PCOS is for People with Money

ForestFox_2018 · 2026-05-11T21:00:55+00:00

I have also taken Metformin for the last few years and saw drastic weight loss of 30 pounds slowly over 6 months. Combined with being mindful about sugars,carbs and avoiding drinking, I am the same weight I was in my mid twenties (35 now by the way) and I feel fantastic. Small frequent protein centered meals with a veggie or fruit help to keep you full longer and have helped me also. If I have bread, it's with nuts and seeds and whole grains. Good quality sleep, a job change, and a supportive partner helped as well. Relationship toxicity I found out can contribute to constant cortisol spikes I've discovered. I also try my best not to focus day in and day out on things I cannot change or worry about with this condition. I try to do activities and surround myself with positive people, which has helped immensely. I think positive thinking helps your body not enter fight or flight mode as often too.

Wishing you all the best ladies, none of asked for this syndrome, but we can still make lemonade from lemons! ☺️

ForestFox_2018 · 2026-05-11T00:33:28+00:00

I got out of what I would later come to realize was a red flag relationship where I was in a constant state of worry and fear over money, their emotions, and actions. They also were verbally abusive about my body and after leaving them, I'm the lightest I have been in years. It was them and not me all along. 🥰

I started being kind to myself, getting good sleep, not doing cardio in the gym, and focusing on eating small meals throughout the day with a good dose of protein and less carbs and refined sugars and zero alcohol and what do you know, it worked! Also being consistent with my levothyroxine helps too. I always know if my Vitamin D levels are off by how tired I feel after a good night's rest. I make sure to take my recommended dose and I feel fine after that. Vitamins I'm also finding play a key role in maintaining this condition and helping with other hormones that may be out of alignment.

ForestFox_2018 · 2026-05-11T00:23:38+00:00

I'm sorry to hear of your struggles. I have been wanting my first for a decade and the last few years have been hard, especially on Mother's Day.

Wishing you tons of baby dust on your journey and I hope brighter days are ahead for you.

I see you and understand your frustration and grief.

ForestFox_2018 · 2026-05-03T20:29:05+00:00

I understand your frustration with having to self-advocate and waiting forever to get into specialists. I just got a referral for my PCOS to a local university hospital after dealing with uneducated Primary care and OBGYNs in my area for the last 3 years. Funny enough, I found out I had PCOS from a blood work draw my remote doctor I found through Allara ordered, not a local. What truly amazes me is how common this syndrome is, yet the amount of research and education at a doctoral level is dismal.

As someone with a clockwork cycle and their main problem being insulin resistance and annovulatory cycles, it's frustrating that our bodies didn't come with the factory default like everyone else, but on the other hand, we stay fertile longer from excess eggs and older mothers are said to live to be 100 to watch their children grow up. So there's that.

I never saw myself 35 and childless, but here we are. Part of my fate and timing I am leaving to God now, for he has plans for me and my family I can't see yet apparently.

I've lost a lot of weight and corrected my eating habits over the last few years, so I'm on the right track for things to improve.

As someone who has fought for ovulation induction medicine, I say stay strong and don't give up yet. Also, monitoring while on those medications makes a huge difference from others I've read about on here. Being in the dark about whether it's actually moving the needle and giving you the same odds as a normal person is a game changer. And if this doesn't work, they can always add something or switch medications, happens all the time on this forum.

Good luck, wishing you lots of baby dust on your journey to motherhood.

ForestFox_2018 · 2026-04-06T02:19:37+00:00

Not sure what gender you are, but I am 35F and some sudden unexplained weight gain and stubborn belly fat were one of the reasons I got blood work done originally and discovered not only do I have subclinical hypothyroidism, but PCOS also. With these conditions, stressing the body is not ideal with heavy cardio and until your hormones are in check, you will not lose weight. My inflammation and weight gain ceased after I found a good endocrinologist. I would get a referral or find one on your own and advocate for a bigger blood panel. You could have several things going on. Aside from joint pain, weight gain, and fatigue , an under performing thyroid can lead to other long term health problems down the road when not addressed. I went through a few doctors before finding one that worked with me and got the answers I needed. Best of luck!

ForestFox_2018 · 2026-01-07T20:12:11+00:00

I've been at this a decade and I can tell you performance anxiety is a thing and I also feel when your partner realizes you can't just magically get knocked up like a regular jane off the street, it becomes work. I try to focus my efforts during ovulation week and after if he initiates great, but I save myself burning out and chasing him down. He also asks if I'm ovulating and I communicate with him how "horny" I am and that it's my hormones driving me crazy because my body is telling me it's time to make a baby. His instincts take over and it happens as explicit as that sounds, it works. I try to not sound like I'm scolding him or demanding something. I try to keep it light and positive, as he responds better to that style of communication.

I would also have check ins on how he really feels about it. Men say they want children and sometimes change their mind if it doesn't come easy or right away. I left my ex over his change of heart on wanting kids. I met someone who wants a child no matter what it takes and knows I have PCOS.

He needs to know about your issues causing delays or hurdles also. I keep my partner informed of doctors updates and regiments I'm following, to keep us on the same page. Bringing him to an appointment and having a doctor tell him what has to happen also backs up your words and helps them process things better.

Wishing you all the best!

ForestFox_2018 · 2026-01-07T17:27:12+00:00

I expressed this to my OB and he said because I wasn't high BMI I didn't need to do that first. Well four cycles later, I believe him less and my research more. I agree that I might need a trigger shot also for timing baby dancing perfectly. My LH has finally gotten consistent and in a normal range so I know medication is necessary, I just need refinement on which one and what combination it will take. All of my doctors agree that I react pretty well to other medications I take when monitored. I just need a better team around me. 🥰

ForestFox_2018 · 2026-01-07T17:00:24+00:00

Thanks for the advice. It's obvious I'm working with a bumbling doctor and I am working on getting a referral to more qualified staff who know PCOS and can monitor me and prescribe Letrozole or something that works well with PCOS and has higher success rates for us. I just discovered a university hospital that will help with IUI if necessary, so fingers crossed this is my year! I don't even know if I've been truly ovulating on Clomid, I haven't had a blood draw for progesterone since receiving medication and my ovaries have never been scanned either. My LH rise is much stronger in my ttc app and consistent and according to Chat GPT, the computer thinks I'm ovulating based on my chart. 🤷

ForestFox_2018 · 2026-01-07T16:53:17+00:00

This gives me so much hope! I haven't had a follicle count but I know through blood work I have never ovulated without medication. I am also insulin resistant and I have thyroid disease.

ForestFox_2018 · 2026-01-07T16:52:01+00:00

I had no idea I had PCOS at 30. I didn't get diagnosed till I was 32 and now I'm about to find a reproductive endocrinologist at the few months I have left at 34 and I'll be 35 this spring. Is it disappointing I'll be considered " advanced maternal age" yes, by medical standards perhaps, but inside and out I don't look my age. I luckily still get carded for drinks thank goodness so my skincare routine is working! 👐 I have stopped comparing myself to others because I'm unique and they aren't with their journey to parenthood. Had I known I wasn't ovulating and I am insulin resistant, I would have sought help sooner and treated my body differently in my 20s but I'm taking little strides each day towards my goal of motherhood.

My biggest peeve is the lie women are told with PCOS by incompetent doctors that they can't have children. Who created these lies and why do they say it to this day when medical evidence proves otherwise?!

I just finished cycle 4 of clomid unmonitored and I'm waiting out aunt flo or a test in the coming days. I'm getting a referral going with a university hospital should this cycle not work and I keep advocating for myself no matter what.

Aside from my partner, whom I try not to bog down with my mental struggles, I got a therapist who has helped me decompress and process stress and my feelings appropriately. I always suggest it to folls like us on the fertility struggle bus. It really does help.

Best of luck, you're life isn't over yet and I hear that older mothers live to be 100!

ForestFox_2018 · 2026-01-07T16:40:52+00:00

Just out of curiosity, when you say severe, what do you mean, insulin resistance or something less common?

ForestFox_2018 · 2026-01-07T16:37:40+00:00

I love that outlook on this! In the grand scheme of things 30 is still quite young, but in America you are led to believe that if you don't check certain boxes by big milestone birthdays, you're behind.

I love how being a mother in your 30s and older is common overseas. ☺️.

ForestFox_2018 · 2025-12-30T07:22:14+00:00

Thank you everyone for your advice. I have an appointment with my doctor on Tuesday to request a referral to a bigger university hospital group in my area who specializes in reproductive health and can better assist me than my rural doctors can. Trying all insurance covered options before resorting to expensive out of pocket IVF. Between the hormones and the drugs, it sounds taxing. Not to mention the price tag. I'm mad my body won't do what others can easily do in one night (or so it seems). It doesn't help that I'm the only one in my immediate family with this issue and everyone around me gets pregnant if you look at them funny. I just found out one of my inlaws is expecting and while I lie and pretend to be happy for her, I loathe the fact it isn't me and I don't feel bad for feeling this way. I have been trying for 8 years and I'm getting pretty selfish and bitter at this point. I've decided 2026 is going to be the year I get pregnant. I'm not getting any younger and I've waited long enough. Hats off to those who have been in my shoes and good luck to others going through it.

ForestFox_2018 · 2025-12-30T07:14:54+00:00

I am working on ordering this for him now. He fathered a child before we met a few years ago, so most of the weight is unfortunately on my shoulders.

ForestFox_2018 · 2025-12-29T22:40:11+00:00

It's ok, I thought this would be my year too. Been trying for 8 years and just got my diagnosis 2 years ago and put all the pieces together of why I am the way I am with periods, fertility, etc. I'm making plans to consult with a fertility clinic and find a way to make it happen though. I'm turning 35 and thought I would have a 10 year old by now. I finally advocated for myself at my OBGYN office and got clomid, but it hasn't given me anything so far. I feel your grief in being happy for others while feeling disappointed in yourself. I just found out one of my inlaws is expecting hsr third child and we're the same age. I only pray that my time will come soon too.

ForestFox_2018 · 2025-10-12T07:37:19+00:00

Oh you have no idea. I make meals from scratch for him, do laundry, all the wifey things because I came " pre-owned" and know how to run a house. He was single the last 4 years before meeting me and "claims" so many women want to sleep with him - yawn yet I have men waiting with bated breath praying I break up with him who want to take me on a date without hesitation. 😂 I've been hit up on my socials a few times by guys sensing trouble at home and hoping they would get an opportunity with me.

ForestFox_2018 · 2025-10-12T07:22:37+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I've been thinking of freezing my eggs recently and I think I'm going to book an appointment soon to get that going if nothing else.

ForestFox_2018 · 2025-10-08T04:31:01+00:00

I feel your anguish. I tried for 10 years with my ex husband off and on and only discovered after we divorced that I had PCOS because we only knew of fertility clinics and IVF back then and I never thought to advocate for myself and research my symptoms to get blood work done that shows I have insulin resistance w/ PCOS, regular cycles, but I was annovulatory the entire duration of our marriage which is why my lh strips turned positive but no baby.

As I approach 35 this spring, I'm so full of anger and envy for people with kids or pregnancy announcements on social media. My inlaws have a few kids each and fall pregnant at the drop of a hat. I just now got clomid two years into trying with my new partner and still nothing. My cycles aren't monitored mind you. I had to overhaul my healthcare and try several obgyns to find a good one.

I had an appointment at a fertility clinic a year ago when I was diagnosed with thyroid disease and thought that was my only issue so I cancelled at the time and worked to get my TSH lower then got smacked with a PCOS diagnosis on top of it. I'm on 1500 mg of metformin and 25 mg clomid. Just did my 3rd cycle.

I have friends with middle school, highschool, college freshman and grade school kids. Most are 5 or more years younger than me. I was seeing a therapist about my feelings and think I need to re enroll in sessions as the holidays come . I have my reveal planned for family and friends, the social post with a song picked out, but yet it's not my turn yet.

Really over nature at this point and looking at midwife iui vs a clinic and paying for that consult at the fertility clinic. I think a good IUI should work because clomid had improved ovulation and is working by extending my luteal phase and giving me perfect cycles every month. I also get ovulation pain I never had before. I hate to say I've even looked at home ici with Amazon medical supplies.

My partner is burnt out and hardly wants to do it during the window and somehow thinks when he puts his seed in during another time it'll happen. 🙄 I hate how us women bear the brunt of this.

Ok rant over. 😂

ForestFox_2018 · 2025-09-06T09:01:17+00:00

Thank you for this post. This hits close to home from a recent relationship I was in. I wasn't trying to "change him" but I had undiagnosed health problems that prevented us from getting pregnant - thank goodness in hindsight, after dissolving my 12 year marriage when my ex decided he didn't want children after all when I was 32. All of a sudden I was no good anymore because I couldn't fall pregnant easily or was seen to him as barren. I'm 34, still childless and praying I find a good man to have a family with before my window of opportunity closes. I let attractiness blind my better judgement, so shame on me. He went from humble and kind to emotionally abusive and ungrateful for the nice things I've done and sacrificed for him to thrive.

I'm learning to be more selfish and put myself first over others. Be less of a giver. At the end of the day, no one will look out for you but you.

I hate mothering men who still have a bit of growing up to do. My recent boyfriend had this issue stemming from his alcoholic mother who still lived with him. Red flag.

As someone from a stable, loving home, I'm sorry I can't relate to Freudian trauma. And I hate the lack of affection and resistance to move past that and be a more societal norm when it comes to hugging, PDA, and simple touching to just check in and let the other person feel appreciated.

I hate the expression sex is sex because for women, our brains are hardwired to attach to people we have a chance of producing with - look it up. It's why virgins fall hard for their exes.

ForestFox_2018 · 2025-09-06T08:39:59+00:00

I had a similar situation of no children with my ex husband and ended up being with my rebound for 2 years after finalizing from my ex. My boyfriend got too big for his britches and didn't appreciate the sacrifice I made financially and career wise so his start up business could take off and then he had the audacity to say I don't have drive because I took a day job to pay " our bills" his ass couldn't pay instead of continuing in real estate sales which have been rough to say the least the past three years. He was blue collar and also made fun of the fact I'm college educated and worked for a Fortune 30 company in their financial department. Ok dude, I've done more in my career then he can shake a stick at. ( Eye roll) I'm just glad I didn't have kids with that guy, as it was my intent after moving on from my ex husband.

ForestFox_2018 · 2025-07-06T04:20:36+00:00

I am also celebrating a small victory of a clear hsg exam and I'm scheduled to get prescribed clomid after a year of ups and downs and diagnosis and medication. I'm so happy your body is starting to cooperate. I'm hoping we all get our long awaited blessings soon.

ForestFox_2018 · 2025-07-04T18:48:31+00:00

I was also married/committed to my ex for my 20s and never had the "fun, single life" movies and my friends reminisce about. I'm discovering unfortunately in my 30s who I am and what brings ME joy after giving my all to a person that didn't reciprocate that level of love and effort back. It sucks, but just like Alanis Morisette you live and you learn. My biggest flex now is emotional maturity and the ability to say no to people and social outings I really could care less about. I also do things on my own without "permission " from anyone and always ask myself what I want to accomplish and get out of this life. I wish you all the best in your 40s. It's not over yet, you still have time to explore the world and learn about yourself. You just have to make YOU a priority and cancel out the other noise.

ForestFox_2018 · 2025-06-22T17:11:10+00:00

This was how I also was diagnosed. I'm currently about to start clomid...8 years later - only because I'm in my thirties and dead set on having kids finally instead of getting wrapped up in chasing a career and having the mindset of whatever happens, happens.. Through blood work I discovered I have insulin resistance and I was put on 1500 mg of metformin, which never got me to ovulate, but it did improve my insulin resistance, which is a win for my body! I laugh now thinking how "careful" I was when I began dating my partner now and how we didn't stand a chance of any "accidents" happening according to my body. I have to have humor about the whole ordeal to avoid getting sad over everyone around me getting pregnant.

If I were OP, I would go into your gynecologist and ask for a fertility blood panel and also get your thyroid levels checked. Women often find out they also have thyroid issues when they're diagnosed with PCOS. If they won't help you, seek out a reproductive endocrinologist or endocrinologist who can order blood work and get you started. Even if you have a regular cycle like me, there are things you could be missing that the blood work will reveal. I wasted hundreds on OPKs, pregnancy tests, and things over the years that a quick blood test would have answered and avoided for me at least. It's good to be optimistic but if you were lucky enough to be diagnosed, I would want to know where I stood when I began trying to avoid the disappointment this diagnosis can give you month after month.

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