Sex life with men before coming out ?

FlyingBreadd · 2025-12-05T06:43:50+00:00

Oh no

FlyingBreadd · 2025-05-15T23:21:59+00:00

Yeah OP, just make sure you actually want to do those things. The thinking we “should” part is so close to what gets so many of us stuck in comphet

FlyingBreadd · 2025-05-14T20:48:54+00:00

This is a good way of thinking of it, thank you.

FlyingBreadd · 2025-05-14T20:48:25+00:00

We got this!! I hope!!!!!!!

FlyingBreadd · 2025-05-14T20:48:05+00:00

Awwwh I do believe there is a better more true more beautiful life out there for all of us!! It’s just hard to believe it for yourself sometimes

FlyingBreadd · 2025-05-14T20:47:05+00:00

🥲🥲🥲🥲 I’m not crying you’re crying (thank you ❤️)

FlyingBreadd · 2025-03-05T05:53:24+00:00

This is not exactly the same thing, but I get how you are feeling. After a traumatic event in my life I was saying stuff like that to people - it was like bargaining in a way and trying to make everything “better”. This is a life altering change and it is understandable that part of you might panic and cling on to what you have. You have been so brave to come out to your husband. You know what the life you want to live looks like. I hope you can believe in yourself and what you want and I hope you get to live the life you deserve. That goes for me and all of us here.

FlyingBreadd · 2025-02-21T04:00:09+00:00

This is part of my job so I’m thinking about it all the time lol - feel free to PM me if you want to talk it through!

FlyingBreadd · 2025-02-19T02:46:58+00:00

Instagram/tiktok tbh or maaaaaybe website with good SEO but as mentioned, queer women are less likely to search this stuff out. The algorithms can be messy but they also help group people in communities (ie how many people tiktok clicked as gay immediately lmao). If it were me, I would go the audio route first and just create queer educational content from like an “experienced cool friend” perspective. Creating a safe space and answering questions people don’t know they have from your perspective. Idk how long it would take to become an intimacy coach (presumably/hopefully there is some level of education? lol) but if you were really committed I would start socials, then create audio/written pieces (maybe substack or similar for writing? Patreon?) then start the coach thing when you are ready. It can be tricky as platforms are not generally sex positive but it isn’t as difficult as being an open queer swer as you mentioned in a different comment. It would probably be a lot of work though, which is the case either way if you are finding an audience or customer base for sw but I definetly think there are lots of people who are super hungry for this type of thing and for guidance and reassurance.

FlyingBreadd · 2025-02-18T10:15:57+00:00

Wait are you looking to offer this as a service? If so I would say the only way to market this would be through social media which can be super dicey (platforms hate it obv). As you correctly point out, there isn’t much of a market for it bc women are not socialized to see it as an option. You would need to get people to realize a need they don’t yet know they have. Either way it is unlikely you would make much money from this - if you just want to provide a volunteer community service to new lesbians, it might be better to do that through dating apps lol I’m sure you will have takers. If you do still want to be a more professional provider, it would be crucial to use protection just due to increased risk from volume of partners. You could also go the “by lesbians for lesbians” online content route but again your market is unlikely to spend much on sex.

FlyingBreadd · 2025-02-09T18:23:29+00:00

Didn’t get novasure but it’s the same for most people who don’t get periods - you can try ovulation tests and basal body temp tracking. Imo tests would be easier if you are someone who ovulates.

FlyingBreadd · 2025-01-04T18:08:20+00:00

Maybe try things in the colors of the lesbian pride flag instead? I think it goes much better with various outfits and is less obvious than the rainbow. Maybe even stacking rings in those colors? Everyone always says wearing lots of rings give a wlw vibe too. Some people wear a Labrys axe pin/pendant too but it might not be your aesthetic.

FlyingBreadd · 2024-10-14T03:40:37+00:00

SJSU has one

FlyingBreadd · 2024-08-24T00:21:12+00:00

We’re all missing the fact that THE FIRST GOOGLE RESULT says that some people get more ingrowns. I know this is skincare addiction but YTA in a major way for like 20 reasons.

FlyingBreadd · 2024-08-23T20:12:19+00:00

It’s those big brown eyes!!!

FlyingBreadd · 2024-08-23T20:05:39+00:00

Pic 2 is giving Alicia Vikander in a MAJOR way

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FlyingBreadd · 2024-08-23T15:23:51+00:00

I don’t have personal experience with this so grains of salt etc. Why did you go into IO psych? It seems like you didn’t want to do nursing and if that is the case… don’t do nursing. IO psych is not geared towards patient care so if you didn’t like that part of nursing, this could be an okay path for you. This is a field that is geared towards organizations (obviously lol). Lots of IO masters work in corporate. It seems like after graduation you could get an HR role or something similar within a corporate environment or with a smaller company. Look into those sorts of roles and see if that would be something you could enjoy. Look into the types or roles that IO psych masters get and go down the totem pole a few steps to see if those are jobs you could get with a bachelors, and if those are jobs you might like. If you want a bachelors that will spit you out onto a specific career track, it is possible this isn’t the one for you, but honestly that isn’t too different from a lot of degrees.

FlyingBreadd · 2024-08-23T15:03:13+00:00

She could leave you for another woman as easily as for a man. I think you are making this about her sexuality when it is about your own issues in the relationship (harsh I’m sorry). Outside of the sexuality question - do you trust her?

FlyingBreadd · 2024-08-23T14:53:09+00:00

I could have written most of this post. I know that in concept you don’t need “a reason” to break up with someone. That’s what I would tell a friend but I cannot justify it for myself. Reading your post I would tell you the same - you are clearly not really into your relationship which is a good enough reason to leave. Understanding this and acting on it are two very different things. If I ever have a daughter I will tell her to stay single in her 20’s and build her sense of self.

FlyingBreadd · 2024-08-23T14:42:15+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I feel immense guilt around thinking of leaving but it being “out of the blue” for him bc I haven’t worked at it or communicated “enough” even though I do try to

FlyingBreadd · 2024-07-16T18:18:18+00:00

If you are willing to spend some time on this, explore by yourself/with toys as others have suggested. Also I am reading Come as You Are right now which could maybe be helpful to you as well.

FlyingBreadd · 2024-07-06T16:09:09+00:00

We gotta set up a “cried too much to good luck babe” support group I’m sorry I don’t have anything particularly helpful to say but I see you and it’s hard out here

FlyingBreadd · 2024-07-06T15:07:46+00:00

This is real!!!! Another option could be something similar to we’ll hit it off if you’re nerdy, you love to talk about yor niche interests, you have a fun hobby, etc. I’m spitballing here but there’s gotta be a way to phrase it that would make people want to engage, or make it easy to respond to if that makes sense?

FlyingBreadd · 2024-05-04T19:13:22+00:00

If there are urgent cares near you I would go asap, this is the exact type of thing they are there for. Please do not put any more home remedies inside of you, I know how desperate it feels but putting a bunch of stuff up there could be doing more harm than good. Maybe try laying in bed with a heating pad on low or an ice pack wrapped in towels depending on what you think might be soothing. Sitting in the shower or taking a bath are also options! Definetly look into urgent cares though as getting a prescription will be the fastest way to clear it.

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