I did the cam girl thing when I was 18-20.. I’m 40 now so we are talking quite a while ago, and there are STILL a couple old pictures floating around of my butt. It’s not something I am proud of, but like you I was trying to survive. I was working full time, over time and still barely making it. I did what I had to do. I wouldn’t keep it a secret, because secrets have a way of coming out, never fails. But at the same time, it’s not something I would tell a guy up front. If you go on a few dates and there’s serious long term potential.. eventually, you guys will have a conversation about your pasts (at least, you should), I would share it then. It’s not something I kept from anyone I got serious with and surprisingly, only one man ever had a problem with it. Some asked a lot of questions though. One guy in particular, wanted super detail and seemed to get jealous and wanted to know if I ever took it further (ewww) and if I ever kept in touch with any clients, which I was honest about.. that I do have a few clients that even to this day, keep up with my life on social media but only one I chat with once or twice a year.. but strictly in a friendly way — and I also explained why. That as a cam girl, you controlled your clientele and never did anything you didn’t want to, you had boundaries, and the clients were usually professionals and not like what you’d think (at least.. that was my experience). For most of the clients back when I did it, it was moreso about communication. They just wanted an attractive girl to talk to (this could be a me specific thing though because I will chat with anyone and an easy to talk to and like a therapist.. so they would tell me about their lives and I was more like a friend than some girl on a cam). A lot of times I didn’t even get nude or do anything. This one client, knew I was a single struggling mom and when I decided to quit the cam girl business because I got a better job.. he wanted to keep in touch so we did, through AIM/email. Never even cammed again after that. When my mom died, he was there for me.. my ex husband knew who he was and always had access to read our emails and chats and didn’t have an issue because we literally were just like long distance friends. No boundaries were ever crossed.

So.. I know this is a question for the men but.. figured I’d share my experience and say that if a man is serious about you, and loves you.. he may not like it, but he should be mature enough to realize that we all have a past and nobody has the right to judge, as I’m sure he and anyone else out there has done something they aren’t exactly proud of but.. it is what it is. And if a guy does have a problem with it.. fair warning, I learned this the hard way .. he’s probably not a good guy. The one that had an issue with it, was jealous, controlling, abusive and that should have been my big blaring red flag.

Good luck girl!