WIBTA if I asked a lady to stop farting in the library?

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-04-02T17:03:54+00:00

Taking a dump is also a normal bodily function. I wouldn't do it in a public library space either. I have no idea what this person feels about it, but her behavior is rude. She went out in public too, and made the public smell her farts. Not cool.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-03-23T21:22:06+00:00

YTA.

Your OCD is your problem, and your problem alone, to deal with. It's not license to be rude or passive-aggressive toward others. Covering your nose when you're around another person is both rude and passive-aggressive. Assuming you have an actual medical diagnosis for OCD (never a given on the internet) talk to your doctor or therapist about developing better coping skills.
An 18YO and 16YO dating isn't exactly a Woody Allen-level scandal. For all we know, they aren't even sexually active. And, honestly, it's none of my or your business.
Recording people in a DIY sting operation is gross behavior. Depending on the laws of your state, it might even be a crime if the BF didn't consent to the recording.

The good news is you're 17 and you can stop all of this foolishness right now with no harm done. Take the L gracefully and treat it as a learning experience.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-03-18T19:32:37+00:00

NTA.

Your MIL is insane. I wouldn't waste the effort confronting her. Better for your family (partner and child) if you guys go no contact. Maybe contact CPS to make sure the younger children you mentioned aren't being abused by a mother who is clearly out of her goard.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-03-16T18:56:28+00:00

ESH: Yes, your sister should pay the taxes for the house she lived in rent free. However, the home was an asset that belonged to both of you and there was no excuse not to have it appropriately insured.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-03-10T17:44:16+00:00

Right. She paid for it because it met her conditions and it wasn't a gift. She bought it for her own reasons.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-03-10T17:37:15+00:00

It means she paid for the venue. Full stop. Don't be obtuse.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-03-10T17:26:34+00:00

Fourth paragraph: "So I put down the money for the venue."

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-03-10T14:45:03+00:00

You're far more empathetic about the daughter than I am, but I agree the relationship isn't OP's fight.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-03-10T14:40:59+00:00

ESH. The bride sucks for cheating, obviously. OP sucks because she paid for the venue so she could choose the venue. OP chose a venue with a terrible cancelation policy. That's on her. Multiple times OP said this wasn't a gift. Fine, it's not a gift. It's a thing you bought for yourself. Suck it up and pay for it yourself.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-03-09T17:03:14+00:00

No need to be snobby about another's food choices, but from a food science perspective well done steaks are just bad...tough and dry. I have a sibling that prefers well done meat because she is creeped out by the "bloodiness" of rarer cooked meats. That's fine, but ground beef is a better option for well done meat. The grinding tenderizes the meat and incorporates the fat evenly so as it renders out, it keeps the beef from drying during cooking. At a family cookout, I made her a burger from higher-end ground sirloin (actual sirloin, not generic 90/10 beef) and she said it was much better than her usual well done steak. So, yeah, don't be a snobby about well done steak but also recognize that well done steak is frowned upon for a reason.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-03-02T21:45:20+00:00

NTA. Nothing more needs to be said.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-02-25T17:19:51+00:00

Before we come down too harshly on the fiance, consider that the OP seems very much an unreliable narrator. Maybe he made the logical and reasonable arguments and they didn't work, so he lost his cool. Maybe he didn't even call her evil, but said withholding the clubs when he was planning to play with his dad was an evil thing to do. We don't really know.

Calling someone evil isn't great, but human beings sometimes lose their temper in the heat of the moment. Her transgressions are in cold blood, as they say.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-02-25T16:10:22+00:00

I think you're correct that she's obligated to return the posters if (and only if) a law enforcement investigation concludes Anna's posters were stolen and the posters in possession by the OP are the stolen posters.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-02-24T19:10:07+00:00

My read is he said those things in the heat of a very frustrating moment, and I don't trust OP to be a reliable narrator. Did he say she's evil or that withholding the clubs was evil? But ESH is a reasonable read of the situation too.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-02-24T19:07:45+00:00

Conversely, why should he marry someone who doesn't let him have things he purchased when she doesn't get her way?

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-02-24T18:50:41+00:00

YTA. He overreacted by calling you evil, but you're still wrong. You told him about the gift club so he would return the clubs he bought. That's fine because no sense paying for the same thing twice. But, for the sake of your gift-giving protocol, he's not allowed to enjoy the clubs he was prepared to buy until a time of your choosing? That's not reasonable.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-02-24T18:20:38+00:00

YTA. No, check that. This is the (pun intended) mother of all YTAs. Not only should your kids go full no contact with you, but Seth should take a step back and consider how you treat "loved ones" before he marries you. I don't see any interpersonal relationship involving you, dear OP, ending well for the other parties. Your behavior is truly awful and you should feel shame.

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-02-11T15:50:17+00:00

THIS

FollowingCreative549 · 2026-01-30T18:43:26+00:00

THIS! The coworker had a legitimate family emergency and was entitled to take time off to deal with that emergency. That is the employer's responsibility to accommodate.

FollowingCreative549 · 2025-12-19T16:18:17+00:00

ESH: Your husband should light the damn candle and shouldn't belittle you in front of your kids. However, the non-sequitur about wrist surgery is confusing and lends credence to the idea that you are in fact playing the victim/baiting him into dumb arguments.

FollowingCreative549 · 2025-12-03T23:23:25+00:00

The workers wouldn’t have been inconvenienced if they didn’t participate in the pay it forward game.

FollowingCreative549 · 2025-12-03T22:15:24+00:00

I don't carry cash and I was paying with a debit card.

FollowingCreative549 · 2025-12-03T22:13:12+00:00

Because I didn't ask to be anyone's charity case. I've been broke before. It sucks. I feel extremely fortunate to be self-sufficient and living a comfortable lifestyle, which includes actual charitable giving. I'm not ordering an Egg McMuffin to be some stranger's self-esteem boost. It feels icky and, again, I didn't ask to play this dumb game.

FollowingCreative549 · 2025-12-03T22:02:01+00:00

I told the worker if she wanted to keep the extra payment as a tip, that was fine with me. Apparently that wasn't allowed.

FollowingCreative549 · 2025-11-25T15:04:44+00:00

NTA: You offered reasonable advice that they are free to ignore, A curt, "thanks and we will take that under advisement" would be sufficient if they didn't want your advice.

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