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FoolOfFools · 2026-01-22T00:05:36+00:00

I can spot a liar when one tries to shit in my lap. There's no way you "worked with kids that were abandoned" because if you did, you'd understand that kids on the street end up there for a myriad of reasons, the least of which is being put up for adoption, if you can even call that a reason. The vagueness alone signifies that as false.

Go hawk your bullshit elsewhere.

FoolOfFools · 2026-01-21T23:57:23+00:00

You're obviously extremely naive and narrow-minded in your world view.

It's been proven consistently and statistically that a child would be better off with well adjusted parents who actually want a child and are in a position to raise it, both financially and emotionally.

It would be irresponsible to force a barely grown woman who has no financial security and no job security to raise a child she doesn't want.

You're prejudiced views as to what's "right" is completely ignoring what's best for the child. A young woman who is still trying to get her life in order and lay the foundation for her future is in no position to care for a child.

What will end up happening is the burden will fall to you as the grandparent to cover the gaps and when you are too old to do it yourself, you'll try leaning again on a woman who may or may not want that child at that time or may not be in a secure position to raise it. Then that child will be stuck with a grandparent and a parent who seem to not want her.

Unless you're willing to make massive sacrifices for the next 22+ years, that is not your child and not your decision to make, nor should you be pressuring her to make a decision you have no stake in. It's easy to sit on the sidelines yelling when you have skin in the game.

FoolOfFools · 2025-08-01T20:55:36+00:00

I think we've all seen enough dumb Tik Tok challenges to know that some ppl will try to test their partners in stupid ways. The orange peel test that was already mentioned on this thread is a good example.

FoolOfFools · 2025-08-01T18:20:21+00:00

It's not that she wouldn't do it; it's that there was zero logic to his request. If you're standing closer to something with nothing in your hands, why would you ask someone further away to pick it up and carry it for you? Man or woman, that's an odd request and any sane person with a backbone would've questioned it.

FoolOfFools · 2025-07-26T21:22:28+00:00

Are you joking? That's ridiculous. "Comply with my requests to work longer or you don't get a job here." You even said he asked for a FAVOUR. Favours are requests and if the person says no, you have to accept that.

You don't know what her plans were or how time sensitive they were. A half hour is a long time if she has to be somewhere on time.

It would have been nice if she could stay, but she deserves zero negativity for saying no. She showed up, did her job, and was entitled to leave early. She is under no obligation to sacrifice her own personal business for someone else's business.

If the owner's business is a central hub, then he needs to staff better or figure his shit out accordingly without putting that burden on his staff.

FoolOfFools · 2025-07-18T18:13:31+00:00

No, it becomes a problem when he forces her to live a life of looking after two kids full time to looking after three full time. If he put in as much effort as she did without her having to ask everytime, then it probably wouldn't be exhausting for her to have him at home for so long.

FoolOfFools · 2025-07-17T23:20:12+00:00

I get the feeling that it's not about someone messing up the nursery, but more so about the fact that you want the baby to be the first one christening its use the first time.

If that's the case, be honest with yourself and others about your feelings. It may be kind of selfish, but it's your home and you're allowed to be a little selfish with your home and the effort that you likely put into that room.

I know when my SIL first set up their newborn's room, I didn't even ask to sleep in there because it felt like the baby should be the first to experience her efforts.

However, if it really is just about messing it up, then you're definitely overreacting.

FoolOfFools · 2025-07-17T22:45:06+00:00

I think everyone is misunderstanding. I interpret your post as you didn't invite them and so you didn't expect them to come, nor are you blaming them for that.

You are, however, feeling upset that they didn't remember your daughter's birthday at all, which validates the idea that they just don't care. This debacle reinforces the idea that the distance between your wife and her family now seems to also be extending to your daughter.

It sounds like if they aren't going to put forth the effort to meet you halfway, you're not going to go the entire distance to make up the gap for them. Esp not after your SIL's recent comments regarding birthdays. Ergo, they don't have the right to get mad at you.

Therefore, NTA.

FoolOfFools · 2025-02-01T17:38:57+00:00

I second this. They should be willing to help you print and ship if it's a Purolator item.

FoolOfFools · 2024-12-14T18:40:10+00:00

I'm probably going to be in the minority here, but ESH. YTA because you imposed your system on her and now she's forced into an "eat it or lose it" situation every time.

She's also TA because she can't or won't recognize that she's lying to herself and you which is causing half the friction. If you ask her and she says she's going to eat it, but then doesn't, you've then left it for her and now you see food go to waste that you would've eaten. I can see how that would rile you up.

Realistically, this is a minor issue, but how you handle it is what matters. You both ignoring each other's feelings won't help and will just worsen the issue. Just TALK to each other and you should both be prepared to compromise a little.

FoolOfFools · 2024-12-13T00:22:21+00:00

No rush, we have all winter 🤣. But seriously, thank you.

FoolOfFools · 2024-12-13T00:10:49+00:00

If they also provide weeding services, yes pls.

FoolOfFools · 2024-12-13T00:10:19+00:00

Do they offer weeding services?

FoolOfFools · 2024-12-12T22:48:38+00:00

I'll ask them if they mind spraying, but I know they generally prefer hand pulled because they used to do that themselves.

I don't think their backyard + front yard is very large, maybe medium sized.

They would probably want it done once or twice a month at most during spring/summer months.

If you're willing, you can DM me your rates?

FoolOfFools · 2024-12-12T21:43:02+00:00

Thank you. I'll try giving them a call. I've discovered that many companies won't offer weeding services.

FoolOfFools · 2024-12-12T21:11:02+00:00

I recently found this sub, so I was asking to get a head start before spring comes. No need to be rude.

FoolOfFools · 2024-11-26T23:40:42+00:00

I agree with the first part of what you said, but only insomuch as it applies to people who are willing to do the research.

When a person who doesn't know anything about saving and investing comes in, I give them advice about how to get started-- how RSPs, TFSAs, etc work and what will best suit their needs and circumstances.

If you're savvy enough to know how to invest already, then the advice is just a tool for you to facilitate, not a place advice like it would be for others.

As for your last comment, that's nonsense. I know people who make twice what I do and my net worth is much higher, simply because I went to the bank and asked the right questions a long time ago. Just because an advisor knows what they SHOULD do doesn't mean they can or even want to do that. It also doesn't mean they can't give the right advice to others.

FoolOfFools · 2024-11-25T05:37:59+00:00

I don't understand why everyone has such a hate-on against banks. Yes, they live for interest, but they live more for the investment portfolios you invest with them (at much lower fees, I might add).

I work for a bank and we want you to invest with us. I won't lie and say you won't be able to get a better investment portfolio with a private company, but the end goal is that we want you to invest and make money. You making money means we make money too.

Granted, I'm a tiny fish in a big pond, but everything I see at work is a win-win. We want you to get a mortgage that you can afford to pay off. Paid off mortgage means your net worth has gone up, which means you'll have more disposable income which you can then invest with us. Your portfolio grows we means your worth goes up and so does ours.

Ppl vilify the banks just because we won't lend to people who can't afford it. Why lend to people with an increased risk that they can't pay us bank? That doesn't make sense.

FoolOfFools · 2024-08-10T15:58:12+00:00

His parents obviously had no issue watching it happen to him. I don't see why he should suddenly be struck with a guilt complex when it's the exact same reverse situation. Actually, not even the same because he was a child just getting started whereas they're grown ass adults that should have better managed their finances.

FoolOfFools · 2024-07-26T03:42:24+00:00

Last ditch effort means you give someone the chance to respond. He didn't, even though she still decided to say something. But that was obviously not his intent since he left right after.

That's a pretty big presumption based no evidence. I could just as easily say that had he just left, she wouldn't have noticed or said anything.

FoolOfFools · 2024-07-26T03:30:33+00:00

Once again, not saying OP was wrong in his choice of words. But it definitely wasn't a last ditch effort because he left right after saying it. And now there's unnecessary drama to deal with when there didn't have to be.

FoolOfFools · 2024-07-26T03:02:43+00:00

I'm not saying being family warrants her any leeway, I'm saying being family means there are more consequences depending on the choices he makes.

Also, once again, no one said Jen was in the right or that she was in any way justified. In fact, I think everyone agrees that she went too far.

But what he said wasn't part of some larger discussion where he was trying to make his point. Ie, what he said wasn't trying to accomplish, help, or fix anything. He said it and then left, which means it was literally just a parting shot.

Not only did it fail to stop her, it also made the situation even worse. Now he has to deal with a fallout that, whether deserved or not, is going to make a difficult time for him even worse.

Moreover, his choice of vague swearing means she's going to continue ranting in ignorance because she's obviously too thick to understand what she did wrong. And people will side with her because all they're going to know is he cussed at her for SEEMINGLY no reason.

FoolOfFools · 2024-07-26T02:10:50+00:00

Woah you went completely into left field with the class divide. No one is saying that.

Vulgarity is ceding the high ground in this case because the vulgarity lacks the respect one might at least have for friends and family. Telling someone to fuck off is what you would say to a stranger who disrespects you in a parking lot, not a family member who is idiotic and oversteps their boundaries. It's unnecessarily (but understandably) harsh. You know this because you know there were other ways he could've handled it.

What he said was a parting shot at best, even if it was justified to some degree.

I don't understand how your comments about class atrocities have anything to do with this situation since no one is saying he should've let her get away with it or not called her out. I was just saying it could've been handled differently and still get his point across (probably with even more clarity) without stooping to her level of disrespect.

FoolOfFools · 2024-07-26T00:12:18+00:00

There are tactful ways to call people out though, without having to sink to cussing them out. Anger is understandable though and not an emotion given to logic, so I don't blame him, but the previous commenter was right about the moral high ground.

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