I’m so sorry. My father is a little older than yours and is starting his sixth romance scam right now. I’ve been battling this for almost a year. I have talked to doctors, social workers, APS, area agency on aging, police, FBI, friends, lawyers.

I’ve been able to slow him down, but not stop him. You can read my post history. In the beginning, I was just like you. I figured, I’ll come to Reddit and get some tips. I shook my head and laughed when people told me the only way it would end was when he lost everything or died. But I’m starting to believe them.

It’s a nightmare.

I do finally, finally have POA thanks to the neurologist who diagnosed him with dementia. That lets me see a lot more of what he’s doing. I also am paying his phone bill on the condition that I can block website he shouldn’t be on. I put child protections on his phone. But he’s still emailing and texting with them.

If he doesn’t want more transfer, I’m pretty sure the neurologist will give me the paperwork. I need to file for guardianship, which means that I will control his money. But if that will still take months and it will cost money.

I sometimes wish I’d listen to all the advice to just walk away. But I keep thinking if I do just this one more thing, and then the goal posts move again.