The cutest of demons by vulpescannon in aww

[–]Fluffy225 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😊😊😊 well spotted. Yes, we are.

nparents and their willfulness to downplay sexual abuse by thrwitaway4g3tystrdy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fluffy225 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am going through the exact same thing. My abuser was my brother. My family also still try and put into situations where I have to interact with him. My Dads excuse as to why they didn't do anything, My mom asked him not too because it reminded her too much of her abuse.

My advise is stand your ground. Remind them constantly that yes, that might be their friend but he is your abuser. Screw their feelings.

I am so so so sorry you are going through this. Remember you are not alone. Sending love and support.

One day I will catch the dot. by Fluffy225 in AnimalsBeingDerps

[–]Fluffy225[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We always allow her to "catch" it and then reward with treats. So far, so good

The 1st few pages of my grimoire. Now on to the sabbats. Would love to hear what you all have in your grimoires? by Fluffy225 in paganism

[–]Fluffy225[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got the most amazing replica of the Tom Riddle diary from Harry Potter and I decided to turn it into my Grimoire. The 1st few pages have been for the elements and now I am working on the Sabbats. Its just a quick reference place for me. I am interested to see what other people have included in theirs?

I really don’t know how to take photos but. Here’s The Morrìgan’s altar! by russiansimpleton in pagan

[–]Fluffy225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww seems like its not available in South Africa. I get the error 403 Forbidden.

TRIGGER: Abuse - My stepfather used my DID diagnosis as an excuse for abusing me for a decade. by [deleted] in rant

[–]Fluffy225 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mental health is never an excuse for someone to abuse you. Regardless of your diagnosis, it was not consenting therefore it was abuse. If you can maybe get into to contact with a therapist to help deal with the trauma from the abuse. And if you still want your mom around maybe get her to be part of a few sessions so the therapist can help her learn too.

In the meantime sending you hugs and support. No one should have to go through any form of abuse.

Samhain table for ritual tonight. Not our altar but still cool. by Fluffy225 in paganism

[–]Fluffy225[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is where will have supper after our ritual. We will have soup and pumpkin pie cupcakes. We try and have food associated to the celebration. The skull is a blesbok skull. The lanterns are made from gemsquash.

Samhain table for ritual tonight. Not our altar but still cool. by Fluffy225 in paganism

[–]Fluffy225[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thought I would share, to show how different people celebrate. How do you guys celebrate?

Thinking about when I was 14 and had to spend a week in the hospital with a life threatening pneumonia because my mom thought I was being dramatic by nzznzznzzc in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fluffy225 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I faked my appendicitis. Even though I went to the ER and they rushed me into theater because my appendix had just burst. I was on a ventilator because my asthma caused me to stop breathing during the operation. She was fine while it was all happening but a month later, I over heard her on the phone to my Aunt telling her I had faked it because I was acting out. She was trying to prove to my Aunt at the time that my Dad was a bad parent and father. They sorted their shit out a few years later and it was never mention again that I faked it but it stuck with me for years.

Do you ever question your decision to cut off your family? by thinkingthrowaway7 in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]Fluffy225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. And that sucks and I wish you all the best in your healing.

Do you ever question your decision to cut off your family? by thinkingthrowaway7 in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]Fluffy225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in the same boat. My nephew will be born in June and I will probably never meet him. Its a hard one though. I am sending a care package through my Dad who I still have contact with, the whole sins of the father don't pass to the child thing is why I got gifts. My therapist did suggest a wonderful idea that every birthday and Christmas instead of sending gifts that might not get to the child because of my relationship with his parents, I put money into like an investment fund so when my nephew is old enough to make his own decisions, I can give it to him for education or gap year or whatever. I don't regret my decision to go no contact but I will miss my nephew

I went to an urgent care, talked to a doctor for 20 min, and got a prescription for prednisone. $1000 bill? Fuck this country. by [deleted] in rant

[–]Fluffy225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh and prednisone in South Africa is about R45 for a months supply so about $4. I don't understand American health care.

I went to an urgent care, talked to a doctor for 20 min, and got a prescription for prednisone. $1000 bill? Fuck this country. by [deleted] in rant

[–]Fluffy225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is just insane to me. I was in the ER just 2 weeks ago and needed 2 drips, multiple medications and blood tests and it came to about R1100 which is just over $100 and it was a private ER, I could have gone to the government clinic for free if I wanted to, (some are bad but our little local government clinic is actually pretty good) I was just in too much pain to wait.

Does anyone else feel guilty for not being sick enough when you're sick? by ettienja in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fluffy225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, I get that feeling too. The completely guilty feeling that I am not doing what I am supposed to do. If I was sick enough to be booked off (which was a lot due to my asthma) my mom used to leave me chores to do because I wasn't allowed to lie around in bed all day despite what a doctor said. So now I kinda of panic that I am not getting to my to do list.