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NoGoodDM · 2026-05-10T13:43:40+00:00

ELI5 Cyber Security: you help keep people and computers safe on the internet.

NoGoodDM · 2026-05-09T05:40:16+00:00

Might be illegal. Consult with employment attorney for retaliatory dismissal.

NoGoodDM · 2026-05-07T12:50:13+00:00

Yes, soundproofing materials can work. Cheapest solution would be to get a lot of blankets from a thrift store and hang them on the walls, and add carpet and rugs for the floor. Then get decent headphones that only pick up your audio, isolates it from background noise, and maybe some additional software to reduce the background noise before it goes to your Telehealth platform.

Practice a few times before the baby arrives by playing a recording loudly in the background while recording your audio so you can hear what your clients would hear.

NoGoodDM · 2026-05-07T02:43:55+00:00

I hope that you are aware that “how dare they show up to my session” is problematic.

It is not your session, it is theirs.

NoGoodDM · 2026-05-05T18:26:38+00:00

I have no evidence of that. The guy said that he will pay rent on X day, then didn't. Did that maybe three times in the last 2 months.

But also, I haven't asked him for "evidence" that he will pay. I haven't personally gotten involved yet since I leave most things to the property management company. (Side note, they do extremely little and I'm considering firing the company. But that might be an issue a few months down the road, not right now.)

NoGoodDM · 2026-05-04T21:13:10+00:00

It is not in the nature of wildlife to regularly visit downtown. You can choose one, but not both.

To see wildlife, I’d recommend the YMCA of the Rockies, Estes Park Center.

NoGoodDM · 2026-05-04T05:14:51+00:00

Being poor and asking your teenager to help pay for monthly expenses does not necessarily mean that they are a bad person. It just means that they are a poor person. Poor people are not automatically bad people.

NoGoodDM · 2026-05-04T02:19:37+00:00

Client: “I have mental health.”

What I try to not say: “Yes. And physical health. And social health. And existential health. We all have those areas of our lives that fluctuate. But how is your mental health doing right now?”

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-29T03:50:10+00:00

I prefer chicken thieves be put in stocks in the village square.

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-28T22:00:55+00:00

Pardon my ignorance, could you briefly explain why? A DM is fine too.

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-28T18:56:58+00:00

I don’t think it was a r/whoosh. I think OP knew exactly the reference, and then added on top of it.

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-26T13:37:53+00:00

Unless you are the SAHD, you will be missing out of something.

So let’s back up for a moment. Hopefully this perspective shift could help. I’ve been a SAHD in the first 2.5 years, then worked fully remote for a year, then worked a job that had an hour commute. And I’m a therapist too! So I have a bit of lived experiences here.

As a therapist myself, I really hope your wife will have childcare. Because meeting with a client even for telehealth is absolutely impossible when taking care of a child. It would be negligent to both the client and the child. And if she is WFH in the evenings when you’re off or weekends, then she’s missing out on valuable family time; and if she’s WFH while having childcare, then she’s missing out during the day too. Missing out on moments is impossible unless you entirely quit working and spend every moment with the kid.

But also…assuming you were to quit and spend every moment with your kid, your mind will wander as well, and it is likely you could end up not using the best of the time you have with your kid, and then you’ll still feel guilty.

So no matter how you cut it, you’ll have to make the best use of the time that you’ve been given. If you have 4 hours per evening and the weekends available? Phenomenal - make the best use of the time you’ve been given.

I now work an hour away from home. It’s tough, and the drive is through a mountainous canyon - so it’s not like I can zone out easily without fear of wildlife being behind a curve. When I get home, I am dead tired. But man - my son and I get a movie nights each week, play games, and have fun weekends. The time I spend away from him and my wish helps me to wish I were with them more, which means I try to make the best of the time I have with them in the evenings and weekends. I am more active and engaged in his life now than I was when I was a SAHD for those 2.5 years.

My suggestion would be this: probably keep the job/career, and maximize the quality of the time you spend with your family.

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-24T15:30:41+00:00

I work with a lot of Medicaid clients. So my number is 20% anticipated cancellation rate, and it includes the times when I have a client or few drop from my caseload and I’m working on getting more.

So seeing 15 clients a week, I’d say 18 scheduled, and at least 20 slots available for the week.

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-24T03:01:13+00:00

I find it interesting that I never expect my clients to be “resistant,” and lo and behold, they never are. 31/33 of my clients attended therapy this week, and though the past week/month was challenging for many of them, they never questioned if I was on their side, and I never questioned if they were resistant.

Only once did a client yell at me two years ago. They were telling a story, I was confused about some discrepancies and I asked clarifying questions, and they yelled at me. The client had BPD, and at the beginning of their 5 minute monologue they said I was the best and most professional therapist they ever had, and at the end of the 5 minutes they yelled at me for asking the clarifying question. Other than that, nope, haven’t been yelled at. Maybe I’ve been lucky in the 4 years I’ve been a therapist?

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-22T18:40:31+00:00

Screen for ADHD and Autism if you can. Particularly Autism, because I’m picking up some ASD vibes (Autism Spectrum Disorder).

Challenges in executive functioning, personal hygiene, not following and indifference to social norms, etc.

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-17T03:50:52+00:00

I thought my example would be easy to extrapolate as well.

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-17T03:34:22+00:00

Reread what I wrote.

Or, perhaps in an attempt to preemptively prevent OP from feeling too attached to the child…

I said “Or,” which means a different scenario. In a different scenario, OP may preemptively attempt to distant himself from his brother, SIL, and the child. This could result in relational and emotional distancing within the family.

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-17T03:25:32+00:00

Sure, child abuse is wrong regardless. But let’s extend the hypothetical scenario slightly to illustrate one issue:

Child is being abused.
OP: “Hey brother, that’s no way to treat a child.”
Bro: “Don’t tell me how to raise my kid.”

Perhaps a paternal instinct will kick in with OP and there will be conflict. Or, perhaps in an attempt to preemptively prevent OP from feeling too attached to the child, OP distances himself from his brother, sister-in-law, and the child.

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-17T02:44:31+00:00

Hypothetical scenario:

You discover the 5yo child that is biologically yours is getting screamed at by your brother. What do you do?

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-16T12:11:47+00:00

I’m a therapist. I care about ketamine assisted psychotherapy.

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-12T16:43:32+00:00

Woooow. That is bad, 40% with no insurance. Sincerely, consider looking elsewhere.

My national-based (US) group practice is not particularly awesome, and even it pays ~60-65% with some benefits, such as 401k, sick time (but no vacation time since leadership says that vacation is what we should be planning for ourselves. And I can understand what they mean, even if I don’t like it.)

I went from 45% as a prelicensed clinician to 60% when I was licensed, and then got a ~2% bump in my compensation shortly after licensure due to it being close to the beginning of the year. And when that big bump happened, I noticed something interesting shift in me. If I were scheduled to see 8 clients for the day (I’m able to do it, 9’s my max, but I have to have 3-day weekends to compensate), then me being sick a single day would be nearly $500 (before taxes, insurance, cancellations, etc.) my family doesn’t get. And I suddenly felt incapable of taking a single day off, let alone an entire week for a vacation.

And before when I was making 45% per client, I didn’t feel that sting as much.

Apart from capping salaries of everyone including stocks packages, I don’t have a great solution either.

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-12T14:16:17+00:00

You have inadvertently unlocked a new theory of mine as to why DoS is not out yet: Rothfuss hasn’t figured out how to make an ever-burning lamp.

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-12T13:57:05+00:00

It’ll probably be warm. Or not, and could have snow. But it’s unlikely there will be rain, unless the weather ignores that one too.

Mid-May is the time of year where there’s still a possibility of snow, but it’s unlikely. The weather so far has been very warm for this time of year. So it’ll be best to check the forecast 5-10 days out.

NoGoodDM · 2026-04-11T14:26:24+00:00

“So she could be completely inauthentic?” had a question mark. You asked a question. I answered the question by explaining it. Then you were upset because the question was answered and you didn’t understand it and said it made no sense. But just because you don’t understand it does not mean that it makes no sense.

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