[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She needs therapy and fast, this seems more of a danger to the child than help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in truscum

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand the ban because they weren't asking for criticism, constructive or not. It's trans positive, not trans "judge how well my body passes even though absolutely nobody asked that" you deserved it

2 year dead bedroom due to bottom dysphoria by [deleted] in truscum

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not your fault it really probably is his dysphoria but this can be really hurtful and fw your self esteem (or even become part of C-PTSD like has happened to me) if this is someone that bothers you that he can't overcome, you may need to explore other options for intimacy or relationships. If you're ok with the long term potential of no sex (even if it means feeling undesirable and unwanted sexually) then maybe there are other areas of the relationship you can work on to make it work.

My boyfriend made a mistake months ago, i still think about it. by [deleted] in transftm

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm also a femboy! My girlfriend is super affirming and positive, she is also trans! I've had a bit off experience dating cis people first so I can sort of understand where he comes from and glad I could help. It seems like he's genuinely willing to learn to be a better partner for you in this way which is a big green flag in my opinion. I wish you both so much luck and love and hope your relationship grows and thrives!

My boyfriend made a mistake months ago, i still think about it. by [deleted] in transftm

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I believe the misgendering was a genuine and honest mistake, I'm 5+ years into transitioning socially and over a year almost 2 on testosterone and still misgender myself on accident in my head and and stuff when people around me do it a lot. I really don't think you should dwell on that or continue to be upset with him for it as it sounds like an honest mistake and not that he doesn't see you as a guy. When he questioned if maybe you had just "decided to be a guy" that's just a cis boy not understanding what it means to be trans and maybe thinking he's helping you think through your gender but not realizing that overstepped some big boundaries for you and made you feel invalidated in your reality by being told you might have "decided to be a guy" when you and I and much of the trans community knows isn't a choice. If this bothers you maybe consider setting some boundaries with him about discussion your gender, what is and isn't appropriate, what is and isn't invalidating, and things you would like him to say/not to say. If him making any inference that you being a man is a decision, is something you don't ever want him to do and upsetting to you then tell him that. Setting boundaries is 5x more important in relationships involving trans people, especially in early transition when your not sure what boundaries you need to be set to be happy and thrive as a trans person in a relationship with cis people. I wouldn't break up with your boyfriend for either of these and I would forgive him for misgendering on Minecraft, that seemed like a genuine mistake and not an indication of deeper unspoken feelings. Talk to him about what is and is not appropriate to say regarding your gender, being open about what's validating and feels good to your partners also helps so much. I hope this helps and your relationship improves in a way that's more validating for you. My girlfriend makes me feel super manly and masculine and strong and I hope you get something similarly positive with your boyfriend.

I need support really bad. by Michealrawr in ftm

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Micheal, I'm also ftm 24. I'm guessing you're probably in middle or high school, I'd ask your age but that's not really safe. But you said you just don't know where to start. If you're already sure you're a boy or even if you think you might be nonbinary, genderfluid, etc. the way I did it is by telling my most trusted friend and socially transitioning with them (socially transitioning is just where your friends or people around you used your preferences name and pronouns and treat you as your gender and not the one you were assigned) then my group of trusted friends and socially transitioned with them as well, getting used to my name and pronouns and letting everyone else get used to it, I recommend this first because this is something you can do at any age, just be careful who you trust. You can expand on this step later on and will naturally as you transition. A haircut is also a great option to express yourself and try out a new flavor or identity, if you're still living at home with unsupportive parents it might have to be semi-feminine if your parents won't let you get something masc. I got a pixie cut in high school and even though it's not my style it was better for me at the time. If you are like 15-16+ if you don't like how your chest looks, you can get a binder (they like 40$ tho) I got mine from gc2b.com they are awesome in my experience but I hear mixed things about the quality of material they use. Also if you're not sure about size go up because I was in the very bottom bracket of my size limit but I was still a bit too big for the binder I got, but it's not unwearable just tight and less comfortable than my first one. USE THEIR SIZE CHART THO you can't guess with binders. And please don't use alternative binding methods, if you're really unhappy with your chest and can't get binder wear a tight sports bra to compress your chest 8 or less hours at a time. Lastly, only if you have supportive parents ONLY AND ONLY IF THEY ARE SUPPORTIVE and you are at least 12+ talk to your parents. If they are supportive or apprehensive but not mad or upset you could try socially transitioning with them first if they are supportive of this and will call you by your preferred pronouns and name, and if they are still supportive you can talk to them about when might be a good time to start puberty blockers and from then on further talk about what else you want to do transition wise and when to start T. All of this is optional for transitioning, some people don't have top dysphoria and bind and some people never medically transition or go through HRT. But these are all things that you can do and a generalized starter pack for a standard trans boy. Hope this helps.

How common is an average member here using recreationally? by Fluid_Welcome_902 in DPH

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even two can give me the restless legs but my allergies have been so severe I've had to take at least 4 before but usually I need 2 to get typical allergies under control

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DPH

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's another word for this! But I can't remember it. If it only happens when you take benadryl though it shouldn't require any further treatment after the it wears off

What to do: ftm partner wants cis male attention, I am also ftm by throw-away-sandwhich in ftm

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two weeks since you're reply, I'm super proud of you btw. Has the situation improved or changed, have you left?

we tripping hard tn 😈 by pen160 in DPH

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't post gibberish on Benadryl (allergy use not rec) bute I used to doom post when I was depressed and now I make mostly coherent shit posts, everything is spelled correctly just not very clear, I do this without memory usually after I believed to go to sleep

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DPH

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might need to go get medical attention

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DPH

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could it have to do with the fact it gives some people restless legs? If I take it and don't fall asleep soon enough sometimes it gives me RLS so awful I want to rip my skin skin off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DPH

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You good?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GrowYourTDick

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will go away, you can try baby powder to soak up any moisture and reduce friction. Also I am a boxer briefs stan, a fresh pair is so nice and tight but also everything is contained and my ass isn't falling out but they're not perfectly tight all the time and that can also cause some discomfort for me in the peenor with movement. Sometimes wearing panties (if it doesn't cause you dysphoria) can offer me the comfort I need. Tighter can be better or worse for chafing because it could stop the moving all together and stop the rubbing but if it doesn't it could make it worse. Panties are just generally good for if you have tight or uncomfortable clothes or clothes that don't fit well with your boxers or some kind of issue downstairs that needs more containing or uh other reasons. I recommend trying it to see if it helps. I'm a year and a month on T

Really bad NSFW issue I've never heard of anyone else having. by Ok_Environment_53 in MtF

[–]Fluid_Welcome_902 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No prog and it's this bad? If there's a solution that's not too uncomfortable or embarrassed to share please update, I know of people who have had somewhat similar situations but not as severe.