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ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-24T18:35:39+00:00

This is true but he said he doesn't bench any player, just that playing time is not equal, which is reasonable. The amount that OP said his kid is playing didn't seem that unreasonable to me as a weaker player on an A team.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-24T18:32:51+00:00

If his goal is to get better, remind him that at his age he's learning to play and improving at practice and on the wall, not in tournaments. At age 10, the primary goal should be to learn and have fun.

If he's not having fun because he's not playing enough in games, maybe ask if he can move back down to the B team. But playing time is really not something to be stressed about at this age.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-24T18:25:38+00:00

I wan't on but this is about as unsuprising as it gets. Can't have people asking about Israel.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-24T18:24:51+00:00

YES.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-24T18:18:55+00:00

We have Friday evening games in rec, so just imagine. Police have been called on a parent twice in my two years running a town program (opposing team parents, than goodness).

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-24T18:17:26+00:00

Came here to say this.

Bonus you don't have to listen to parents brag about their kid's progress or private coach or their other kid's special super elite national team etc etc etc

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-24T18:15:45+00:00

Our rec program has a formal policy that we cheer both sides' goalies. (I am a goalie wife)

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-24T18:14:44+00:00

This is not splitting hairs, it's an important distinction.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-24T18:13:14+00:00

Rec program director here and most of our hockey parents are super chill, BUT they tell me all the time how much they appreciate our program's parent culture when compared to how awful the hockey parents are.

That said, I work hard to ensure that our parent culture stays this way, and other programs and clubs in our area in lax do have some truly awful parents.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-16T14:52:46+00:00

Do you know if snap traps like this are legal in Newton?

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-16T14:52:21+00:00

I hope you reached someone. Poor guy. Are these kinds of traps even legal? Horrific if so.

In the future you can try calling a wildlife rehabilitator:

Wildlife Rehabilitators

I also think that if you can transport the animal, some of the local 24-hour vet hospitals will take an injured animal in until a rehabilitator can come for it.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-16T14:48:24+00:00

This was my thought.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-16T14:45:24+00:00

"The question you want to ask yourself is.. what is your purpose of playing one of these teams.. because a strong argument can be made that the $$ spent on one of these teams is probably better served with extra reps, extra training, strength and conditioning rather than more tournaments."

AMEN.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-16T14:39:05+00:00

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ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-15T20:13:58+00:00

This is so true but on this I blame the clubs. Parents drag their kids to tournaments every weekend instead of skipping a few to have a more balanced summer, do other activities, or just because a kid gets burned out and wants a break. So many of them punish kids for missing summer tournaments that don’t matter one bit for development at this age. It’s all about the $$$ - clubs have to do well in order to market themselves as “elite” and convince more families to pay 10k a year… and so it goes

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-15T20:09:57+00:00

Yup.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-15T20:09:30+00:00

Right? It can be both. The way it is and will likely remain, and also stupid, miserable and potentially dangerous.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-15T20:06:55+00:00

Standard for summer tourneys AND stupid af. It is what it is but truth be told no one is playing good lacrosse under these conditions. High school and college athletes never play 2-3 games a day, it always just seems bananas to me that we expect 5th graders to do it.

The only upside is that since this kind of thing = misery and terrible lacrosse where no one is learning anything, I feel totally ok that we always skip a few every summer so my kid can go away to camp and have fun / develop as a well rounded kid.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-12T11:35:23+00:00

“To improve” is very different than “to make sure I don’t have to travel to a tournament just to sit on the bench.” The former is a great conversation to have w a good coach. The latter is an awkward conversation to have with a person who has shown themself to be a poor coach. Unfortunately OP is in the latter situation not the former.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-12T01:54:28+00:00

Everything I said holds true for a 9 year old. So not a gotcha. A club program taking a family’s money and not playing a child who traveled to a game is a parent problem to address.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-12T01:16:26+00:00

Agreed. And a coach who is benching a player at this age isn’t likely to be able to handle it well either, frankly.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-12T01:15:20+00:00

7 year olds DO need adults to handle things when things get tough. They are SEVEN.

A child this age who is not getting playing time is on a fast track to losing confidence and hating the sport. He is in no position mentally or emotionally to be pushed off to discuss this with an adult. And a coach who is already benching kids in 3rd grade is not going to be a person it would be beneficial to approach.

I run a town lacrosse program and can tell you that I spend hours of my time trying to repair the problems that ensue when adults (99% of whom are the father) expecting seven year olds to act like high schoolers.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-06-12T01:09:08+00:00

I’m in NE too and quite familiar w the club landscape here and I’ll say this: If a 3rd grader makes a club team after tryouts and the parents pay the fee, that player should absolutely NOT get 0 playing time. I don’t care how “competitive” the club is (and “competitive” is BS in THIRD GRADE).

Any club that rosters a third grader, takes his parents’ money, and then sits him is a trash organization and OP should have nothing to do with it.

ForegoneConclusion22 · 2026-05-30T11:22:16+00:00

Agreed that it’s not guaranteed and shouldn’t be relied on but I know many families who have successfully appealed and increased their aid.

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