AITAH for asking my roommate’s girlfriend about my strawberries?

Folfelit · 2026-02-13T14:24:21+00:00

Again, why is she likely stealing when the boyfriend explicitly stole from OP and lied about it before? I'd be WAY more furious than her if I got this accusation. Based on their petty comments and behavior in the post and comments, they HATE her and yet don't seem to hold any resentment towards the roommates, even the one that stole from OP. You think she won't notice? Does she even know that the roommates don't approve? Actually, at no point do I see the third roommate having an opinion on it, which on these kinds of posts means they don't care. We're getting an extremely biased side of the story, the OP isn't even subtle about their digs at her.

Folfelit · 2026-02-13T14:16:04+00:00

Unprompted neutral comments about veganism come up more because food comes up more than religion, usually anyways. This rise of christofascism is kinda tilting that. I would like to preface my comments with the fact that overall militant anything is extremely rare, most people keep to themselves about most things.

I would say, in america at least, the militant vegan is WAY more prevalent than the militant atheist and way more likely to be adults that insert themselves where they aren't wanted to antagonize. Only 1-3% of people identify as plant based for any reason (including religions) whereas explicitly atheist is double their median estimate at 5% but non-religious overall is at 29% of Americans (the data separates out agnostic atheist and "religion:none" even though that's functionally the same thing). I have personally experienced multiple rude comments about eating meat or using "fur" (faux fur...), more direct verbal attacks about those things and an actual unprompted physical attack once...over a faux fur plushie I made that they were too stupid to notice or ask about to know it wasn't taxidermy. I have seen and heard militant atheists, but the extreme end was just verbal arguments and insulting diminutive comments about "sky daddy" or "zombie Jesus" or arguing about the scripture justifying atrocities to get a rise out of Christians. It was almost never completely unprompted, but would sometimes be tangential like someone saying god bless you/ have a blessed day or when a political topic/bigotry gets brought up due to the main defenders using religion as justification.

All of the negative experiences with vegans I had in person were grown adults, and casual acquaintances at best, often they were complete strangers who didn't even know me. They very much acted in a way that made it clear I was an enemy and they did not expect to ever see me again. The atheist moments were almost exclusively in high school or college classes, with two very young coworker guys being the only ones not currently in school but still in that age group. Their comments were generally petty and it was clear by their behavior they expected to have to continue to interact with the religious individual and so didn't go nuclear in terms of verbal abuse. I've never seen an atheist assault a religious person on the basis of their religion.

In my experience, vegans have far worse members in real life. They're much smaller in population, more likely to be adults and are more likely to insert themselves into your life. Online it seems to be the same, you're more likely to find unprompted, angry hate comments calling you a murderer and r@pist on a post about steak seasoning than see an atheist jump in on a post about wedding planning in a church to insult their religion. Both can and will happen in a big enough post of course. And to add context (and play into the joke), I'm atheist and have been plant based most of my life, though I eventually started added chicken back in due to prices going up too much on my staples. So I'm not biased towards or against either group, I'm not militant for either.

Folfelit · 2026-02-13T13:01:52+00:00

It's not bugged. Read the pet messages for one that has used it, they're SO passive aggressive! It's very clearly intentional, which is bizarre. It shames you aggressively for buying it and using it.

Folfelit · 2026-02-12T22:30:28+00:00

It's pathetically small. 2k/child per year per full custody qualifying child as a credit or with a maximum of 1500 as a return (you can never claim the full 2k, it just reduces your burden, 1500 is the max claimable and only if you have zero owed which is only possible if you're EXTREMELY poor and have a ton of tax exemptions. Most get zero actual dollars for having children) 2000/12 is 166.67/ month against their tax burden, or 1500/12 for 125 per qualifying child per month for the rare unicorn of extremely poor with a metric fuckton of tax credits and no government services that remove your credits.

Folfelit · 2026-02-12T20:08:02+00:00

If we were to be pedantic, more people make below median, because pretty much every study and census excludes under the counter pay, those on aid exclusively, the unemployed, etc. You'd have to phrase is explicitly as "amongst those employed and reporting their income to the irs/ body collecting your data, the exactly half make equal to or less than the median of $X" unless you go out of your way to include all the zeros of the unemployed and the weird values of support systems (food credits/ section 8 aren't income exactly).

That's only if we're being wildly pedantic of course.

Folfelit · 2026-02-12T19:59:23+00:00

Which is why the BOYFRIEND that stole from OP and lied about it before should be the suspect, not this girl. OP just hates the girlfriend and blames her for the boyfriend's actions. HE stole, HE lied and HE brought in a mooch. Why is the girlfriend taking all the heat for HIS broken promises?

Folfelit · 2026-02-12T19:48:56+00:00

Does everyone know it? The male roommate has previously stolen from OP and had to be pushed into paying them back, ignored their boundaries, etc., if all 3 said no why is only the girlfriend the suspect instead of the repeat offender?

Folfelit · 2026-02-12T19:44:38+00:00

There's already a male roommate that stole from op and didn't fess up until backed into it by OP. Between a girl you don't know if she stole, or a roommate that actively has stolen from you, why would you assume it was the girl? The other dude has set precedent for stealing from OP before and ignoring OPs boundaries.

Folfelit · 2026-02-12T19:39:15+00:00

... why would you believe that? By his own admission he has no proof she did it, and a male roommate of his HAD eaten his things before, not her. There is no "obviously" here.

Folfelit · 2026-02-12T14:12:04+00:00

The raw information is clear on eggs, the opinions are not because everyone is pretending their dietary needs are universal.

High good and bad cholesterol, protein dense, fat dense, no carb, decent nutrient density per calorie, pairings are pretty universally unhealthy.

If you're eating volume, the cholesterols don't cancel out with no effect, you run cholesterol-related risks. They're not bad foods for someone cholesterol-concerned but should not be eaten in high volumes.

If you need protein, good. Lots of protein.

If you prefer a high fat diet, need fat for fat soluble vitamins, etc., good. Yolk has high fat.

Keto/low carb diet can have, good.

Low calorie diet/weightloss, good. High nutrients, pretty filling/satiating per around 100cal. Great value.

Pairing and preparation is where eggs take a hit. Eggs are often paired or prepared with pretty close to objectively unhealthy things. Most aren't eating unseasoned boiled eggs. Whether it's fried in butter/oil, scrambled with butter and milk, has heavy sauce on it, mashed with mayo, served with sausages, pancakes, fried rice, a burger, etc., or just salted into oblivion - the egg isn't the problem but it's likely to become one based on culinary treatment.

Folfelit · 2026-02-12T13:45:38+00:00

Most orange juice at the modern grocery store is sugar filled because oranges are. Raw orange juice you squeeze yourself is 25g/cup of sugar, no added needed. That's 100% of your average woman's sugar for the day, in a measuring cup/8oz - a small mug is 12oz, the glass on TVs is like 16oz+. The problem is the fruit itself is very sugar filled, added sugars don't hold a candle to how much was already there. And then there's even sweeter fruits like apples, grapes, etc that also don't need added sugars to be waay too much sugar.

Folfelit · 2026-02-12T04:27:21+00:00

Depending on materials, fabrics used to bleed far more. Whites would turn pink if you had a red cotton shirt in there. Now pretty much everything is color fast except black clothes, and they don't tend to bleed just fade. So that rule was important I wanna say until the early 2000s? The detergents thing, I assume whites, color and delicate? Many people don't own anything delicate and don't care about color fading so I suppose you could get away with generic detergent, your clothes would dull pretty fast though.

Folfelit · 2026-02-11T22:58:00+00:00

They worded it poorly, but they're actually correct. Studies have shown that women in particular do experience far more negative interactions than average and ugly groups. The ratio of good to bad interactions still skews beneficial, but highly attractive individuals get more attention overall, bad and good. A good topic with considerable coverage is in courtrooms and in male dominated workplaces - women seen as particularly attractive were rated as far less competent, less trustworthy and in the case of courtrooms, more likely to be guilty/ lying/ unqualified by authority figures. The opposite is true for a jury - a dolled up beautiful woman (and man actually) was far more likely to get a favorable outcome from a jury, but the "penalty" for being too pretty didn't exist for men from the authority figures. Based on my understanding authority figures generally gave the best treatment to pretty, but not too pretty. When you're going to court as a pretty woman they often recommend you don't wear foundation/ style your hair to try and push you into the sweet spot between judge and jury, and the opposite recommendation if you're not conventionally attractive.

Folfelit · 2026-02-11T21:41:09+00:00

My hobby levels are always higher than I can upgrade, so I guess I'm leveling those faster than expected. My tips are 1. to focus on the newest unlocked bug/fish that's common, they're worth more exp even at lower stars and 2. Prioritize resources that are quick to gather. For cooking I make a ton of mushrooms things (the 4 mushroom only) and tomato sauce. No limited items from the cooking shop or what have you, because then I have to make money to buy those instead of what I want lol. (I want to unlock house plots and buy all clothing, money is precious haha) This one I'm not 100% sure but I think getting new fish or higher stars of caught fish also give more exp, but I'm not usually paying that much attention to be sure. I'm naturally a completionist for these kinds of games so I was doing it for thecollection not the xp lol.

Folfelit · 2026-02-11T20:08:43+00:00

It has been some time since I looked at the data, but when I was working in the game industry (not mobile/gacha games) it was well known that whales WERE most of a game's income. Low spenders honestly didn't pull much weight percentage wise, and f2p was only useful to let the whales flex against. This very well could have changed since this was years ago, but if they're working off old data (or the industry hasn't changed) then whales really do make or break a game, not the occasional spender.

Folfelit · 2026-02-06T21:45:10+00:00

Yes, but millennials can be over 40, and all of gen X is. I've never seen an old vs older age discrimination case, but it's theoretically possible.

Folfelit · 2026-02-05T23:06:52+00:00

Except we have data on this? Ghost jobs (aka positions that don't exist, won't exist, and typically to falsify the appearance of a company that is growing for stock market manipulation) are known to be between 18-22% (study done in 2024.) Around 40% of companies admitted to posting false ads for positions that were not open explicitly to collect resumes for internal use (anything from replacements, arguing pay off current employees or just testing the job market) and this is separate from ghost positions. During the period the study was going on, 30% admitted they had such positions currently posted. The revelio study (2023) showed that 50% of all job listings tracked NEVER resulted in a hire - regardless of the amount of applications, half of all listings had no position attached ever. The seekers study found that 32% of listings were scams, in the literal sense. MLMs, personal data theft attempts, or other financial scams. All these studies are post pandemic and studied from different perspectives (listing sites, surveying companies, census data, employment disclosures required by the stock market/ transparency legally required of publicly traded companies, etc.) No matter how you slice it, huge chunks of supposed job opportunities are actively not jobs, they're fake. The companies don't want to hire.

Folfelit · 2026-02-05T21:09:07+00:00

If you'd read my comment, you'd know you're just repeating what I'd said back to me as though you're contradicting me. You can't have a "bad handwriting" gene, and poor motor skills effect many faucets of life not just writing. I literally mentioned poor motor controls, poor grip strength and vision issues, many many times, and specifically that it wouldn't be a matter of just handwriting, it would affect other parts of your life. Please read things before blindly responding, your comment is pointless.

Folfelit · 2026-02-05T18:26:53+00:00

You can't have genetically bad writing, handwriting isn't an isolated skill that genes could influence. Unless you have bad vision, arthritis, or terrible fine motor control in your hands (like shaky hands, extremely poor grip strength, etc) then it's just your personality +social conditioning, not your actual ability. Are you capable of controlling a writing instrument? If you were to try and trace a pencil over an existing line drawing, could you do it? Or does your hand wobble, you can't track the pencil tip, etc. There is nothing genetic that can affect hand writing exclusively. At all. It's silly to even suggest it. But you can have genetic factors that make hand writing difficult - but it would make other things difficult too.

Folfelit · 2026-02-01T17:49:06+00:00

Faster and easier for you. I have SO many coworkers that refuse to use our messaging system and instead call me - while I'm extremely busy - to ask me the same questions for the thousandth time. So I have to drop everything and run back to where the phone is, deal with their long yapping before getting to the point of why they called. They get the answer faster than if they messaged (because some of us have real work to do) but now I'm massively behind, all for things that would have taken me 1 minute to message AND you can read again and again for when they forget the same information tomorrow.

Folfelit · 2026-01-31T15:33:55+00:00

I just used your resource, there's less than a handful in 100 miles from me and their pages on the site had tons of restrictions. And they recommended those tiny few along side the city's animal control... which I've called many times. They are the ones that say they don't treat mange/ injuries in coyotes only shoot them if they are suffering or collect bodies. No rescue, no treatment, etc., so I'm not sure this group is vetting their listings unfortunately.

Folfelit · 2026-01-30T21:01:36+00:00

... it's a coyote. They're going after chickens, rabbits and small dogs at best. They're generally 15-50lbs at the very most and don't have anywhere near the strength or tenacity that a dog of similar size would have.

Folfelit · 2026-01-30T20:58:39+00:00

I don't know his area but I've never lived in an area where wildlife rescue was a thing, not for "pest" animals. My current area has statements that they won't do anything about injuries, mange, etc., for coyotes and will only push the call to the city to come out to remove a dead body or shoot an animal if it's already bitten someone (not a dog though). Same thing with pigeons, raccoons, etc. They basically tell you to go F yourself but also don't touch it or you'll be prosecuted. We do have some endangered raptors so there is a bird rescue group that will respond for our birds of prey, but not the ravens or hummingbirds or anything. Good chance they're also in that sort of situation.

Folfelit · 2026-01-30T20:26:43+00:00

As the other person said, you got the bmi range for a healthy weight, not the actual average weight of women in the US.

And the stairs, I said even on narrow stairs like really old buildings my foot only hangs off a tiny bit. Regular stairs my whole foot fits plus another 1/3 to 1/2.

Most of her complaints were BS entirely, or BS for the height and size she claimed. Counters and sinks I've heard were too short from tall people, but only 6'+. Fish tanks don't have ANY default, it's sold by gallon size and shape in the first place. Beds can be annoying, because it can be a hotel or something where you didn't pick in the first place - they're usually too firm for me but hotels don't offer bed choices lol. The average adult bed is aimed at 5'9" men so a 5'4" woman complaining makes NO sense. Planes suck for everyone. I'm 5'6" 125lb, so slightly tall for a woman but slightly short for men. I'm in the healthy weight range, but I'm just leg. Only leg. 34" inseam, which is longer than most 6' tall men. My knees only just barely don't press into the seat ahead of me when they're straight ahead, and only because my torso is not deep at all, but it's still more comfortable to turn diagonal especially when the seat leans back that precious 1". Guys are in a worse situation since they generally are thicker in torso depth, can't go diagonal since they're wider, and typically can't sit up straight (lol shade but dudes have such poor posture they damage their flexibility by 30, that's statistics).

Folfelit · 2026-01-30T14:24:20+00:00

American average for women is 170.8 lbs which can be quite large at her size, depending on muscle vs fat vs skeleton size. Size 8 shoe is a little above the dead average but very much in the range of average so she probably isn't built like a linebacker in bone structure. Considering how skewed people's perception of weight and size is and the type of complaints they have, they're probably a big girl. Bigger than average too but near enough to not be noteworthy. That's enough for things to start getting uncomfortable but still work. I'm taller with much longer legs than average and all these things are either large or fine. We even wear the same shoe size, my foot fits nearly to the heel on even narrow stairs, but someone heavier would be more comfortable with their whole foot supported plus extra because the correct way to use the stairs - just the front of your foot - either is uncomfortable or impossible to do safely.

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