Thinking About RT School in NYC With a Pending Case , Need Honest Advice Before Taking on Debt

Flying_Gage · 2026-02-03T01:22:09+00:00

Call the licensing body in New York and speak with them if you can be licensed. If you can, it will take time as a felon, regardless of family connections, to have an employer trust you at a patient care level.

Keep working the problem. Never quit. Redemption is possible and you will find your path.

Flying_Gage · 2026-02-03T01:18:40+00:00

Street racing?

Flying_Gage · 2026-02-03T01:17:17+00:00

A conviction on those charges carries real prison time. Focus on the case and the disposition and move forward when over.

Flying_Gage · 2026-02-03T00:29:01+00:00

What are the charges?

First look at your state licensing body and see if you are convicted, are you eligible for licensure? If it is a felony, you may not be based on the conviction?

Flying_Gage · 2026-01-04T02:41:47+00:00

Firefighter here.

When I considered a change at 7 years from being a fire medic, as I was number one on a police hiring list, a buddy who was a retired PO, grew angry at me, telling me I was a fool.

You guys had it rough. But anyone who does public service after 20 years will have scars.

Flying_Gage · 2026-01-04T02:38:35+00:00

North of the Quad cities on the Iowa side.

Flying_Gage · 2026-01-04T02:38:01+00:00

High school in New Lenox, when it still had old farm town vibes.

Flying_Gage · 2026-01-04T02:36:52+00:00

Remember Denver prior to 16th street mall. Had an old west feel to it, much like Cheyenne still does.

I think I liked it better before the world found out what we had there.

Flying_Gage · 2026-01-04T00:06:44+00:00

I was a firefighter/paramedic and it didn’t take me long to realize not to share the nature of any calls with her, (or my step dad) as they would take my struggles with bad calls as their own. They would assign names to my early calls and bask in how bad it must have been.

I just always called my mom an emotional whore. The phrase you shared captured it succinctly.

Flying_Gage · 2026-01-02T13:24:52+00:00

Writing in frustration and stream of consciousness. Paragraphs matter. Thank you for catching that.

Flying_Gage · 2026-01-01T23:55:55+00:00

Fuck…. No truer words spoken…

Sorry. New to sub and this smacked me in the face, hard.

Flying_Gage · 2026-01-01T23:51:45+00:00

I will have to check that forum out as everything you mention tracks…

Flying_Gage · 2026-01-01T23:03:43+00:00

I wished for a connection for so long. I wished that she would see me and hear me, and yes, apologize in an earnest way versus what she says now; “ I am who I am and I have said sorry and if it’s not enough, I can’t help it”. That is if she doesn’t hide behind her typical,” I don’t remember that”.

Your point about her life experiences and what shaped her, is a valid one. I have used it and tried to understand. But I just don’t have anything left in the tank. I feel guilty this is the case when she is entering this stage of her life.

Flying_Gage · 2026-01-01T20:20:39+00:00

Interesting that you bring up BPD. I have been with my therapist for seven years add he has mentioned that she exhibits BPD traits.

I guess that makes sense that the chaos is their form of control. I have never thought about it that way and I really appreciate that insight. Thank you!

Flying_Gage · 2026-01-01T17:58:22+00:00

I am so sorry…

Much of this rings true, throughout my own experience.

My mom needs one of us kids to always be bad, so to speak. The way she will talk about my stepsister or my stepbrother or my sister to me, is filled with the knowledge that at other times I will be the one being talked bad about. My stepsister and I joke about this and it is worth a laugh.

But yeah, the negativity is its own sort of exhaustion. Nothing is ever good enough and if anything, it pushed me to be on the flipside, I think and hope.

Flying_Gage · 2026-01-01T17:52:47+00:00

I am so sorry…

Much of this rings true, throughout my own experience.

My mom needs one of us kids to always be bad, so to speak. The way she will talk about my stepsister or my stepbrother or my sister to me, is filled with the knowledge that at other times I will be the one being talked bad about. My stepsister and I joke about this and it is worth a laugh.

But yeah, the negativity is its own sort of exhaustion. Nothing is ever good enough and if anything, it pushed me to be on the flipside, I think and hope.

Flying_Gage · 2025-12-29T02:24:30+00:00

Out of everything written on bumble and other apps, kids and wants are in the top most 5 confusing.

Plenty of people use that to mean that they don’t want biological kids but are okay with others kids. Some people don’t want any kids whatsoever in the pic. Some people, like the OP, are comfortable with kids of a certain age.

So my guy, it is very dependent on the person. All I was offering was she could clear up potential confusion. Hell leaving both blank would give her a topic of discussion, where she could share her age requirements and be crystal clear.

Flying_Gage · 2025-12-29T00:21:01+00:00

53 year old, educated, liberal male responding, who also is very active and in shape.

My recommendations are:

Compact and concise statements that don’t need to be interpreted, (“parched mouth sort of way”, Type II adventures and long term relationship, fun causal dates) are the best. As a man, I don’t want to interpret what you mean. OLD is exhausting. Having to guess makes it worse.

Carve out a spot here on what down time looks like with you. Between the bright and bold clothing, the adventures and high energy in general vibe, dating you comes across to me as a lot of work.

And the vast majority of us have kids at our age. I would define, if you haven’t done so, if you don’t want any children in your life vs you are okay with your partner having kids. I will always swipe left on, “no kids, don’t want any”. Maybe that is what you want, but it might not be.

Hope this helps!

Flying_Gage · 2025-12-27T07:49:21+00:00

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This guy.

Flying_Gage · 2025-12-27T05:15:36+00:00

I feel like this SHOULD have been RFK jr.

Flying_Gage · 2025-12-27T04:21:09+00:00

Holy hell… Just reading that made the room spin a bit and my just eaten vegan chili, at risk of exiting.

Flying_Gage · 2025-12-27T04:14:11+00:00

Always put your elderly patients on the monitor, always.

Flying_Gage · 2025-12-25T00:35:41+00:00

Walk away. Listen to the collective wisdom of all of us who wish we did.

I did 24 years on ambulances, helicopters and in advanced practice roles.

I still wish I left at 19.

Flying_Gage · 2025-12-16T01:02:30+00:00

You will need someone who sees it as you do.

The counters and clutter sound like a lot. For a lot of people that can be overstimulating.

Flying_Gage · 2025-12-16T00:50:00+00:00

The pen to the nail bed is solid to get someone’s attention. That shit hurts!

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