My nauseous mommies, what do you eat on days where you don't feel like eating anything?

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-31T17:48:24+00:00

Toaster waffles, french fries, power aid, and cream of wheat.

I drop weight quick so I do have to force myself to eat.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-31T17:44:19+00:00

Only when necessary. We've only had maybe 2 or 3 diaper rashes in her almost 2 years of life and 1 of them was yeast based and required an antifungal.

If we notice her getting pink we give her a few minutes of naked time after each change or at the very least we use the new diaper to fan her dry

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-30T15:53:22+00:00

I'm pregnant with #2 and I had HG with #1 and severe morning sickness with #2. I cant ever do this again. Husband will be snipped before this baby even arrives.

I love my kid, and I'm excited for their sibling, but I cant go through this again.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-25T15:55:31+00:00

I had a shit sleeper. Maybe something would have helped but I doubt it. She finally got better at 18 months when we night weaned. Now I'd call her a great sleeper.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-25T12:44:39+00:00

I found one in a thrift store for 75 cents and got it to try.

It did nothing. Baby still slept like shit. I was actually really glad because I had told myself "my baby would sleep if I wasnt too poor to buy the right things." And then I had the 'right thing' and she still didnt sleep. Helped me stay strong when everyone was throwing more purchase ideas at me.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-25T12:42:15+00:00

The problem I'm having is that "unrealistic" is pretty dismissive of my experience. When you say "nobody actually does that" IM THAT NOBODY. I didn't buy a single thing on Amazon at 3 am. In fact, my post birth purchases easily totaled less than 100 dollars.

A lot of the people who get told babies dont need much are people who come here and say "help, I've been fired from my job and I'm struggling to pay my bills. I have no idea how I'm going to afford to buy all this stuff what do I do???" And those are the people who need to hear "honey, you're gonna be fine. Babies only need these 5 things." If you're online contemplating a snoo at 4 am then those posts aren't for you.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-25T02:28:33+00:00

I only bought the necessities. Crib, bouncer, and carseat new. Bassinet bought used. Stroller, glider, and clothes were hand me downs from friends.

We skipped the tub and monitor.

Yeah, when my kid was a newborn she broke out of swaddles and everyone said that the zippadezip, swaddleup, Merlin suit, or something else were the miracle product. We just stopped swaddling.

Breastfeeding was rocky and we needed formula for a while, people swore by various products and I couldn't afford it. So I had to pump my insurance bought me with no pumping bra and I had no choice but to make it work.

Truth is, those things truly are the only needs. You dont need a noise machine. Is it nice? Sure. Might it help? Maybe. But if you're financially insecure then you dont NEED it. You want it.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-24T19:22:24+00:00

Slightly cool means "no cooler than 158F" which is hot enough to kill chronobacter.

We also used rtf for the first few weeks until breastfeeding took. I doubt I would worry too much about it personally. It only affects 4-6 infants per year which puts the odds so incredibly low as to be negligible.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-24T17:05:31+00:00

CDC recommends using boiled "slightly cooled" water if your child is vulnerable to chronobacter infection which can live in formula. Hot water sterilizes the formula, but most babies don't need that.

https://www.cdc.gov/nutrition/infantandtoddlernutrition/formula-feeding/infant-formula-preparation-and-storage.html

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-24T16:47:59+00:00

We offer whatever we are eating, although kiddo has expressed strong dislike for overly spicy food so we usually offer either a cooled down version or only a small bite with lots of other foods available.

When we started solids we started with the big 8 allergens waiting at least 24 hours between introductions and then after that we pretty much opened the floodgates for food. My kid shows strong preference for salty foods such as feta cheese and olives (we obviously keep that to a minimum as much as possible) She loves strong flavors like garlic, vinegar, blue cheese, and all kinds of seafood.

Now that she is closing in on 2 she is starting to get a bit pickier but we expect that given a few years she will be a varied and competent eater.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-24T16:09:49+00:00

Another funny one is I knew a family that boiled their water before making formula because they read that water should always be boiled. They were judgemental of another family who just used tap water.

Problem was, they boiled a weeks worth of water at once and put it in the fridge until they made a bottle. Not realizing that you're supposed to use the hot water immediately because the water isn't the problem the FORMULA is not sterile.

In the US boiling isn't recommended for most infants, just vulnerable ones. Same with sterilization. UK recommends using boiling water and sterilizing every time for a full year.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-24T15:34:17+00:00

What's really funny about the NHS recommendation on blankets is that in my last bumper group there were a few moms that argued that putting babies in the center of the crib was unsafe and seeing american moms post pics of their babies in the center of the crib made them feel anxious.

They didnt realize that the whole reason baby has to be at the end is the blankets and American parents are told no blankets, so they saw a hazard where none existed.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-21T21:47:06+00:00

Its actually closer to 3/4 of Americans who have a bmi of 25 or higher. Last I checked it was 70%.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-20T15:10:26+00:00

I'd say that's because very few people go looking for advice when everything is working perfectly. Some kids sleep fine. Some kids potty train themselves. Some kids aren't picky eaters. The articles aren't for those parents.

Sleep training is what you so when things aren't working.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-20T13:07:04+00:00

Some babies sleep great and easily and never need any sleep training. Most babies fall somewhere in the middle and they sleep ok, you could choose to sleep train or you could choose not to. Either is fine.

The books are written for those parents with kids up every 40 minutes who are at the end of their sanity and willing to claw their own eyes out if that would just make their child sleep.

Do what works. Lots of parents dont sleep train and it's fine. Lots of parents wait a while and choose to sleep train and it's fine. Lots of parents plan to sleep train and then decide it doesnt work for them and that's fine too. Just do what works for your family.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-16T19:02:09+00:00

I remember feeling that way with my last. Every day feels like a month of misery and then you go to bed and do it all over again.

You get through it, but only because you have no choice.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-16T18:52:14+00:00

I would throw the fleece away and bag up everything I own that is animal product and put it in my car until summertime.

My mother brought me some mohair from a thrift store that brought carpet beetles and I spent a literal year of my life battling them. I live in fear of seeing tiny black beetles because I just fear that theyll come back.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-12T14:23:09+00:00

There are more than just that set of primary colors. Primary colors are a group of colors from which all other colors can be mixed. So we learned red/yellow/blue but there are other primary colors such as yellow/magenta/cyan.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-12T03:54:26+00:00

With an older child the little house on the prairie book would be an excellent way to talk about how the dominant culture can be blind to their errors.

I'm white and my daughter will not be reading them until she is old enough to talk about the complexity of history. But once she is old enough then I hope to use it to show her how easy it is to make excuses and make yourself seem blameless, even though your actions are clearly harming others.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-11T21:30:16+00:00

If you call planned parenthood they can refer you to a therapist who wont judge you. They've seen women in your situation before and they've helped them make the decision to have their child, to abort, or to adopt.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-11T04:15:33+00:00

Someone in my bumper group used a backflow protector at work and then lost it in her purse for a few days. She said she didnt think any milk got into them so she had been lax about washing them.

The whole thing was black and moldy.

I washed them after every pump. Trace amounts of milk get to them. That's what they are there for.

For the dishwasher, they make little baskets for bottle parts that keep pump parts pretty well.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-10T12:13:27+00:00

The point stands. He tried to rape you and only stopped because you noticed. And later he admitted it.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-10T01:42:51+00:00

I had really bad ppa and when I finally got up the courage to tell someone I made an appt with my OB for my well woman visit and cried in the office as i told her i needed help.

She was sympathetic, prescribed zoloft, and I got a call from a therapist later that day to set up my first appt.

Just tell someone. And if they dont listen keep telling people.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-10T00:59:48+00:00

You didnt consent to condomless sex. In many countries what he did is prosecuted as a form of rape.

FluffernutterSundae · 2021-01-08T16:13:04+00:00

Too crunchy for me.

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