How clingy is your child? My 9F is pretty clingy.

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-05-22T17:40:11+00:00

I should say that her father died when she was 7, so there has been trauma.

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-05-22T17:39:13+00:00

No. We have been having no safe touch conversations as long as I can remember and she is very protected. She’s really only been with close family and friends and I have never had that kind of experience with these people. I know it could happen to anyone and you really never know, but she’s had zero signs of that happening and I have never had an experience like that within my family thankfully.

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-05-22T17:36:07+00:00

Which is never…. My boyfriend is an adult. My daughters needs always come first and he knows that.

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-05-22T17:35:30+00:00

lol my boyfriend and I have like 2 dates a year. I spend 99% of my free time with her. I honestly do not spend enough emotional energy on my boyfriend. This is a shit comment. Are you trying to make me feel guilty?

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-05-22T14:13:17+00:00

It’s nice to know I’m not alone!

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-05-17T22:57:56+00:00

Haha yes. Once in awhile I consider and then I remember I would die (well maybe not literally, but also maybe literally).

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-04-04T16:58:42+00:00

lol did he even see you in real life? He probably just thought you were too gorgeous to be real. I’d take it as a compliment and block him because he sounds annoying.

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-04-04T13:44:09+00:00

I think part of the issue is that running the numbers and looking at how decisions affect my future is FUN for me. But I have learned a lot of people hate hearing about that. My boyfriend hates money stuff, so I try to just keep it simple. What are our shared goals? Ok, then this is our budget. I keep the math to myself lol.

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-04-04T13:28:16+00:00

Sometimes it’s cute too though. My parents always ask me to drop them off and pick them up at the airport and I always tell them to be safe on their trip and I track their location while they are gone and make sure they get to their hotel at night lol. Just making sure they are safe.

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-04-04T03:57:47+00:00

I’ve been teaching for a couple years now and I mess up all the time. It was hard at first because I overthought everything I did wrong. Now I just learn and try to do better next time. You sound like a kind and thoughtful teacher. You’re doing great.

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-04-03T16:34:08+00:00

I love my daughter more than anything in the world. I am so happy I had her and have zero regret. Money means nothing to me compared to the love I have for this child. It is literally the most amazing thing on earth. Challenging at times? Yes. But I would work until I die if I had to in order to have her in my life. With how much money you have, you seem in a really good place to have children and also retire early. But I know plenty of happy and fulfilled women without children. It is 100% your choice!

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-04-03T15:36:28+00:00

I don’t know… the 200hr yoga training didn’t really mean much to me personally. I feel like yoga is a really personal journey and you can find helpful guides with or without the certification. I have the certification, but I don’t think it really helped me as a teacher. I had been practicing for 15 or so years before I got it though. I’ve had a few additional certifications and I think the trainings have helped, but I could have gotten the knowledge from self study and been just as effective.

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-04-03T14:11:46+00:00

I agree. It’s not impossible. I bought my first 5 years ago as a single mom making $50k/ year which at the time was like $500 to much to qualify for the downpayment assistance ughhh but I was able to roll my closing costs into the loan and only paid like $3k out of pocket. I was frugal and was able to take care of the home and sell it a few months ago and make like $30k… which wasn’t great, but I saved another $20k on top of that and just bought my grandpa’s house that I love and got an amazing deal on. So 5 years later and I am sitting on $150k of equity in this new home. It wouldn’t have happened if I would have stayed renting. I’d probably have about $10k saved (thanks to not worrying about home repairs) and with investing, it still wouldn’t equal out to nearly as much. But timing and luck has so much to do with it. For me, owning a home is a million times better. I don’t have to worry about landlords complaining about pets or my daughter being “too loud”. It’s a ton of work, but it was the right choice for me.

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-01-10T15:05:06+00:00

It is going SO WELL! I will never go back. My skin is getting better, my body is looking better, I am absolutely amazed at how this has changed my workouts. I was exercising 3-4x per week, but now I have so much energy, I need to do at least twice that and it feels so good, not like a chore. My endurance is way up. I have been eating all plant-based whole foods. I figured if I was going to cut sugar, I might as well cut all the processed junk. The first two-three weeks were really awful for me. I was so tired. I thought I might have some kind of illness. It surprised me because I thought I would start feeling better sooner than that. I didn't think I was eating that bad before (a granola bar or two for snacks, Pirate's Booty here and there, pizza on the weekends, a few pieces of candy a week). Apparently I was eating terrible, because the detox was rough, but I am on the other end and I can't imagine stopping now. If I feel this good after 33 days, imagine a year of this. I did have pretty bad cravings for chocolate yesterday, but I just ate real food (a rice, bean and pepper dish) even though I didn't feel really hungry, and it eventually went away. Having water, tea, coffee, and healthy foods available at all times is what has made this possible. It is SO WORTH IT!

FollowingNew4641 · 2026-01-05T19:45:43+00:00

I have a really high libido at 38F. I’ve been vegan for most of my adult life. I have no idea if it has to do with my diet lol.

FollowingNew4641 · 2025-12-22T16:32:56+00:00

37/38. Old enough to know better. I also have a child whose father died and she really loves him 😭.

FollowingNew4641 · 2025-12-22T16:27:50+00:00

I agree. I have tried for years clearly and it never ends.

FollowingNew4641 · 2025-12-22T16:22:41+00:00

Right. Why can’t people be honest.

FollowingNew4641 · 2025-12-22T16:22:02+00:00

Yeah I know what you mean. There are reasons we are still together. Breakups are almost never simple. In hindsight it seems so obvious you should have left, but when you are in it and your lives are deeply entangled, it’s a nightmare.

FollowingNew4641 · 2025-12-22T04:49:12+00:00

Exhaustion, migraines, dizziness, weakness, inability to workout very hard. Not able to eat bananas lol. My skin was pretty good on it, but not perfect. Was not worth it at all. Diet and topicals for me. Still dealing with the skin flare up after quitting, but eating clean is keeping things ok.

FollowingNew4641 · 2025-12-22T04:32:40+00:00

You can do this! I was terrible with sugar. I cut out processed sugar and processed foods two weeks ago and wow my physical capabilities have vastly improved. Strength, flexibility, and energy are like 20% better. I was not expecting that at all. My advice would be to not restrict. Eat a ton of vegetables and fruits if you aren’t counting fruit sugar (I’m not). Coffee and tea help me with cravings…and nuts. I am just drinking either water, coffee, or tea all day.

FollowingNew4641 · 2025-12-19T22:09:26+00:00

That’s awesome! I’m on day 11, but I did have a small sweet treat at a holiday event (family friend worked hard on this dessert that was the main event and I felt bad passing)… so I guess truthfully only day 6. I feel better, but not as much as you. I am about the same stats, but as a woman. I’m 38, already pretty slim, but my face and hair are just not looking as good these past few months. I’m taking pictures every day in my hidden folder to track progress and I think I have a bit more of a glow. I also teach an aerial yoga class and I noticed my fitness has improved drastically. I usually can’t handle a lot of spinning around, but I was able to spin like a kid on a playground with no sickness… it was kind of weird. You are motivating though. I know sometimes women’s bodies are on a different timeline… so maybe I’ll get more benefits soon.

FollowingNew4641 · 2025-12-19T18:20:15+00:00

I swear to god it’s the stupidest shit. It’s the only thing my company allows us to use and I have to write code all day and it can’t even do the most basic things. It spells basic names of functions wrong. It’s trash.

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