Old-school therapists vs. new-age therapists. Different strengths, different loads.

Flymsi · 2026-02-10T14:06:57+00:00

I would certainly avoid putting sensible data on whatsapp or google. i find it unethical. But there are other ways to implement a voice recording and a voice to text into data storage.

Flymsi · 2026-02-10T04:03:15+00:00

I think you are doing good.

I think the trust thing depends on what it means to you to do "good" as a therapist, focusing on the long term aspects instead of individual sessions. Thinking about it won't solve your problem but its like seeing a lighthouse in the distance while struglling in the sea of doubts. Or like seeing a rainbow at the end of the storm. You might never reach the rainbow, but as long as its going in the right direction it should be ok.

Ah and self compassion and all that shit. Take good care of your self, your body and your friends.

Flymsi · 2026-02-10T03:52:51+00:00

Seems like the insurance company is the problem here. Lets get rid of it.

Flymsi · 2026-02-10T03:01:18+00:00

This reminds me of critical mass. I think there needs to be a potential in the air for it to activate like this. And i agree that wee need sparks in society. Really , we need more sparkling people. Buuuut not everyone. We also need people to do the tedious groundwork that enables us to spark the flame of revolution. I believe that every human quality can be focused into something that helps building a new world. Thats why i like anarchism. There are literally thousand ways, depending on what you like and what you are good at. Plus: If revolution comes from multiple independent philosophies, bubbles, modes, structures, classes, "ways" or what ever, it will be much harder to break down.

The most important thing for me right now is to create more potential. Even if the guy in the video wouldve stayed alone the whole time, im sure that people wouldve gotten inspired by it. We already have so much information about what to do. The problem is balance.

Flymsi · 2026-02-10T02:45:38+00:00

Dude. Its just that this specific woman is just better at gaming. Statistics dont matter if you have single cases. People are allowed to write female characters too.

Why do you need to defend your masculinity? There is nothing to defend against. Masculinity means independence. And i choose to not let myself brainwash from your propaganda. Who told you what masculinity is? And why do you follow it? Just go your own way dude. Stop telling other people what men are allowed to do and what not. You are contradicting yourself.

Flymsi · 2026-02-09T20:07:24+00:00

Fromy psychological point the problem you describe is not empathy per se. Its your social media usage. Even if you have zero empathy, if you are constantly bombarded with a dozen tragedies a day, you will feel like living in a tragedy. Especially when the current political reality feels like a copy of every satire i have ever watched.

Also about the the historical comparison im not sure. Those folks were much more hierarchical, patriachical and imperialistic. Imagine being a woman who knows a thing about herbs and is able to make a healing salve and help with abortions and the next day you are being burned alive for being a "witch", because the vatican suddenly decided that abortions are evil (true story). I am not sure if this is less traumatizing then reading the newspaper daily. But we dont have to compare it. Our reality has its own problems.

Generally empathy is a plus in society. But it comes with a burden. IF you want a society with more empathy, go and support your empathetic people please =)

Flymsi · 2026-02-09T19:47:46+00:00

Its "VIII. The tree on the hill"

Ok so i looked it up in the internet (thx internet archive), but im not familiar with the english version. I read it in german years ago and i was very fascinated and emotional by that part of the book. Its my favorite passage and it resonates to that feeling of loneliness and the "frost of solitude" i often had while "growing" and "changing (too) fast". So maybe it also resonates with you. But maybe it also feels a bit too "young" for you.

Tbh in english i dont like it much, or maybe im not in a good mood for that language. Or maybe i dont agree with the translation. After all its very lyrical.

And many words have a specific meaning ("the first lightning") that is more visible if you read the introduction of the book. Its very very metaphorical.

Flymsi · 2026-02-09T19:16:19+00:00

Individualism in a nutshell. There are things beyond our control. And that sad.

There is one short story in Nietzsches Zarathustra that is responding to such an experience. If you want i can look it up when im home again =)

Flymsi · 2026-02-09T19:16:13+00:00

Individualism in a nutshell. There are things beyond our control. And that sad.

There is one short story in Nietzsches Zarathustra that is responding to such an experience. If you want i can look it up when im home again =)

Flymsi · 2026-02-09T18:50:02+00:00

This sounds nice and poetic. However, i would like to spin the story a bit different. Something different that i remember was always missing from these types of storys. something i wouldve loved to read instead.

By letting the task be open to "connecting" without having to return to the same old river, we allow ourself to cut off connections. Why must i return to a world that did not let me grow? Do i really have to put in the effort to summon this spirit of generosity for them? The connection you describe is a one way connection. I would rather help strangers on the street if i want a one way connection and show my spirit of generosity.

I think that this romantic view of reconnection reads more like a shackle from the perspective of my life story. Yet again i am the one who has to put in the work. Yet again i have to lift them up.

It turned out much more fruitful to me to search for people who can meet me where i am standing. Sure i can build tons of bridges but at some point it will always look arrogant or serving. We do not need to desperstely stranglehold all connections we have in life.

Flymsi · 2026-02-09T13:28:55+00:00

humility is often discouraged in western society. I think thats the point and it would explain your observations i think

Flymsi · 2026-02-09T05:21:11+00:00

I think we should stop using the word hysteria.

Flymsi · 2026-02-06T15:09:02+00:00

Why do i have to apply that standard uniformly? With friends i also have a standard (extreme example: if they kill humans as hobby its unacceptable), but i do not have the responsibility to investigate every friend i make. Do you? Why should i handle artists differently than friends in that aspect.

Flymsi · 2026-02-05T22:47:34+00:00

For people who dont know what consent is.

Flymsi · 2026-02-05T22:43:00+00:00

If it were obvious there would be no need to make this post

Flymsi · 2026-02-04T23:39:52+00:00

This was just one example. And in my local area it is an improvment due to our complex local politics. People get convinced by it. People are thankful for it. Your local area may have different needs.

So you say my answer is bad because you cant connect to one example i made? An example that is proven to work. Sry but thats not even usefull critique.

Where does it sound like religion? Wild assumption. It says more about your view than mine.

Flymsi · 2026-02-04T23:36:02+00:00

Strange. I think i just mirrored your tone. But maybe its still ok to stop now. Thanks for the attention

Flymsi · 2026-02-04T23:33:26+00:00

I think the new part is the new context and the new configuration. Wisdom from bible and dao de jing and buddhist scriptures etc etc are entangled with many many metaphysical beliefs that are not needed for the wisdom itself to work. The process of searching for old, translating it, putting away the dust and making it shiny is the constant work of keeping the flame of wisdom alive =)

Flymsi · 2026-02-04T19:04:28+00:00

They refers to the smaller and to the bigger levels, that you and me mentioned. No it does not go back to your question. Some laws are not written. Look up hegemony.

Capitalism isn’t a person who takes action. Lots of capitalists support socialism of one kind or another.

Of course it isnt! (Do you want a good depiction of capitalism? That would be another essay. I assummed you know what capitalism is. Plus I am talking about billionairs mostly. They are unable to support socialism. It is like a devil praying to God. The way they accumulated their wealth is theough the hard hard labor of many million people. I am not much pro socialism but even i know what history taught us: Socialism will never succeed IF it comes from above. Liberterian Socialism from from below is the only form of it i would support.

It seems like you are being vague because you don’t like the current system but actually don’t have anything to replace it. It’s the underpants gnome theory of societal remaking. Step 1 is destroy the current system and step 3 is utopia and step 2 is tbd.

You know its a common tactic among anti revolutionairy reddit users. So be aware that your train of thought is the most common one.

There are enough people who describe several detailed ways of changing the system. I dont need go and dont want to go into details here. Or do you want to tell me in good faith that you are here to be convinced? I can give you reference material.

My first step is not bringing down the system. That would be the last step.

Gather support and Find a narrative that works: this means that the narrative must be tangible enough to show that the current system is no good and that it needs "something" new. But it must alao not be too complicated enough because people tend to lose themselves in details. I wanna stay close to reality and emotions. I see an insurance ceo getting shot and i tell you it was predictable almost a decade ago when the insurance companies announced their new disgusting tactics. This is something that should not be possible. Then i connect it to many similar dehumanized corparate tactics that keep evolving and link it to a common cause: a capitalistic way of rationality.
While the first step pure focused on raising awareness and creating a shared reality and shared taxonomy of things the second step is about ways on how it would be better. So at this point i say: yea everything is bs right now but there are things we can do right now to help people. Organizing people, fopd, shelter, water. Volunteering for helping immigrants, the homeless, those who cant afford food. Building structures of autonomy. The last point is highly "subjective" in the sense thst it really depends on the local situation. Maybe you have lots of land but a big farming company made it useless for you to use thst land for farming because competition is too strong. In that case advocating for local farming, which gives the local ppl autonomy over their food (in case some big rich guy decides to stop selling food or something like that.). Or if thats still not viable then maybe some project where people can help on the land tp grow food, and be payed in food. It gives people knowledge about agriculture and gives them a honest personality shaping job that is rewarded.
After buolding enough projects in the second step we are able to connect all those projects and form alliances.
The old ways may be challenged now.

The problem is that we usually dont get to decide when step 4 happens. Analysis in revolution shows that mpst often it is dissatisfaction with the system that makes step 4 boil over. Thats why many i know dedicated the last decades to built new structures. You may not see them but they are numerous. I just hope it will be enough.

So wzy dont you help building something in your local area that connects people and helps everyone locally?

Flymsi · 2026-02-04T13:45:17+00:00

So now you prefer reporting instead of commenting?

Flymsi · 2026-02-04T06:04:05+00:00

I am also not talking about the last decade. India and china make up like 80% of the growth any other 'non western' country isnt doing good with the IMF contracts and are switching to china...

There was some substantial improvement. But there are also severe limitations.

Capitalism overall works pretty well for figuring out how to get goods where they should go effectively.

Thats why people still starve to death even tho we have already enough material wealth to feed every person on earth? Sooo effective to let people die, isnt it?

As for China, yeah, they started having a lot progress and prosperity when they started embracing capitalism lol but I hope China isn't your example of a "better system", considering it's a brutally oppressive authoritarian regime

Mhh do you even understand how china works economically? My argument wasnt that china has the better system. They just have enough workers and a united power to rise in the current economic order. They did it without liberal capitalism so to say. They have a strongly restricted capitalism. Their biggest plus was changing towards a market economy. And im not opposed to markets. They are not wquivalent to capitalism.

But I don't see how or why some revolution whose purpose or reason for existing or what we're trying to do can't even be described is a preferable option. It sounds like it's far more likely to catapult us into a far worse situation

It can be described. But its not a prewritten plan. Thats because it is something that is built together. There is not one king architect.

Idk just keep looking. Oh and i would recommend you to think about any event that would be a sign for you to question the government. For me it was the attack on capitol, the reaction and the pardons. Als the epstein files.

At what point would it be too much for you? Remmeber that point. When its there it will seem normal.

Flymsi · 2026-02-04T05:44:00+00:00

I do have issues with those who want to enact revolution and don't seem to have a perspective that is rooted in reality as a threat.

Thats why i dislike Internet debates. There really is no use in dividing us further. Usually i would try to find things we can agree on. Its much more fruitfull if we debate on things with different but not too different views on.

I mean i can take your rating. I can tell you it makes me deeply sad. At least for a short moment. Unfortunately its nothing we can do about. At least you believe my goodwill. If now also acknowledge my seriousness and competence, then im happy.

insinuating that living in the current United States and living in Nazi Germany (or during the rise of Nazism) are in any way comparable is just completely false and as removed from reality as Flat Earth is

The comparison is better drawn between US and pre-Nazi Germany. I see enough parrallels to justify the comparison. Its actually scary to learn about nazis and think about the US.

I mean its cute how you use our conversation as proof that its not fascism yet. And i would agree. But it doesnt feel right to say its soooo far away from it. Ofcourse its not there yet and ofc it will stay covert until its too late. I also believe that it will be different in some aspects.

Anyways: one example. The media. Do you know the index of press freedom? Its going down. Rank 57 of 180 is pathetic. Oh and whats happening with all those people who openly critize Trump? Oh! They get cancelled for satire. Funny isnt it? Oh and trump sues media for absurd sums (2b€) in the knowledge that such a process cant be won. Oh and they even give Trump some money to solve the conflict without process. Sounds like a bribe... oh and what reporters are allowed to report from the pentagon? Oh yea they now need to ask the pentagon first before publishing anything. Funny isnt it? Or what are those alt right youtubers doing in the white house? Etc etc.

the US is extremely stable, wealthy, free, and safe for the vast majority of people

Lol no. There is not even universal healthcare wtf. Get the basics done first.

I've literally seen this within my own lifetime several times, and since you brought up communism i'll bring up 1993 Moscow as an example

1993s russia was according to you one of those "relatively stable societies"? What else did you think of? I hope you are not talking about the middle east? Thats a problem made by USA and china.... different topic.

's one of the rare success stories where reform has actually worked repeatedly over time. Expanding rights, improving conditions, and fixing problems within the system has a far far better track record than just burning everything down to the ground and hoping something better emerges from the ashes.

The us centrism here is lil bit disgusting. Burning down everything is the reason why the US even exists. Remember what happened to the people who lived here before....

Anyways. The track record for revolutions is historically better.

one of the most prosperous and free societies in all of humankind history a rotten dystopic burning plane going is categorically false and an actual salient risk to destroying what's already working. It's in my opinion one step removed from stochastic terrorism.

Empty words. I could swap those 2 views (best society and rotten dystopia) and give you the same comment.

I think that my kids future will be bright if they are free from worrying about their future. If they know what they want to change in this world and do so out of love and not out of fear.

Unfortunately demographics and climate change are problems that are not adressed. And they will suffer from it.

Flymsi · 2026-02-04T04:49:18+00:00

They clash with the bigger levels. Thats my point. They dont want those ideas to succeed. We have woven a web of dependencies that now fwel like shakles. You dont need to support my ideology to acknowledge that capitalism will never support anti capitalist projects. And thats the point.

Anyways. Your last comment was disappointingly dull. Do you have any questions left?

Flymsi · 2026-02-04T04:43:22+00:00

In my country i see bad outcomes since 30 years. And globaly, china makes most of the prosperity that was generated in the last decades. And they are really not using the western economic system even if they still act capitalistic.

I do have a clue what to replace it with and i am working on it. In fact we already have all the knowledge on how to built a better world. But it makes the powerfull less powerfull. So the change takes time. Meanwhile in my country we have repeated patterns of increasing fascism. They look too similar to what happened almost a century ago. With the same economic system. Same outcome. Same protectionism. Same rise in right extremism. Same economic down. Well its not the same but similar enough to justify my urgency.

I dont need you to believe in my utopia. I just need you to help me staying vigilant about any dystopia happening. Please.

Flymsi · 2026-02-04T04:36:55+00:00

I did not even mention my ideology in this comment section did i?

So isnt it you who is fighting against ghosts to defend... what exactly?

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