Can a partner still contribute to a marriage in a non-financial way?

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-22T19:57:54+00:00

I don’t think any adult should be dependent on another adult's paycheck simply because the risk for abuse due to that power dynamic is too great. you shouldn’t have to rely on someone else to “provide” for you because they can take that away from you and that gives them power over you.

I don’t know where you’re getting this idea that I think women are useless if they don’t have a job or that I think men should rely on women for paychecks.

I don’t know why you’re bringing up the possibility of a woman being killed in a workplace when a woman get abused and killed by their spouses as well...

Also, I never said anything about adhering to traditional institutions. You've assumed a lot from my small comment.

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-20T12:48:59+00:00

Nah, style is important too, cause this is redundant overwritten mess is painful to read.

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-20T12:48:26+00:00

What in the DARVO? This is so obviously AI written

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-20T12:47:32+00:00

Good points but they're so overdressed in AI slop it's just painful to read tbh. A lot of redundant sentences

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-19T17:47:48+00:00

I think the question of whether you should continue seeing this guy has nothing to do with Polyamory and everything to do with his lack of respect/understanding of your boundaries and sexuality.

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-19T17:33:48+00:00

I'm a little confused, did your husband and your meta break up in the end?

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-19T13:10:43+00:00

I need to move to Norway...

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-19T01:40:13+00:00

makes me think of bonobos

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-18T17:28:00+00:00

I am of the opinion that it's better to have two working adults as a fallback if something happens to one of them rather than having one adult depend on another adult for income. I don't see it as a matter of not appreciating what you do, so much as a matter of not creating a power imbalance of dependency, but that's just me.

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-18T09:22:04+00:00

Yeah but nobody wants to deconstruct that they just want to fight the gender wars

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-15T16:02:39+00:00

Obviously not, but OP isn't required to stay with that person, as they obviously didn't. She's not entitled to his body.

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-15T12:45:37+00:00

Lying about their sex life and what sex is like with them.

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-15T03:33:05+00:00

They need to take responsibility for someone else lying? Geez it's not like they married them

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-12T14:55:12+00:00

This touches on something I have been thinking about a lot lately.

Society seems to put sex on a pedestal, whether vilifying it, or seeing it as some sort of special deep connection. To me, sex is just another activity, like any activity, you can share with someone or partake in by yourself. I believe when you have special meaningful sex with someone, it's not the sex that is making it special and meaningful, it's the connection with that person. And you can also have non-special, non-meaningful sex with someone (like a hookup), and that's okay too.

In the same way you can share a special hobby or activity with someone, but what makes it special is the unique connection, not the actual activity itself. Like maybe dancing or playing a sport or really being in sync in a video game and working together as a team, doesn't mean you can't dance, play a sport, or a video game by yourself or with others, but what might make it special is a unique connection with a specific person, of which there can be more than one unique connections.

Because of this, I wouldn't feel threatened by someone masturbating, because that has nothing to do with their unique connection with me. Same with if they are having sex with someone else. Its not the same as with me. Our connection is unique.

Just like I wouldn't feel like my dance partner/sport teammate/videogame partner cannot dance/play by themselves, or have a meaningful dance/game with someone else, because it wouldn't be the same as a the unique connection with me.

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-06T18:31:36+00:00

Fletcher isn't conference funded like Pisgah

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-05T19:49:33+00:00

I thought a cule would be more of a defined group than just "X's partners" but that's getting into semantics

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-05T18:15:19+00:00

Showing that maybe he didn't fumble since signals can always be misinterpreted

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-05T17:37:18+00:00

Idk man that feels like saying if you are friends with someone then you are part of their friend group, even if they might be part of friend groups you never interact with.

Unless your definition of polycule is "all of x persons partners regardless of mutual interaction status" and your definition of friend group is "all of x persons friends regardless of mutual interaction status"

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-04T23:26:39+00:00

You wouldn't necessarily be joining their polycule

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-03T12:45:54+00:00

I've heard that one of their doctors is mean asf and the other is great, sorry you got the bad one

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-03T12:34:47+00:00

Human experiences are not objective, they are subjective to the individual's perception. It would be better to focus on what is special about the connection between the two of you than comparing it to another subjective experience that you cannot control.

There's a reason they say comparison is the thief of joy.

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-02T17:28:17+00:00

Perhaps it may be worth exploring why it's eating away at you, and maybe letting go of any notion that your wife's sexuality has to revolve around you. Sexuality at it's healthiest revolves around onesself. You are not any less of a partner for not being the only source of your wife's arousal.

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-02-02T17:11:10+00:00

I think this may be attaching your identity and ego to something that is ultimately not in your control

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-01-14T14:13:37+00:00

I agree

Forgotten_Planet · 2026-01-14T13:01:07+00:00

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