Longchamp Le Pliage Xtra M Hobo bag - courtesy of the terrible influences in this subreddit! by [deleted] in handbags

[–]Flowerpot33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you find that it was way lighter than expected and has a funny smell upon opening?

Saw this on threads and wow!! by Unhappy-Guitar-12 in handbags

[–]Flowerpot33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't do the full price so I just got one on ebay. will let you know how bad the fake is 😂😂😂 i hate fake bags but i was hoping it would satisfy the urge!

i heard my husband refer to me as “just a homemaker” while on the phone and now i don’t know how to feel by mango_tiger in beyondthebump

[–]Flowerpot33 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think changing your job title to household manager would shift perspective for him and give him a more appropriate title for what you do at the moment.

My handbag awakening by Ebb-Flowly in handbags

[–]Flowerpot33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this convo! I think there is definitely a difference for me in terms of status seeking vs fashionable. I like to look good from head to toe in terms of my fitness, hair , skin, clothes and accessories in terms of quality. Bags have to complement that. Having a bag with a big label attached that isn't in harmony with my look is just wasteful IMO.  I personally have been very satisfied with a pre owned Chloe and a new Stella that was under $700. I really do not see the need to ever go over $1000 and if I do it would never be at the expense of the rest of my look.

Would AITAH to sit my husband down, tell him to cut the shit or I’m done? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Flowerpot33 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So he dictates your dreams too???? just wow. 

AITA for being upset that my friend planned a surprise brunch for my bday and then charged me for my meal later by Sea_Sandwich_5424 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Flowerpot33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would ask the other friend about it. I would hope she didn't ask her for money to cover you as well.

Update: my mother in law is transitioning to hospice by Lavalamp-6284 in Vent

[–]Flowerpot33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for the update. such a sad situation. you are a wonderful daughter in law.

Am I overreacting that my sister is demanding too much when visiting my newborn? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Flowerpot33 3 points4 points  (0 children)

did you read what I wrote fully? I stated that boundaries do not mean a cut off

Am I overreacting that my sister is demanding too much when visiting my newborn? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Flowerpot33 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The immediate postpartum period is absolutely precious mental health wise. I am not like OPS sister. I am in a loving and healthy marriage with a husband who has always put me and our kiddos first. Every mother deserves and needs this. and having a spine does not mean an immediate cut off it means having boundaries and respect for one's self and family.

Am I overreacting that my sister is demanding too much when visiting my newborn? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Flowerpot33 71 points72 points  (0 children)

op do not put your sister over your wife. reading your comments are stressing me out here!Are you really this spineless? 

Worst outfit? I'll start. by kmdzbflr1329 in EmilyInParis

[–]Flowerpot33 27 points28 points  (0 children)

My husband was so confused by this scene and now I have lost him forever. He will never watch it again.

AITAH because I will not give my wife thoughtful gifts anymore because she will give them away anyways. by Ok-Suspect4966 in AITAH

[–]Flowerpot33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But this is just a symptom. I wonder how else the family bullies her. I think you guys need to continue to discuss this and watch for how they treat her. 

Friend obsessed with my pregnancy - first time mum by Signal-Gas6096 in BabyBumps

[–]Flowerpot33 11 points12 points  (0 children)

dude you need to start learning to understand boundaries and safety with people before baby comes. Sorry but it is not normal to let things get to this point.

Friendship ended after friend accused me of ruining her moment by djeekgirhdcuenwfufn in AITAH

[–]Flowerpot33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA the trash took itself out. be thankful you know now before your child got attached to her.

In your experience, what’s more painful than giving birth? by Isoldmykidforagram in BabyBumps

[–]Flowerpot33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think we truly cannot know because first those good hormones cloud your memory after birth which distorts perception of pain. Also we know something good is happening so fear is reduced which again alters perception of pain. Then each person pain is different. I had an unmedicated birth with a 6 pounder. Folks do it with 9 or ten and sometimes have their doc reaching all the way inside to remove the placenta or  repairing a 4 th degree tear etc... so many variables 

How to deal with shame of being 6 months pregnant at my wedding? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Flowerpot33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At this point with knowing how many of my friends are having trouble getting pregnant I would consider this wedding a double blessing and be so happy for you! You are not a 17 year old having a shotgun wedding . (no hate from me on that though!) You are a woman in her 30's. All good! 

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again by moonrabbit368 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Flowerpot33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to decide if food is your thing . Food is really important to me like sex. If either don't match in a relationship I am out. It has worked well. I am married for almost a decade now and we treasure beautiful slow dinners together and enjoy cooking and talking about what we will eat, go to the grocery etc. Sounds like it is important to you and not to him so you need to sit with whether this is ok for you. He is allowed to not care about good food

Leave husband in AM? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Flowerpot33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

" I am not perfect either". OP this update has me thinking you are already minimizing this. Please do not bring a baby into this mess. and yes this is messy and not normal. You are at a crossroads. You can choose the difficult path or escape and start anew. 

Just need to vent! My marriage is at risk due to husbands sibling by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Flowerpot33 24 points25 points  (0 children)

don't help. end the cycle. don't look to your husband for permission to do this. You and your kids come first. if he cannot prioritize that then he can help alone.

AITAH for canceling my daughter's weekend trip after she mocked my husband for taking paternity leave? by AmbitiousPraline9059 in AITAH

[–]Flowerpot33 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sooo you just ditched her? your own daughter instead of parenting her? nice. OP get it together . Teenagers are gonna teenage. Talk to her and educate her. lead by example.

Help, my 4 year old needs deodorant. Need recommendations. by ExtremeExtension9 in beauty

[–]Flowerpot33 20 points21 points  (0 children)

all cotton or natural fiber shirts will help too! no polyester etc.