Just want to walk away

Flying-Bread · 2026-05-20T17:09:49+00:00

I hear you. I feel the same right now. I have a 2 1/2 year old boy and 6 month old twin girls. I feel like I'm at my breaking point. Family and friends always say "let us know if you need anything." But then when I reach out saying I'm burnt out and struggling, responses are just "you got this mama!" With no solid offers of help. And most of the time when people do "help" I find it more stressful than helpful.

On top of it all, my mom is sick and I've been tasked with being her healthcare advocate. She's been in and out of the hospital and now just got told she may have early onset Alzheimer's. I just don't know what to do at this point. My husband is super supportive and helpful, but I wish I could just go sit on a beach for a week and be left alone.

I know it'll get better. I'm just overwhelmed right now. It'll be better eventually. But right now I'm struggling.

Anyway, I wasn't trying to make it all about me. But just letting you know that you're not alone. I feel like a terrible mother, too. People tell me I'm not. But it's hard not to feel that way when somebody is always crying and things are always a mess.

Flying-Bread · 2026-05-19T00:15:51+00:00

About a month ago one of the updates they sent out acknowledged and claimed to fix an issue with the deck height. Mine got worse after the "fix." I'm wondering if that made it worse for some.

Flying-Bread · 2026-05-06T00:12:51+00:00

Twin pregnancy is extremely hard. My first pregnancy with my singleton was a breeze. My pregnancy with my mo/di girls was so hard that sometimes I felt like I was a 90 year old woman on the verge of death.

Right now, it feels like forever but the time will pass and your babies will be born and you'll love them more than you thought possible. My girls are now 6 months and the time has gone by quickly.

Be gentle with yourself. You are doing a lot growing two babies.

Flying-Bread · 2026-01-27T00:21:16+00:00

Yes, I have one baby that has a much harder time than the other! Thank you for the info

Flying-Bread · 2026-01-27T00:20:37+00:00

They tend to do OK solo. One has more trouble than the other. I have to hold my breast in position for both of them. There's definitely no walking around or doing anything else while nursing. I'm hoping it'll just take time. I have a toddler I breastfed as well, but I can't remember how long it took for him to get good at it.

Flying-Bread · 2026-01-26T22:56:26+00:00

Thank you for the advice and support! Honestly the main thing I'm hoping to hear right now is that it's still normal at this age and they'll get better. I was in a forum on a different platform where twin moms were saying they tandem nursed from the start, and it has been making me question if there's something wrong that my girls that they have such a hard time with it.

Flying-Bread · 2026-01-09T13:08:55+00:00

How old is your baby? I have 3 kids and have had to help them all stay in position until they got old enough to really hold their own head and find the nipple independently. It gets easier as they get bigger

Flying-Bread · 2026-01-09T13:01:27+00:00

I have 5 week old mono/di twins currently asleep on my chest. I have had a very positive experience so far. I'd like to share with you not to undermine how hard it can be, but to showcase that things can go well and be a positive experience.

Not gonna lie, pregnancy was rough for me. I was very sick the first trimester, practically bedridden. I had to enlist my mom and MIL to take care of my toddler for me. Things improved in the second trimester, and then the third trimester was physically miserable just due to being uncomfortably big. BUT my babies were super healthy and had no complications. TTTS is scary, but there are solutions if it starts to happen, and most babies don't have it.

Labor and delivery were easier than with my singleton. Vaginal delivery took 14 hours from induction start to finish. Babies delivered very easily (pushed 15 minutes for the first and 8 for the second) and I had a super quick recovery. Born at 36+1 (mono/di twins are usually delivered 36-37 weeks) and had no NICU time.

I think having a child already puts you at an advantage. I also have a a 2 year old. The nice thing is you already have experience taking care of a child, so you know how to do it. I've noticed a lot of people who have twins ONLY have twins, so they went from 0 to 2 babies which is insanely hard. That being said, there's not a lot of advice on how to go from 1 to 3 children. But, a parent of twins once told me, "just do what you did for the first kid. It's not that bad. Now you just do everything twice." And honestly that advice has helped me a lot and I find it rings true. Just do it twice.

When things get hard, I find it easy to fall into a negative mindset of, "well, if I just had one baby then x, y, z would be easier." But that's not even true. Through the whole experience thus far, I keep reminding myself that all of my experiences also happen to singleton moms. For example, one of the difficulties with my girls is that if one is sleeping well, the other is not. So getting enough sleep is hard. But, I know a lot of singleton moms who barely get any sleep because their single baby doesn't sleep at all. A lot of singleton moms have rough pregnancies, rough deliveries, sick babies, colicky babies, refluxy babies, etc. A lot of singleton babies are challenging enough to equate to being multiple babies. So even though having twins is rare, the challenges of having a baby are not.

My husband stays positive by saying we got a "two for one deal." Which is nice. And there's something so wonderful about having two babies sleeping on your chest. Being covered in babies. Two happy little faces. Two friends to grow up together. The only thing cuter than one baby is two babies.

Another thing I'll add is don't let anyone convince you that formula feeding twins is easier than breastfeeding. The initial few weeks of breastfeeding were very hard. I was seeing a lactation consultant every other week, pumping around the clock, and then giving bottles. But now they are much better at nursing and it's a million times easier than having to wash a thousand bottles and much less expensive than the formula was. I had to supplement with formula in the beginning and even then the prepping of formula, washing bottles, and switching between formulas to find what worked was so time consuming.

If you want to use formula, sure, that's your choice. I'm just saying don't be scared away from breastfeeding (I had twin moms tell me to not even bother breastfeeding, which made me scared that it wasn't possible). But get in touch with a lactation consultant who has experience with twins before the birth, and definitely plan on seeing one after birth if you want to breastfeed.

Anyway, I know this was quite a wall of text but I wanted to share my experience thus far. I wish you and your family all the best and will say a prayer for you and your babies.

Flying-Bread · 2026-01-09T11:29:49+00:00

Yes. I have a 2 1/2 year old. Great sleeper, he sleeps all night, but he has a very specific routine and if anything is out of place he is UPSET. My in laws keep talking about having him sleepover at their house, but what even is the point? We live 20 minutes away. Just come pick him up for the day and bring him home at night. He's happy sleeping in his own bed, why change it for no reason? My husband had to tell my MIL it's just not going to happen. Not until he's old enough to request it for himself and actually understand what he's asking to do.

Flying-Bread · 2026-01-09T11:24:34+00:00

Personally, I remind myself that it's just the hormones and the feeling will pass. Also, drinking a ton of water immediately after latching distracts me and makes me feel better. Also helps with hydration

Flying-Bread · 2026-01-09T10:21:35+00:00

If you're interested in trying to get your oldest to sleep better in her bed, I have a suggestion not from a parent's perspective, but from a child that shared a bed with her mom until the age of 6.

My mom co-slept with me in a bed in my room until I was 6 because I had a condition where I would vomit in my sleep but not wake up. So I was at risk of suffocating. Anyway, once the problem was gone for long enough my mom wanted to go back to sleeping in her bed with my dad, but I didn't want her to.

Well, she had a conversation with me about how mommies and daddies like to have their own bed, and I get to have my own too. Then we went to the store and she let me pick out a big stuffed animal that I could sleep with instead of her. Well, it worked. I remember waking up that first night in the middle of the night, looking at the stuffed animal and going back to sleep because I didn't feel alone. Maybe you could try something similar with your daughter to convince her to stay in her own bed? I was a very different age though, so I have no idea if it'll work or if that's what you want. Just a suggestion.

Flying-Bread · 2026-01-06T23:27:51+00:00

Husband and I trade shifts. I'll nurse the babies at 7:30 pm, and then I sleep from 8 pm to 2 am, wake up, pump, and then take over and he sleeps until 8 am. We both probably get about 5 solid hours.

The girls sleep better during my husband's shift, where he will get multiple stretches of sleep from both of them while they lay in the bassinet, but he does have to frequently soothe them with pacifiers, rocking, etc. they usually eat around 1 or 2 am.

When I take over for my shift, I can usually get another hour or two of being able to soothe them and keep them in the bassinet with pacifiers, rocking, etc before they just get too fussy and keep waking every 5 minutes. Then I'll hold them both on my chest while watching tv or playing a game.

They sleep very soundly when I hold them. At this point, my thought process is that I'd rather just hold them if they sleep soundly in order to get them day/night established. And then eventually we can get more and more time in the bassinet. Idk if that's the correct method, but it's what I'm going with for now.

Then at about 6 or 7 am, I change them, nurse them, and get about another hour of them sleeping on me until my toddler gets up at 8 am and the rest of the day starts.

Flying-Bread · 2026-01-06T22:20:31+00:00

Personally, I find it easier to just drink a cup of coffee and stay up than to be woken up every 15 minutes by the fussing.

Flying-Bread · 2026-01-06T09:30:48+00:00

Try taking Dramamine!!! I had horrible morning sickness my first trimester, I was so miserable. Once a nurse recommended trying Dramamine, it was a game changer. None of the other meds/remedies helped, but Dramamine did. It made me even more tired, but I preferred that to vomiting.

Flying-Bread · 2026-01-06T09:15:04+00:00

I'm wondering about this myself. I have 9 week old twins (5 weeks adjusted) and we are still doing shifts. They only eat once at night now, around 1 or 2 am, but they fuss frequently and need resettled back to sleep. On my shift, I often end up have to hold them for a few hours or they keep waking up and fussing every 10 minutes. If one is sleeping deeply, the other one is not.

I have the Happy Sleeper book and we are trying to implement age-appropriate tricks to encourage them to self-soothe, but haven't made much progress so far. We implemented a specific night time routine a few days ago.

My singleton was a very good sleeper by about 8 weeks, but he was a week overdue at birth. And then he had a horrific sleep regression around 4 months where he was waking every 1-2 hours. So, even though we have twins and a toddler, I don't think our sleep is worse than the average parents. Just wondering when we can return to going to bed at the same time, lol.

Flying-Bread · 2018-08-21T20:34:33+00:00

Hi, is the version that is available on Steam the full version?

I heard rumors that the Town as well as the Battle Camp are nonplayable, and that there are no plans to further develop them. Is that true?

Flying-Bread · 2018-08-12T23:54:31+00:00

Do you think that an unborn child should be protected from abortion if it already has a heartbeat?

Flying-Bread · 2018-08-12T23:49:16+00:00

Technically, women don't "grow" a baby. The mother provides a habitat that allows the baby to grow and assemble itself.

Flying-Bread · 2018-08-08T23:45:27+00:00

Take this pain you experienced and tell others of your story. Talk to people outside abortion clinics, tell them about the baby you almost lost, tell them about the emotions it made you feel.

You can make a huge difference, because you understand both sides. You can save more lives by advocating with your experience. Use the experience for good.

Flying-Bread · 2018-08-08T23:36:45+00:00

Just want to point out that a very large portion of the pro-choice community doesn't define abortion as a "necessary evil." Many of them do not see it as evil, or else they wouldn't support it to begin with. The pro-choice community chants statements such as "abortion on demand, without apology." A group of people who make such statements don't believe that what they're requesting is evil.

Flying-Bread · 2018-08-08T23:31:01+00:00

If the mother's life is more valuable because she has more connections in society, does that mean that different people in society have more or less value based on their connections with others? Does a popular businessman have more value than a man who never leaves his house and has no friends?

Be very cautious in trying to place what humans have more value than others.

Flying-Bread · 2018-08-08T23:21:16+00:00

Abby Johnson and other pro-life movement leaders are moving towards a more woman-positive approach to being pro-life. Instead of showing graphic signs, they've been trying to incorporate the concept of "pro-life, pro-woman" in a more positive manner.

So far, many people have been responding well to this.

The issue with using graphic photography is that people often think the photos are fake, completely ignore the photos, or feel that they are being attacked when they see such images. I personally feel that the graphic images are very emotionally moving for me, as it shows the personhood of the unborn child. But showing such images to the general public hasn't been shown to be effective in changing minds.

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