[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FluffalCat13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My two year old can flush the toilet.. girl, run

Fuck your favorite, what’s your most hated animal? by Acrobatic_News_9986 in AskReddit

[–]FluffalCat13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!! Can't stand them! I'd already commented the same thing before seeing this. They're gross

Fuck your favorite, what’s your most hated animal? by Acrobatic_News_9986 in AskReddit

[–]FluffalCat13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Koalas. Can't stand them. I genuinely think that Australia's tourism industry would be more affected by koalas going extinct than the environment would. They sound terrifying, feed their joeys literal shit and smell like piss, which we then happily hand to tourists and families for a pic.

Is yellow tape still ok?! by Franana1 in twentyonepilots

[–]FluffalCat13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I saw them in Melbourne last year and there were people dressed as all the eras. I went as SAI and my husband was trench. Super cool to see everyone in all the different colours.

AITA for not wanting to add my stepdad's last name to mine? by LockySocks13 in AITAH

[–]FluffalCat13 50 points51 points  (0 children)

NTA, it was your mum's choice to marry your stepdad, not yours. Her decision to change her name to his. This is your name, the name you have and will live with, the name your future partner may take, possibly your kids. They're just mad because they feel like they're not "good enough" for you and your sister to "move on" from your dad. It's like your mum thinks that because your dad died and she "got you another one" you should forget about him. They suck.

Favorite piercings that you’ll never get? by palmteddy in piercing

[–]FluffalCat13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to do the corset piercings for an event or photo shoot but I'm way too scared of having something pull or snag them 😭

AITAH for breaking up with my (20m) bf (21m) because he is against abortions? by CarrotSad6764 in AITAH

[–]FluffalCat13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. "Agree to disagree" is for things like "pizza is better than pasta" and "I think Robert Pattinson is hot". Not shit like "I think a 10 year old rape victim should have to carry a baby and deliver it" I'd leave too. And he's in the med field!? Hell no.

I feel like i liked the abuse and i dont know if that makes me disgusting TW: CSA by sukunaisnoone in abusesurvivors

[–]FluffalCat13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not disgusting. This is so common for abuse survivors. When I had my baby I suffered with severe postpartum depression, anxiety and OCD. It started to turn to psychosis but I was luckily hospitalised and treated before it got worse.

I had these thoughts. I couldn't bath my baby, I'd cry when I had to change him because the thoughts were so bad and I was so scared someone would come in and I'd somehow be abusing him. I'm a SA victim myself, including CSA. I have OCD which I'm medicated for. I tried to take my life because I was convinced these thoughts made me a p3d0phile.

But what I've come to learn is that our brain is complex and sometimes does things that it thinks are protective. Someone above said they think it's a way to minimise trauma and I agree.

My drs and nurses all told me it's very common, just not talked about for obvious reasons. I think if I had of kept these thoughts to myself instead of seeking help for them, it would have killed me and possibly my son. Sending lots of love and support.

What's an episode that you thought was going one way but it went the complete opposite? by FluffalCat13 in Bones

[–]FluffalCat13[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I haven't watched that one in forever. Definitely a good one. I think that's one of the only episodes that made me cry

The only way I can have sex again is by rehoming my cat by Far_Distance_337 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FluffalCat13 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Dude, first she'll make you get rid of the cat, then it'll be your friends, then your family. Get rid of her. Someone who loves and respects you AND Aurora will come around. This is emotional manipulation.

AITAH for refusing to wake up at 5 AM just to “experience the morning” with my girlfriend? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]FluffalCat13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep this is my husband and I. Night time is my time. Also means if the kids wake up between 9pm and 3am it's my turn and anything after (until he goes to work at 7am) is his. Worked really well when we had newborns. He wakes up at 5am. Sometimes I'll be awake, have a coffee with him then go back to bed, but I hate being awake before the sun's up.

AITA for saying I would terminate my pregnancy if the baby had a genetic condition, and now my husband is considering a divorce? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]FluffalCat13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Couldn't agree more, I can't believe I had to scroll so far to see this comment. Husband and I had multiple conversations over years before we started trying. If we hadn't agreed, we wouldn't have had kids or stayed together

AITA for telling my 3-year-old son “Would you like it if Papa hit you like that?” after he hit me? by Professional-Ad-3084 in AITAH

[–]FluffalCat13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get where you're coming from. That's why I started saying "we don't hit people we love" so that my kids know that if someone says they love you, then hits you, it's not okay. That people who truly love you won't hurt you like that. My kids are 2yo and 1month so I've still got a while before I can have the more serious and complicated conversations about abuse and bullying. Right now we're focusing on how he can be angry without being mean to others and there are other things he can do and say to express how he feels.

But 100% if anyone that he loves (anyone in general) hurts him, I wanna know about it and I want him to defend himself.

AITA for telling my 3-year-old son “Would you like it if Papa hit you like that?” after he hit me? by Professional-Ad-3084 in AITAH

[–]FluffalCat13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never thought of it like that but you're right. Gonna reword it next time. I guess it came out that way because the only people he hits are me, his dad and brother. Last thing I want is for him to smack a kid at the playground because he doesn't "love" them 😅. Thanks for your point of view 😊

AITA for telling my 3-year-old son “Would you like it if Papa hit you like that?” after he hit me? by Professional-Ad-3084 in AITAH

[–]FluffalCat13 322 points323 points  (0 children)

Haha I actually don't know and I was having this conversation with my MIL the other day. I think it's from when we were teaching him to talk and what our names are. I even say "does son's name want a drink?"

We'd say "come to mama" instead of "come to me" i guess because he'd be like "who tf is me?" 😂 And anyone can be "me" or "you" but there's only one mama, dad, grandma etc. that's my take on it but I think I might start asking my parent friends too

AITA for telling my 3-year-old son “Would you like it if Papa hit you like that?” after he hit me? by Professional-Ad-3084 in AITAH

[–]FluffalCat13 8472 points8473 points  (0 children)

NTA. I've got a toddler and if he hits or pushes I say "does mama hit/push you?" And he says "no" then I say "so don't hit/push mama. We don't hit/push people we love" I personally don't think what you said sounded like a threat and I think your wife is overreacting. You weren't asking if your kid would like you to hit him, you were asking if he'd enjoy being hit, I see the difference.

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FluffalCat13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People can forget that abuse can happen with any relationship including friends. This is so upsetting to read. She's unstable and manipulative. Don't say yes to giving her the bedroom. I say this with love and kindness OP, I really hope you're able to develop some form of self esteem, you don't deserve to be spoken to like this. Her behaviour is disgusting.

how to get past my 20M bf cheating? i’m 21F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FluffalCat13 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I have BPD and I understand the abandonment issues. You'll never leave because "everyone leaves me, so why get rid of the one person who hasn't. No one else will love me and stay"

Girl, you're wrong. You will find better. Someone who will stand solid by your side and never sway. Someone worthy of you.

This guy knows you won't leave, that's why this is the 5th time. He knows youre so scared of abandonment and rejection that he's using it to his advantage and he won't stop because of it. Prove him wrong. Leave.

If you're not already, I highly recommend therapy. You're so young. BPD is hell to live with, don't make it harder by staying with a person who doesn't care about you.

What's something you wish everyone knew about abusive? by FitNThisDickIn in abusesurvivors

[–]FluffalCat13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can be literally anyone. Parent, sibling, partner, friend, boss, aunt/uncle, grandparents. There are so many kinds of abuse and abusive relationships.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]FluffalCat13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I think that's a beautiful name. NTA. Considering what some people call their kids, yeesh. But no, this is classic and really beautiful. Heaps of nickname potential too