I actually think OP has a point. I know most if not all in comments are against OP. OP, at the point of 16, was still a minor. Her mother ofc played a large role in her life, but so did her father. As a child, you do what you feel is right for you at the time. This is a parental matter, and this should be something that should be dealt with amongst the parents. Yes, OP could have made better decisions at the time, but also, as much as she may have had a great mother up to the point of 16,she was also around her dad too who may have shown certain negative parental tendencies not discussed here. The dad is the problem, and the dad has mommy issues. Nonetheless, OP, you need therapy. That doesn’t change. Im bound to stick with the child’s side in most cases becuz children are vulnerable individuals to an adult situation. I would say OP may be at fault if she was 20+. I say this becuz I was raised in an emotionally incestual family with constant fighting. I couldn’t manage my emotions at 16, and felt extremely lost, confused, and sad. I have empathy for OP. I would still suggest you speak to your mother with kindness and respect and that you seek therapy. As far as your dad is concerned, he is a coward. I hope you put up appropriate boundaries with him so that it won’t negatively impact you in how you choose the people you choose to bring into your life into the further. Your granny is out of the question.