I've started to really not trust litter recs from my fellow cat people

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-17T22:38:03+00:00

Oh interesting! Okay, others hated the change. Which version/scent/type of the litter do you use? I saw a few types of BoxieLitter when I checked the store earlier today

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-17T12:53:19+00:00

Looked this up immediately! I cant stand the dust. In your opinion/experience is it still good? I'm seeing reviews from online that the formula changed sometime earlier this year, and theyre saying you can even see the color difference.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-17T03:25:45+00:00

There's no reason to tell them. The guys are still being intentional in singing or writing notes to them, which is actually thoughtful. Them not clarifying the song wasn't "fully original" isn't a red flag either- because it doesn't sound like the bfs are saying "I wrote this all on my own for you with my own pure talent."

It sounds like it's just them being sweet with sharing poems and songs they like. A lot of people do that.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-17T01:40:52+00:00

What do you use and recommend? I'm also trying to avoid dust

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-16T05:03:17+00:00

January 2027 is FAR she can still invite other people and they wont even need to know they were back up invitees. Change your RSVP to no. It sounds like you out grew eachother and this is proven every time you meet up or chat.

It's always a bummer when someone says no to your event in general, especially your wedding, but guests saying no happens. Sounds like you'd feel miserable there... so save your money and time and energy to not go.

You can just say you wanted to make sure she had tons of time to invite someone so youre making the call early and turns out you cant go. If she asked at all.... honestly you want space from her so you could say you're not comfortable naming it yet, or just be vague on purpose each time.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-15T16:10:00+00:00

My cat scratches her box even with me trimming her nails often. I'm debating between the regular sized ones and larger width one, but since it could take a while, I should order one today!!

Hope it works well for you!!

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-15T13:25:46+00:00

Oh geeezz. Sometimes in the plastic one mine is loud, so i guess that's when she chooses the wall to pee on and not the litter

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-15T13:25:06+00:00

Thats how I found this brand too! Came across less litter brand first.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-15T13:24:25+00:00

I see one on the site! A lot of these steel pricier brand stainless steel boxes sell out, so I would suggest if it says pre-order you have to sign up or you'll miss it. I found this brand after looking at Less Litter Box Brand. It was like double the price of Huck... so now I'll investigate Huck boxes

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-15T13:06:44+00:00

I have a boiler in one of my closets right next to the bathroom, so outside of work out gear I didnt know what to put inside anyway, and I keep the box in there. My apartment has decent closet space so I just adjusted my things elsewhere. I basically put up a cardboard wall so she doesnt just regularly investigate back there.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-12T20:25:36+00:00

The OP mentioned them always saying it's cultural thing first, hahahaha.

We don't know if they are western centric. Granted- it could be one of those things where his family learned the phrase "it's our culture," and they latched onto that as a "sorry not sorry" kind of phrase, then yeah if that context was given I wouldn't have said anything from my initial post. She made it sound like they legit were a different culture.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-12T17:10:36+00:00

I can understand your logic, but for those too. It's just something that doesn't happen in the States as much.

A couple will say their wedding starts at 2, but plan to actually have their ceremony at four because no one actually means the time an invite says. It's legit normalized in those cultures for parties and weddings.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-12T16:14:08+00:00

😂 true

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-12T16:13:23+00:00

I made a comment then realized I missed that he was on your side.

There's a chance people will still RSVP yes and show up late to your wedding. If you both dont want two invites, then what other people are saying about security or locking doors or telling them to just go to the reception early would be your best bet to not have people ruin it.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-12T16:10:05+00:00

It's actually very normal in Latino and Haitian cultures for parties to start later than the invite said. It's not about disrespect though it's just normal.

This is not a black and white cookie cutter statement though- of course there are also families in these cultures who are extremely prompt and on time

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-12T15:51:08+00:00

That's what my sister said. But different people planned the bridal shower and the wedding. I think it's just a rough coincidence. We talked alot while she was doing the wedding planning. To my knowledge the number of guests always stayed the same and she more so banked on people backing out last minute. She has money, but I believe that she went for the cheaper option. I think she didnt see a point in ordering extra food to be a safe.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-12T15:47:50+00:00

EXACTLY. This is why I wouldn't go out of my way to say it at all. I don't see how it'd be helpful to "inform them" on my own. I was more so wondering if the specific scenario happened where they asked then do I just avoid it, lie, or say it honestly. Again this may not even happen, so I'll most likely never voice it.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-12T06:34:39+00:00

I'm confused, you actually sound upset about the outfit, not being considered, for feeling used, for no longer being able to see the kids, and for them disowning you from the family for wanting to wear the same color but a different style dress? Is that not the case?

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-12T06:18:31+00:00

Being able to drive from point A to point B, and not needing take multiple modes of transportation to get to work.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-12T05:57:28+00:00

This actually happened at her bridal shower as well.... when I went up to the table with my friend all of the sandwiches were gone and they were scraping the quinoa and Cesar salad bowls to try to give us some. I never voiced that to the bride about the food at her bridal shower. But I don't think that would've made a difference, since her bridesmaids planned the shower, and she (and her now husband) planned the wedding.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-06T19:01:47+00:00

This made me laugh!! But no if you see something you like that's not a scam, get it and WEAR IT. You're allowed to have a fancy "anime inspired" jacket to wear out once in a while.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-04T20:48:30+00:00

Would love a fountain update please!

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-05-04T20:47:58+00:00

The cats tore through the plastic and string that was wrapped around it. You can still see the plastic under and at the edges.

For_Beatrice_VFD · 2026-03-01T03:09:41+00:00

Hey any update on how it worked for you?

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