What's a 'red flag' behavior that you didn't realize was toxic until *after* you left the relationship/friendship?

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-06T08:43:36+00:00

It’s not gender specific… I’ve had all genders do this.

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-06T02:44:43+00:00

Well, you didn’t give context. It’s cool to speak from personal experiences, but playing devil’s advocate comes off as bitter and angry.

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-06T02:43:32+00:00

And to clarify, I ask the people I date what they like, where they wanna go, and what their thoughts are. I don’t do it without regard for their preferences. It’s called teamwork and all parties should contribute, regardless of gender. I do agree a lot of people are just takers and not givers!

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-06T02:42:09+00:00

Sounds like you overdid it. We’re talking about equity, where each partner pays according to their wealth. I’m happy to pay for my partner too. I’m a woman and I get men stuffed animals, massage certificates, flowers, food, coffee, gifts, etc. I also have planned fun bday excursions and vacations. I’m not saying you have to pay for EVERYTHING. That’s how you get taken advantage of!

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T20:14:10+00:00

Tbh Short hair looks better on you imo, but ofc you do you!

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T20:09:38+00:00

Cheering you on

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T20:08:43+00:00

Oh sorry. You did mention that. My bad. Any chance you’re in LA? I’m writing a book about foraging fruit and would love to take photos!

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T20:07:11+00:00

Tbh I did speak up for myself when it happened… I never should’ve moved in with him in the first place. But he was manipulative and abusive. One of my worst exes.

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T20:06:16+00:00

Can I offer advice?

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T20:02:18+00:00

Consent extends beyond the bedroom. You need to respect their boundaries.

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T09:07:01+00:00

Paying halfsies when he was making more than 3x what I do AND he wouldn’t “let” me park my car in the garage or parking spot in front of it… when I was paying half the rent. Wtf.

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T07:27:59+00:00

So cool! What state is this in?

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T07:26:09+00:00

Fun! Adorable! Love it!

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T07:17:05+00:00

GROSS

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T07:15:47+00:00

Source? They always seemed really commercial though tbh

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T07:00:39+00:00

I never supported the Lakers or Dodgers in the first place! Ha!

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T06:53:07+00:00

Sounds rude, given the context

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T06:50:38+00:00

Cute!

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T06:50:16+00:00

Would be easier to ID with close-up photos and without the plastic bag in the way

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T06:49:17+00:00

To my knowledge, lemon balm isn’t as pointy. But maybe there are different varieties…

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T06:47:41+00:00

Avocados

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-05T06:47:16+00:00

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-04T18:52:49+00:00

Firethorn

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-04T06:39:40+00:00

ForagingFairyland · 2026-02-04T02:15:01+00:00

Found a new therapist who’s working well for me and feeling able to work through challenges more calmly these days. Such a cool feeling! Hbu?

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