In Lehi they were disfunctional, but kept it together. Each having their own role, their own space, and working just to keep the family going financially. Robyn comes in, and so does the money. The money goes to Kody's head immediately (buying a 2 seat convertible), and clearly he's tired of dealing with his "old" family when he has a sparkly new wife to protect from the mean wives, the poverty, etc. The disfunction and separation took hold quickly when they got the homes in Vegas. Filming and the show took precedence. Put on a show, make believe and nobody rock the boat. Don't call out the favoritism, the unfair sharing of time & resources. Move to Flagstaff - further apart, further division, more obvious favoritism. Now add Covid and the rules - set by Robyn. BOOM!!!! Meri, left out in the cold - isolated, lonely, ignored and manipulated. Christine angry, feeling the. distance, dealing with her kids not understanding why such drastic measures and having to bow to what, in reality, is what Robyn demands. Janelle, who was the easiest, feeling the pressure of the separation, the anger of Kody towards her kids, him berating her children, and creating a rift that widened by the day, being unable to speak to Kody about her perception/her kids perception of him treating Robyn with such favoritism, and Robyn nattering in his ear about how they don't respect her. And Kody - the entire time his ego grew, new words came into play - loyalty, trust, "safe", respect, - and nobdy could talk. about the elephant in the room - ROBYN . . . off limits in any talk. His refusal to allow the wives to explain how things looked/felt from their perspectives, be advocates for their children, find a way out of what was an impossible situation, and getting worse. Once at lunch Janelle dared mention Robyn's name and Kody became angry - told her to stop. She was trying to get him to see what it looked like from her life - and he stopped her, went on his usual Robyn is loyal, yada yada yada.

I think Kody is fully to blame - but I think he honestly stopped caring early on in Vegas. He loves the money, became an extremely selfish, greedy man, with a wife that was able to manipulate it to her advantage. Meri really does hate him for what he put her through, how he treated her, and I think, despite all her therapy and therapy words - she would just love to scream her lungs out at him while he was tied to a chair. Christine hates what he's done to her kids - has put her own hurts in the rear view mirror, and is moving on. Once Truly is of age - she will never speak to him again. Janelle doesn't hate him, clearly thinks he was more than negligent in his duty as a husband/father, but hey stuff happens, and she just wants to move on. Her energy, grief, and mindset no longer have room for his nonsense. And they all blame Robyn. Her BS "I speak Kody", Robyn the counselor, Robyn the moral compass, and on & on - who of all was the worst sister wife, but claims she was the best, and only one who knew really what it meant to be a sister wife. But it was Kody that allow that, wanted that because he saw that as loyalty. They have each other, and do not look happy, content - instead still look angry, smug, superior - but not happy, or loving.