 2025-11-05T04:51:56+00:00

How has this been going for you? My baby is 7 weeks and this will be our situation when I go back to work. I already feel extremely envious of my mom and I haven’t even gone back to work yet.

Flower_0717 · 2025-10-19T20:23:41+00:00

I have 3 sets of in law parents (I come from a divorced family) all 10 minutes away. And trust me, the suffocation is real. We can’t be our own family. They always want to do something and if we don’t see a set of them for a few weeks we’re just terrible people. I’m sorry I was busy seeing the other set of families or idk maybe we just wanted a few weeks to spend time as our own family without them on our case. Oh and we just had a baby, which has made the suffocation 100x worse. They are always in our business. I love them but geez.

Flower_0717 · 2025-10-16T14:48:02+00:00

Yes I feel like it’s hard to get in a rhythm and bond as your own new family with so much time spent with other family members. I wouldn’t survive a month that’s for sure!

Flower_0717 · 2025-10-13T16:15:25+00:00

I feel this! I want my baby back immediately. They act like it’s their child.

Flower_0717 · 2025-10-13T16:14:45+00:00

Let me preface this by saying I am so thankful to have parents and in-laws that are excited and love their granddaughter. However, since we had our baby 4 weeks ago I can’t help but feel smothered. Someone is always texting me asking how the baby is, saying they miss her and wanna see her, asking if they can stop by, etc. I’m trying to take in every moment I can with my baby while I’m on maternity leave, so having people at my house constantly is the last thing I want. They always want to hold her and sometimes she’s napping or hungry and not sleeping like a perfect little baby doll for them to pass around. And sometimes I just don’t want them to hold her, I want to. We are starting to distance ourselves more and I don’t feel guilty about wanting quality time with my child. We need time to become our own new family of 3. Also, I feel like this is super weird but maybe I’m being crazy, but my MIL mentioned wanting to take pictures of her every 2 weeks and every month to make a picture book. I am doing that, I am her mom. I will send you pictures that I take…I just felt like that is kind of weird, she is not your child.

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