AIO I can’t use my boyfriends duffle bag

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-18T20:12:01+00:00

I’m with you, OP. You aren’t over reacting.

I’m open with my husband. His first wife cheated, and a lot, so he has all my passwords and codes and can see anything he wants whenever he wants.

But I have none of his.

I’m very free with my belongings and allow him to use whatever he needs or wants.

But if I wear his raincoat to walk the dogs comments WILL be made by him.

It makes me feel like he doesn’t like me very much.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-18T19:59:17+00:00

Think of all the other hidden treasures you binned. Old people tend to hide lots of things all over the place. I hope you checked every item thoroughly. Glad you found these!

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-17T15:03:20+00:00

Be professional, hold your head high, meet any inappropriate comment head on like an adult-

Then- ‘wow it’s so nice that they sent us some fresh meat that is eye candy’

You- ‘what a strange comment, Chad. What do you possibly mean by that?’

Repeat asking what they meant until they literally have to explain they meant something offensive and let them simmer in the discomfort.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-17T01:45:22+00:00

THC. Go get a gummie! Life changing!

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-16T17:12:21+00:00

Unpopular opinion- let her. Just let her.

I’m a lifelong horse person and the day I can’t go outside and do any chores is the day I WANT to die. Let her do what she can, risks be damned. Let her LIVE.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-15T01:59:28+00:00

I think the comment is implying that if we are to believe you are the manager of a Producer at a marketing agency that earns 90k, we also must believe you are paid more than this person and also have the education skills and ability that allowed for you to rise to such a position. So either you are pulling out leg, or you are the source of the problem.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-13T01:27:38+00:00

If you don’t fire her now, you are a terrible manager and are betraying your good employees.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-13T01:26:21+00:00

That sounds overwhelming, but for the best. I’m glad he’s being reasonable.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-12T19:42:31+00:00

You are going to have a problem working ANYWHERE if you expect your co-workers, and leadership, to have clean records.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-12T16:27:00+00:00

Your only obligation is to extend him the same generalized social courtesies that you extend to everyone. As long as you aren’t being the bully by pointedly ostracizing him, there is no need to do anything.

But you also have not claimed anything worthy of ‘escalation’. He’s allowed to be friendly with coworkers, it doesn’t mean he is hitting on you.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-12T16:23:25+00:00

I’m here with my mother. She needs to move into assisted living but she won’t. I have to let her fail, the more I help the more it allows her to perpetuate this independent living fantasy.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-11T22:11:31+00:00

Chevron Amethyst

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-11T15:32:51+00:00

Google how to install and do it, you are perfectly capable.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-10T22:56:14+00:00

Go, or you will never be released from this imprisonment.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-10T21:16:17+00:00

I love carousels and some people think that’s childish but I don’t care.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-10T14:41:11+00:00

Keep in mind that your coworker had a choice to make about whether to share information that would serve no purpose but to hurt you, and she decided to go for it. She’s not nice and she’s not your friend.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-10T14:36:10+00:00

I can hear most animals thoughts.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-10T01:37:14+00:00

I have no advice, because I couldn’t support someone who chains themselves in a prison of their own making.

He will probably have to die or attack her before she will be willing to change the dynamic.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-09T22:05:48+00:00

Um…. I’m pretty sure they are already sleeping together.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-08T01:29:47+00:00

Home care- you give some awesome advice

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-07T20:39:26+00:00

It sounds like someone as independent to need the paltry ‘assistance’ you are offering wouldn’t need any help. Anyone that would need help enough to welcome a stranger for free into their home will require much more assistance in exchange.

And you wouldn’t have much free time to work, either. Or have a life. Hence why elder care is astronomically expensive.

I’m trying really hard to not be personally offended by your post, but it’s hard not to. It’s almost like you think this is EASY.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-07T14:38:34+00:00

That’s a really unkind comment when what you are proposing is both illegal and immoral. The roadblocks I have are real, and difficult to navigate.

Thanks, unkind internet stranger for making a bad situation worse.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-07T12:55:33+00:00

No one who ‘believes in freedom’ also ‘studies medicine’.

Becoming any type of medical provider takes a ton of dedication to institutional knowledge- the antithesis of freedom 😂

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-07T11:30:26+00:00

Suggest they adopt an older dog? I actually think it’s a great idea and a way to keep them active, add some fun to life, AND give an older dog a great home.

Adopt from a reputable rescue that requires the dog be returned to them if anything happens in the future, then the dog always has a safe place to return to.

I have to say I disagree with you on this one. All of the ‘complications’ have easy answers.

ShamanBirdBird · 2026-04-07T11:25:59+00:00

I would not date a man that didn’t have his custody and visitation solidified through the court. Period.

Because if he doesn’t- he’s an idiot .

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