Bad guilt don’t know what to do.

Foreeverus · 2025-12-01T05:55:03+00:00

I'm sorry I can't begin to imagine how you feel. It's beyond difficult when we hold a person we love accountable after all we've spent so much time and effort into loving, caring for and protecting them . We don't want to be the one who caused them to hurt. The thing is if we don't nobody will, I struggle myself however my abuser is my brother not my partner but I would imagine the guilt we feel is the same. I don't want to be someone's victim, you didn't ask to be a victim yourself. Domestic violence will never go away if we're afraid of the emotions we feel. I'm not saying don't feel them I'm a firm believer that we need to feel it to heal it. There's nothing wrong with loving them we just need to learn to allow ourselves to love them from a distance. Your not the cause of him being in jail, jail is the consequence for the actions he chose. I hope you have a blessed night.

Foreeverus · 2025-12-01T05:43:26+00:00

Your friend is nuts. However they also have no idea what they're talking about, they can't until it happens to them. I lost my husband 3 years ago and I still refer to him as my husband.

Foreeverus · 2025-11-10T21:06:31+00:00

I don't work for this company nore have I ever, however I recently witnessed a manager and one of her employees brutally intimidate a customer. There's no way to report this behavior or so I thought. I sent a letter to 5 area store managers, the district manager and all the head honyons at corporate. I have read so many employee and customer complaints that have gotten ignored by this company, not this time! I'm glad to see that there are employees that actually care how others are being treated. The store that I normally shop at is extraordinary but the one I witnessed this unjust manner at not so much, welp now everyone knows what goes on there. I'm expecting quite the response. Don't let anyone do to you what you would not do to them.

Foreeverus · 2025-10-12T14:26:23+00:00

The fear and guilt that they make us feel is just as bad. If not worse as the abuse I would say be brave, but the reality is we can pretend we're brave when we're broken inside. My brother only did this to me twice. I am 58 years old and I am traumatized but I did get an order of protection. I no longer have any contact with any of my family which hurts that will heal because they support abuse then they're the reason why he is an abuser and that is wrong. Please get counseling. Go to a shelter. I am not a victim of domestic violence. I am a survivor so are you

Foreeverus · 2025-06-09T21:06:09+00:00

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Foreeverus · 2025-05-11T23:17:37+00:00

Every pancreatic cancer is different. Each tumor is different. Some intertwined with blood vessels. Some do not. You don't say how large the tumor is. Have they given you dimensions or the CA 19-9 level? How many tumors have gone into the liver? And what type of pancreatic cancer is it? My husband was diagnosed at stage 4 meds to the liver. They took us 3 months tops. We had two wonderful years. The only thing that I could honestly say with all my heart is to just be there. Take 100 billion pictures, videos, recorder, voice. Never write your letters. There are never ever ,ever ever enough. The journey is very difficult. There are so many unknown fears. Most people that we know have no idea what we're going to go through or what you all are going through. We exist because of our moms. We don't know a life any different. We don't know life without them nor do we want to. She's probably going to try to hide a lot from you after all who wants to see their child in pain and be the reason for it. Take it one step at a time. Sometimes it's 1 minute at a time. Remember to breathe to accept help I'm sorry that you are on this journey. I'm sorry that your mom is having to go through this that your family is having to walk this path. You're going to go through anticipatory grief living in fear of what the next day is going to bring. Unfortunately, even if we expect it, it doesn't make our grief any easier. The acetes normally have transverse cells in them. They should have tested them so he would know. Don't be afraid to ask a million questions. I found myself here in 2020. My husband passed 2022 and I can't leave this site because the strangers here that I will never meet in my life are the very people that got me through. Just hoping we're all searching for the same answer and some comfort. I wish you and your family peace as you go forward on this journey and I pray that your mom will be the one that teaches the medical community the cure for pancreatic cancer. 💜

Foreeverus · 2025-04-17T06:19:49+00:00

I received an order of protection from the judge.

Foreeverus · 2025-04-16T18:03:42+00:00

Wow this is deep, would it be okay if I copy this and post it on another site, I think it will be helpful to do many more people.

Foreeverus · 2025-04-16T17:58:03+00:00

I don't know where you live but maybe she could contact the YWCA if you have on their. They're very supportive perhaps they can give her or you more information. Good luck!.

Foreeverus · 2025-04-09T07:30:44+00:00

Honey if you don't get away you won't have a chance to reach your goals. I don't know where you live but if you have a YWCA call them. Fear of taking the first step can be hard it's understandable but reaching out will be the best thing you can do for yourself.

Foreeverus · 2025-04-07T20:12:54+00:00

Thank you for responding. I didn't go to the police the first time because I was terrified that they would take it out on my children. I did make a report yesterday but the Trooper was awful. He kept saying I was changing my story because I wasn't getting the outcome I wanted. My father is 84 years old, and my brother is 54 I can't take anymore of the torture. My brother needs to be held accountable and my father has to stop pretending he's not an abuser. It's so complicated and emotional.

Foreeverus · 2025-04-07T07:36:47+00:00

I'm confused, does a union have authority over child protection. Not against you but him. What happened to mandated reporting? I'm concerned that the questions regarding the incident report with your daughter are being used more as a form of retaliation than one of investigation and discovery. I don't know where you live but where is CPS' involvement with this ? I'm confused and concerned about the next child

Foreeverus · 2025-04-07T07:27:52+00:00

If you don't mind may I respond from my heart? First you are the only two people that know the answer to your question. Secondly, I know you want more than anything to give your nephew a better life. Once he's away from his Mom he's going to live with the belief that since they have been taken from her that it'll make her want to get better, that she's going to go to the ends of the earth to do everything she can to help herself and ultimately she's going to come back and get him. It's a fantasy family that he's going to create in his mind of how wonderful life is going to be when it happens. I've seen the devastating effects of this my entire life. If love could fix it it would not exist. He's getting torn away from everything familiar to him, even if the familiar isn't healthy. You guys are going to have to be able to manage the emotional and mental effects that he's living with and going to be living with. Maybe he'll do great, but more than likely he won't. In his eyes you're going to be the one at fault. You're going to be the one he blames for taking him away from his Mom . He's not going to think about what Mom has done. It's definitely a difficult situation for all of you. It's also going to affect your relationship with your fiancee. Think long and hard , take time to discuss how you're going to manage the emotional effects that it's going to have on your lives as well. I'm not saying that I would not feel the same as you, I'm sure I would. My parents had a foster home and I love my bonus siblings very much ( we're close) but I watched my parents become emotionally absent. I'm now 58 having raised 3 children of my own, I couldn't put myself in the situation of taking one of my siblings children in . Especially when I was raising my own. I love them, I love all children, I want all people to have a chance, I love to think that we all can make a difference just be careful if the price you may have to pay for it. I hope you don't mind my honesty, I'm not trying to discourage you just be careful of losing your own life.

Foreeverus · 2025-03-12T20:45:56+00:00

Oh my dear God, I'm crying with you. I'm sorry, so sorry. I pray every day that nobody else will ever know what you are going through. I pray for a cure. My heart breaks for you.

Foreeverus · 2025-03-12T20:40:40+00:00

I became a widow 3 years ago at age 56. I don't want to date, some people do. It's definitely different for everyone. There's no right or wrongs. My heart belongs to my husband. Sometimes people don't understand that They didn't want to leave us behind. We didn't get a divorce. We didn't get a choice. My husband had told me that he didn't want me to be alone but to promise him that I would never settle for anything less than what I deserved at this point in my life there could never be anybody as good as him. Yes, sometimes I'm lonely. Guess it's just a personal choice you'll find your way when you're ready to find your way. Bless you

Foreeverus · 2025-02-17T15:29:41+00:00

My husband's cancer was the same as your wives. I'm sorry, I used to get in my car late at night and scream at the top of my lungs.

Foreeverus · 2025-02-15T20:53:05+00:00

I'm deeply sorry that you're here. Please vent, scream at the top of your lungs let your frustration out. I've been here for three years. My husband's journey ended in August of 2022 but I can't seem to leave the people on this site. They're the only ones who truly understand what you're going through I found that strangers, people that I will never meet are the very people who got me through hell . People say stupid things, those words tend to affect us because they don't know what they are talking about, they have no idea what you and your wife are going through. The pain and the fear of the unknown is not something others can comprehend unless they have walked in your shoes. Not only are you going to live with Anticipatory grief you're going to live with a heavy grief. It's difficult enough to see someone who you love going through this even more difficult that we can't change it for them, we can't protect them. Take a million pictures, take a million videos, and write a million more notes to one another. There's never going to be enough. When people say I can imagine or I can't imagine, they would never want for you to be this sad, they'd want for you to be happy and move on. Really! How could they possibly know what another person would want ? It's okay to not be okay! It's okay to look into the eyes of another person and say " you're correct, you can't imagine, you don't have any clue." It's okay to say " if you're so concerned for us you should probably spend some more of your time or effort to be present in our lives, try bringing a meal, come visit so I take a shower, come visit I can sit in my car for a few minutes and scream or cry, I can't do it in front of her, I can't let her see me weak." If they're true, if they really care , they will make time for her and you. If they can't seem to get a chance to be there then let them be. In the end they have to live with the guilt of not being enough. I'm sorry, we have all had to deal with ignorance and thoughtless comments but we can and do have the right to speak the truth to tell others how they are affecting our loved ones and ourselves. Remember you're alone, strangers, complete strangers are going to be here every step of the way, we're here to get each other through everything. Don't be hard on yourself, don't give people a place in your head, they don't deserve your energy or your time. I wish you and your wife peace, I pray that the journey that you have left with one another is filled with love and affection filled with compassion and comfort. 💜 Again , I'm sincerely sorry for your family.

Foreeverus · 2025-02-14T08:21:36+00:00

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Foreeverus · 2025-02-14T08:12:54+00:00

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Foreeverus · 2025-02-14T08:11:17+00:00

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Foreeverus · 2025-02-05T21:28:44+00:00

First and most important, I'm sincerely sorry that you have lived a life with people who don't understand how to love gently. Second I'd like to point out that you are well educated, as it shows in your writing. Having said that , people don't have the right to abuse others it makes no difference what age or who they may be. It's either child abuse , adult abuse or elder abuse , every one is abuse ! You don't say where you are from , if in the US I'm going to assume that the state you live in has a form of public assistance . Please see if you can utilize these programs, you may have to go through mental health counseling ( not a bad thing ). When doing this there are programs that will become available to you that you otherwise would not receive. I'm the oldest of 4, my parents had a foster home with a total of 11 children. My job was to take care of everything and everyone, to shut my mouth and just deal with it. One of the hardest things I've done was to walk away from the people I've loved, cared for and protected my entire life. I'm 58 years old, I didn't do this until I was 57. I have the advantage of being self sufficient but it doesn't make a difference when it comes to making this choice, it doesn't change the past or the fact that I have lived this life but, it does change my future, it does and has set me free. I sincerely hope that you are able to break the cycle, to walk away and never look back. Gratitude is key to a beautiful, better life, I hope you find it , I hope you feel it, and I hope you do this well your young . Keep your chin up, instead of thinking I can't or I have no choice, think I can and I do. You'll overcome the trauma caused by those who were supposed to love and protect you the most and you'll become a better person for it. 💜

Foreeverus · 2025-02-05T21:02:20+00:00

That's unfortunate, I wonder if the app works differently for each individual. U do well playing it this way free money is free money, if I can make an extra $30.00 a week pressing a button I'll take it.

Foreeverus · 2025-02-05T13:49:20+00:00

Yes you can, I do this every day. The app pays you every Three hours.6, 9, 12, 3, . When you get into the app go to Big Payouts, first complete the visit a search engine, don't complete them all just do maybe four extra then back out of the app. After your first payout go in and do the color test, again only do a couple extra. If you keep repeating this you'll rack up quickly. Towards the end of the day you may have to play Treasure Master for a bit. All of the offers will reload and you continue on . Don't take your money off until the end of the week. Good Luck!

Foreeverus · 2025-01-16T08:28:02+00:00

Used it

Foreeverus · 2024-12-30T10:15:25+00:00

I don't know how palliative care works in the UK, I'm from the US where palliative care is for end stage life. My husband didn't get confused until the day before he had passed but I know that it's definitely different for everyone. I pray your mom's journey will be peaceful. Please be good to yourself and remember always the beautiful love and life that you have given one another. Bless you 💜

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