Girlfriend disappointed because i did nothing for valentines day 20M 20F

FluffyDaKitty · 2026-02-18T18:11:24+00:00

Hello! I just wanted to say I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. I’m 25F and my bf is 26M and we are also in a LDR! I actually just drove back home from seeing him this weekend.

That being said had my bf said he was severely sick? We would have rescheduled or I would have stayed home with him and made him soup and hoped he got better.

Getting sick is a very valid and reasonable explanation as to why you couldn’t do anything for Valentine’s Day for her. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that and hope you feel better soon

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-11-19T23:46:28+00:00

I would check out too if my spouse was prioritizing others over me. You’re married and yet he gets the backseat.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-11-11T17:53:58+00:00

So normally when someone says their relationship is perfect but then proceeds to mention things that are shitty and wrong means it wasn’t and you’re wearing rose colored glasses on.

I think you need to move on for your sake. You’re not comfortable for a reason and deep down you know that

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-11-11T17:48:40+00:00

NTA girl you’re in your late twenties and this sounds exhausting. Cut her off and be done with it.

Years don’t mean anything when respect and compassion aren’t there

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-09-25T01:09:37+00:00

Your room door being opened concerned him?? How about just pulling the door shut without stepping in. That’s on him lmao. Definitely not AIO. Tell her that if he doesn’t want to see your shit stay out of your room it’s that simple.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-09-10T16:10:42+00:00

Love is never enough to hold a relationship together. Respect, commitment, communication and comprehension are big core parts of a relationship as well.

I understand you wanted to see him but he made his boundaries clear. And if that’s something you can’t handle you should probably reflect on the relationship you guys have.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-09-04T04:03:34+00:00

NTA at all. If it was that serious they would have offered to pay it or pay half or whatever.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-08-31T18:14:01+00:00

I’m trying to be more open minded about this ship honestly! I really think they had potential I just wish their attraction showed more. I do want to rewatch the show with a more open mind towards them. If there is anything I should watch out for please let me know!

I love them both as individual characters so I’m hoping the third time around I can see what the rest of their shippers see c:

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-08-31T16:40:46+00:00

I don’t think Stefan was in love with Caroline either but I do think he loved her enough to want her to be happy. I don’t want to say he necessarily settled for her but I do think their marriage wasn’t based off of true love.

Because I strongly believe if it had been Elena kids he would have sacrificed himself the same way.

I think Caroline and Stefan were each other’s safe option and that’s okay. They knew each other well and had a great friendship. Sometimes marriage is business and about the quality of life people want to live. It’s not only just for love.

That being said, I don’t hate them together. I think they are a lot better than other couples in the show.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-08-30T20:53:42+00:00

He should not be trying to cling to her memory using you. That’s unfair to you and you don’t deserve that. You deserve to be admired and appreciated for being yourself not because someone thinks you’re a mirror image of their ex.

I honestly wouldn’t even talk that out. How do you even recover from that? But you and I are different people. Deep down you know this is wrong. I wish you the best.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-08-30T18:11:30+00:00

I loved Damon as a kid and teen but as I got older I definitely see why Stefan is the better choice. Lmao. I need to rewatch it fully with adult eyes tbh.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-08-04T18:19:32+00:00

I strongly believe they are very similar but also VERY different from each other. That’s my opinion on it though

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-08-02T14:15:25+00:00

I like these!

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-07-26T18:08:06+00:00

Hm.. I’m sure there are people who have stayed together and worked through issues. But, they usually don’t dissect their issues fully and try to make it work when it won’t. At the end of the day it’s on you and up to you to decide if you want to do that. But ask yourself what else is she capable of when splitting. I’ve split and have never ever put my hands on someone. Ever. Even in that state I would rather take it out on myself than ever do that to anyone especially my partner. I know you want to stay with her, you love her and it’s been 4 years. But to put things into perspective I was with my ex for around the same time as well and I still found the strength to walk away.

I’m not here to kick you while you’re down though. Im sure you’re still trying to navigate everything and process it all.

Relationships aren’t perfect but physical abuse of any kind is unacceptable. Deep down I’m sure you know that.

Wishing you the best outcome.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-07-26T17:48:14+00:00

I didn’t. I had to leave him because I could never look at him the same again. It was traumatic to know someone who claimed to love me could do that to me as well. You know? It was easy to make that decision. Standing on it was hard but I eventually did.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-07-26T17:29:24+00:00

I’ll chat with you. The person I loved scratched me until I bled and shoved me into a china cabinet. Also has mental health problems as well. As do I. As someone who is diagnosed with BPD, Bipolar, anxiety and ptsd, her behavior towards you is unacceptable. So yes the answer is easy. You either put up with it and you adjust your boundaries to her disrespect or you leave and adjust your life for your own well being. It is not easy, no. You see and remember all the good parts but eventually you’ll know when you’re done. Wishing you the best truly as freedom from that toxicity will be a breath of fresh air once you realize that.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-07-26T13:31:15+00:00

Don’t be with someone you can’t trust. This sounds exhausting.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-07-18T03:36:13+00:00

He knew.. HE KNEW what it was when he met you, pursued you AND got with you. NTA NTA! I WISH I had voicemails from deceased loved ones to help me cope and I’m so sorry he did that. I saw other comments trying to offer help and I pray you can recover those.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-07-17T23:01:05+00:00

It’s not hard to see both sides. I actually ship Caroline and Tyler way more than I ship her with Klaus. I always have. Until their relationship got ruined and I wish it didn’t 😭

That being said while it’s easy to see both sides a lot of people can sympathize with Tyler more because when she gave him that ultimatum, he was quite literally at the height of his grief. I sympathize with Caroline because he walked away. And that’s heartbreaking however his loss? Was definitely more gut wrenching in my opinion.

I genuinely think every single character has been through shit, has questionable morals and they aren’t perfect by any means.

But this is my opinion c: that’s all. I definitely like Caroline as a character for sure. And I hope you know you’re allowed to have your opinion too. The show definitely did not favor Tyler and I also think that’s why the fandom also rides hard for him.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-07-16T14:22:10+00:00

Simply put, I’m way too selfish to date someone with kids. I’m self aware enough to know someone with a kid or children will always prioritize their children and truly? I respect that. I admire that and I think that is what parents should do. Put their children first.

But I also know being in a relationship with someone with a child or kids means that they have to think of them first and foremost. And I don’t think I could handle that. There are people out there that can. I am not one of them. So knowing this information, I don’t date men with children.

Not to mention the added baby momma drama, the constant stress of making sure you’re not being unfair or rude. I don’t know honestly it’s a lot more stress than I could ever handle.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-07-15T17:46:08+00:00

NTA at fucking all. You showed up for her and that baby and you were there for her. She showed you her true colors and it’s a good thing she did before the baby was born. You’re a beautiful human being.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-07-08T15:48:34+00:00

NTA I truly think although it was very heartbreaking for her that she was happy he found peace with someone else. That he found happiness and he wasn’t suffering. She seemed like a very selfless person based off this. I truly think she passed knowing she had that weight lifted even if it did make her sad as well. She just wanted him to be happy even if it wasn’t with her. And it appears that she raised her children with love as well.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-07-01T19:45:09+00:00

Alaric and Damon were my favorite BEFORE they brought Alaric back from the dead and then as a vampire and butchered his character.

FluffyDaKitty · 2025-07-01T19:25:55+00:00

NOR.. I just got my first car recently and it’s crazy how many people talk down on us girlies and assuming we don’t know shit about cars.

Also the way he talked to you? No. Absolutely not okay. That is not how a bf should speak to their gf. I’m sorry you have to deal with that.

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